WITH YOUR RUDE @SS (Gay Gossip Edition)

I told y’all this series was coming back. And here it is. If you are new to this series, here are the previous blogs in it With Your Rude @ss (Short Hair Edition) & With Your Rude @ss (Big Bust Edition). Today’s entry of this is about something that many don’t think is rude, but it is. 

What makes it okay ask if someone is Gay? The only good reason I can think of is if you are looking to have a romantic rapport with that person. If that is not the case, What business is it of yours?

I don’t understand asking anyone that. I have had many people ask me if a friend, relative, neighbor, church member (current & former), & celebrity is gay. I used to avoid answering. Now I am pretty rude about asking me that. Oh I ask the inquirer; “Why?” “Do they want to date them?” “Do yoi know someone who is interested?” and of “Does this question make the inquirer a better person?”. Oh and afterwards I give them a hearty “Mind your business” or “Quit being nosy & gossipy”. Sure they think I am a jerk for my response but to me they are being a jerk for asking me about somebody else love life.

People are the worst about asking about celebrities. This morning I saw numerous tweets flooding my timeline and comment of several FB posted article wondering about Queen Latifah’s sexuality. Just last month a relative ask if we knew if Maya Angelou was a lesbian. I told that relative I wasn’t checking for her because I was not trying to date her. I then explain my stance on worrying about if people are hetero or homo is their sexuality (Yes, I got a “Why the heck did I ask you" look that I get all the time from my family) From the non-famous to famous talk show hosts, people are always wanting to know which celebrities are gay. There is oddly amazing to me.

It is amazing to me because of all the things humans think are right or wrongs someone’s sexuality is the only thing man thinks is okay to blatantly ask about. No one ever just unashamedly ask if someone is fornicating, had an abortion, murdered anyone, is an adulterer, or is a spousal abuser (which it's rude to ask about also) just because. Then why is someone’s sexuality thought to be up for regular discussion. It’s rude and if you ever ask me expect for me to give the answer you want. Stop asking that rude mess. It’s not our business.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Choosing to be Straight. What is the Problem?

Let me make this clear, this blog is not about is homosexuality wrong or right. This blog is not about is sexuality a choice or innate. If you know me personally you know my views on homosexuality. I’ll never discuss that in a public blog. MY CHOICE!!! Also, under No terms will any Sexuality Hate or Bashing will be accepted here or any other blog posts that OUTSPOKEN_DIVA writes or has written. Now, That is Wrong!!!

Anyone remember Antoine Dobson from YouTube Viral Video (Hide Your Kids, Hide you Wife) Fame. At one time he lived his life a gay man and recently articles have popped up about Dobson now choosing to live life as straight man. He has a girlfriend and they are expecting a child. Well, the LGBT community is upset with Dobson (Dollar to Donuts, there are some Heterosexuals who have said some things also but I've seen reports on the LGBT being upset).

I remember when I first heard someone get upset with Gospel singer Donnie McClurkin when he said that God had delivered him from the sin of Homosexuality. The person felt like McClurkin was lying because he was clearly gay. I also know a few people, hetero & homo sexual waiting for a story to contradict McClurkin. Nothing provable has been found. That was about five years ago. So now to hear that the same behavior continues does not shock me anymore.

I can’t understand why get upset with how a man (or a woman) wants to live his (her) life. If he is not hurting anyone (You know saying this publicly but behind closed doors, doing the exact opposite.) with how he lives his life. What is the problem? In my opinion, just like saying homosexuality is wrong is wrong and hurtful it is wrong and hurtful to tell someone that they cannot ever be heterosexual if they were once homosexual. No One can prove that Sexuality is a choice or innate. It is tried but still not proven. I personally know people who feel they were born gay and people who chose to be gay.

So what is wrong with choosing to be straight?

I’ll say it. Some gay people rally against bullying of gays can be very bullying to heterosexuals. They want compassion for their rights to love l but lack compassion for others right to love. They want to rally for their right to live but trample on other’s right. Hate is not limited to one sexuality.

Also I don’t want to hear the excuse about this does not help those who are closeted gays. Shut Up! Every gay person in the world could come out in the open, and it will still be one in the closet. Someone else's choice to live their life should not dictate how anyone else lives their life. If it does, it something wrong with the person who lets that dictate their life.

Like I said earlier unless anyone who claims not be gay, straight, gay anymore, or straight anymore, is lying and they are double a life that will (and it will) hurt them and/or other, they should live how they want. Don’t wag a finger at anyone until they contradict what they say and live life as a hypocrite. And even then, that finger should come from a place of love. The same love that we all want but for some odd reason can’t seem to give.

Congratulations to Antione Dobson and his Girlfriend. Praying for a healthy baby for them.

 

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms

WITH YOUR RUDE @SS (Short Hair Edition)

Was at home and I caught a popular daytime talk show and they said there are reports that since Emma Roberts, (from Harry Potter fame) cut her hair, the media outlets have been speculating about her sexuality. Some have been Bold enough to ask if she is a lesbian and was that her way of coming out.

JUST BECAUSE SHE CUT HER HAIR. Daaaaang, That is RUDE!!!

The funny part is this is so common it is not funny. A character from my favorite web series "Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl" ask the main character was she gay because she did the "big chop".

There are many lesbians who have Long tresses. Portia Di Rossi & Sarah Gilbert are two I can think of. Michelle Williams, Pink, & Halle Berry have short hair and they are straight. And those are Just the celebrities. 

Oh I know the non-celebs with short hair are asked this ignorant question mightily. Where did this come from? Send it back! Hair length is not indicator of sexuality. It's the indicator that the want or need for short hair warranted. "You cut your hair. Are you Gay"?

Ooh let that RUDE crap die quickly.

How about "You just asked me if I was Gay because I cut my hair. Are you stupid"?
I'm sorry, I'm now being Rude. 8D