Time for me to give a *slow clap* to the men that will flirt and then ask for your number and/or a date afterwards. I am so tired of honing my flirting skills at this point at life. Oh, my flirting skills are on point. I know the difference between being flirting and being polite.
A male strange opens and hold the door for me at a restaraunt. I say "Thank You". He replies "You're welcome". He's just being polite & gentlemanly. (Side Note: If the lady Never engages you at the start or at least after she said "Thank You" at the door, STOP) Nothing more, durn sure can't be less. But if that same male stranger says, "How are you"? Then I in turn say "I'm good. And yourself"? And he says, "Great, now that I've seen you". Now, we've hit the compliment & flirting zone. Okay if he leaves it there, I am cool. Leave a compliment right there and move on. But he keeps small talking while waiting on the table and/or he is sitting near and says "That meal almost looks as good as you" when it comes to the table. He is no longer just being nice, he's full on flirting. I 'm cool with that. I might flirt back or blush & smile. (Again If she didn't respond to your previous attempts, this can make you look thirsty. She'll think you are harassing her. Read her body language, fellows.) Now, here is where my frustration may begin. End of the evening, he or I are leaving and he doesn't make a move. This is when I feel like I am sharpening my flirting skills, yet again. Most people would think I could have slipped him my number, if I was interested. And to these people I say, "I will not". He initially approached me. Why am I finishing his courtship job? If he was so interested, he should see it all the way through.
*sigh* The story of my life for the past two and a half years. I'm so tired of being flirted with without being asked out in the end. It's so old, now. Remember little buddy from the big box store by my sister's house (His story is HERE), I have decided he's just a nice guy at this point who saw a friendly face way across the grocery section (I was in canned vegetables when he approached me that night. He works in Frozen foods) to have conversations with whenever he see it, now. But it's not just him, trust me. My friends and colleagues have similar stories.
This is why I salute the men that see their flirting engagements all the way to date and/or number. Some of you guys don't get how unnerving it is to feel like your conversational time have been wasted. That is breath I could've saved. I don't understand doing all of that then not want to further engage with the person past that point. Were you bored or lonely and just wanted someone to entertain you? Are you married or dating someone and decided not to deceive this woman. If that is the case, Thank You!!! You guys can't be shy. I mean hello, you've done all this verbal teasing so, how can you be bashful.? Don't be like one of the guys in the video getting upset in the end because the lady flirted with another guys. All that time wasted and you could have already had a phone call and plans for a date by now.
Oh Gosh, Am I the Real Pied Piper of hopeless dudes? I might be okay with be being single, not married but I do date. I mean how else will my future husband find me. We have to go on at least one date.
I have a theory. With the dating rules being screwed up & shallow at this point, too many guys feel like they don't have to follow through. Many of these guys chase women to the point right when they think they can flip it and they do. "Oh well if she is interested in what I put out there, she come chase me" Like they are testing our worth. Sorry bucko, that is only some women that fall for the ol' switcheroo. Many of us are leaving you high and try as you are leaving us.
Again I understand the difference in being polite & flirting. Polite is asking me if I knew a certain brand of laundry detergent is good. Flirting is you & I at the sample counter and you offer to "buy" me dinner. We laugh and then introduce ourselves to one another. Now, I would expect that before we leave the counter you would ask me out. Am I expecting to much?
And to the guys who flirt and do make a move, take this hat nod in stride. I like what you do and sadly it has to be a part of things that catch my attention. But I am still watching for a shoe that might drop.
The dude in my last blog posted flirted and made a move that was was really aiming for me to just be a one night stand/weekend fun chick. It's just the next move, not sing "To be Loved" loudly time.
