Nothing is Taboo on the Internet (I Blame Pop Culture)

We talk about Everything on the World Wide Web. I said We. So, I am included also. Pop Culture is to blame. Pop Culture makes us feel like we have an opinion about all that every is & was. Pop Culture encourages us to talk, share & post it all.

Earlier this week articles & blog post popped up about a teacher who posted to Facebook this picture

with the caption,

“One of my students came to school today with her hair full of knots, lent, and ridiculously tangled,” she wrote. “So my classroom became a salon. I refused to let her leave school today the same way she came.”

Articles also say When she finished, she says the little girl took a look at herself and said, “aww, so pretty” at the sight of her new ‘do.

*sigh* I'm not upset with the teacher for doing the child's hair. I don't know why the child came to school with unruly hair. Her parent may have arthritis. My mother does and that is why I wore my hair in one ponytail most days going to school until 5th grade. The child might be "tender headed" and the parent just could Not deal with it this morning. The child could have been in a fight before school. The teacher didn't give her a relaxer and change the texture, I'm okay. Unlike the popular reasons for talking about this classroom situation, that's what I am going to speak on.

I'm not okay with her posting her deed to social media. I said it on Twitter. As far as I am concerned, she is as bad as anyone who knew the child was walking around with uncombed, lint filled, did nothing, and talk bad about the child. My problem is she still had something to say, publicly. If she was going to do a good deed, do the deed, and Shut Up. What if it was a parent that was not physically able to comb the childs hair. See your child's hair combed, Thanked the teacher and find out she had all this to say. Now a whole huh bub could be started because of the posts tone.. If the teacher's intent was to make the child look nice, then just let it be so. Whether it was on a private page or not someone saw it and it's being talked about. The teacher, the child's hair and the parent(s) are being talked about. Should it have been.

Alright, on my way to talk about the Teacher and the hair deed, I came across this article, "Woman’s Instagram Post Proves Men Are Lying When They Claim to be “Too Big for Condoms”.

Yes, a popular Swedish singer Zara Larsson went on Instagram and proved to men and women that a condom will fit every man's penis.

This time last year y'all were doing it for the Vine, this lady is doing it for the 'Gram. LoL I get it. Maybe that will help someone tell a guy with lie that they won't be having sex with them. Safe Sex or No Sex. But she felt that needed to turn to social media to get the point across. WoW Is it me or did you think about latex knee highs when you saw this? LoL

I told y'all last year I learned that, Pettiness is subjective. With the invention of this big party called social media, no subject is off limits. Pop Culture mixes the punch bowls. It is up to us whether we are going to drink from them or not. It is up to us to decide how much we drink. I just want people to drink of the punch responsibly. Be mindful that just like you felt like you should talk about something in your way somebody else might feel they can talk about your way of talking about that same topic. Is it worth it?

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

I Like PBS

If you follow me on Twitter, you probably know that I do my share of hash tagging. I also participate in a few trending topics (TT). Well Saturday night I saw #BlackGirlNerdDatingTips and I had to tweet my tips. Well one of my tweets was “If you haven't watched PBS since you stopped watching Sesame Street, give me the remote & never return #BlackGirlNerdDatingTips”.  A few people retweeted my tweet and even a few guys admitted to still watching PBS. Well this blog topic was born.

I remember during the 2012 Presidential debate and everyone was up in arms because Mitt Romney said his plan to defund PBS. I remembering going to Twitter (Oh you think I’m frank & candid here on Blogger. On Twitter, I don’t hold anything back.) to complain at anyone complaining about defunding PBS when most of them haven’t watched it since childhood. I also said if they cared about PBS start watching it. I don’t want to hear it. My family got cable when I was 3 in the 80’s. I watched both "Sesame Street" & "Pinwheel" (aging myself) on Nickelodeon. So no excuse. People don't watch because it's not pop culture TV. Well Downton Abby is pop culture (No I don't watch that particular show. Ran into my "Boardwalk Empire" & "Treme" watching), but most of it's programming is not.  How many of you reading this actually watch PBS? Wait, how many of you watch PBS other than the children’s programming with your little one(s)?

Well I like watching PBS. After I left the “Sesame Street”, “Reading Rainbow” & “Mr. Roger’s Neighborhood” Stages, there is where I discovered a show called “Degrassi Junior High” that then turned into “Degrassi High”. It was about some of characters that are now parents, guardians, teachers & principals on the current Degrassi: The Next Generation (I have teenage niece). I also used to watch a wonderful cook named “Justin Wilson”. I gar-on-tee I could smell his cooking through the screen. Then I graduated to "Austin City Limits" (music showcase), & "Great Performances" (plays & musical). Now they also have PBS World (I think it’s just World now) so my viewership has really increased because I also watch" AfroPop", "Independent Lens", "America Reframed", "Global Voices", & "POV." When Tavis Smiley left BET I nicely follow him over PBS to watch his talk show. When the Cambridge police falsely arrested Henry Louis Gates, I knew they didn’t watch PBS because he has a few shows ("Unchained Memories", "African American Lives", "Finding Your Roots", & "Faces of America") on there. How do I know about "Mr. Bean"? I watched him and his funny antics on PBS. That is just some of the stuff I watch on PBS. I won’t go into Saturdays spent watching "Religion & Ethics Newsweekly" & "American Masters". I also won’t talk about randomly singing The Dragon Tales & Bob the Builder theme songs because Yes, I Can!!!

Now, I never got into "Nova", "Red Dwarf', "The Red Green Show" or "This Old House". But at least fans of these show are watching PBS and like it like I do. They didn’t abandon it after “Electric Company” or “TeleTubbies” went off the air or only watch it when the teacher put “Eyes on the Prize” on during February. So yeah don’t question me for watching PBS. Watch it or Leave!

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OUTSPOKEN_DIVA The TV Show

Ok so I got a chance to catch Blerd (Black + Nerd) Chat on Twitter. I don’t get to catch it often. Tonight’s topic was Diversity in TV Entertainment. It is very fun. Thursday at 6pm CST on Twitter join #blerdchat Of course unless your life is the pop culture definition of life, you like me are not truly seen on TV. Well my mind started swirling with what would the perfect show about me, OUTSPOKEN_DIVA be like. I started laughing at the perfect possibilities.

1.       I’m Christian and not ashamed of it. Since I don’t believe in most of the cons of going to church especially a black church of course I have to show my character going to church sometime.

2.       I’m Plus Size, Wear Comfortable Trendy clothing & shoes, shapewear & stockings and still rock a relaxer 85% of the time without a weave Probably will show my awkward attack by Team Natural and lamenting to my Naturalista sister, family & friends about it (Team Natural has become a negative and Naturalista is a term of endearment for me (was supposed to write a blog but life got in the way)

3.       I’m Formally Educated and I still live in the hood So I’ll have a basic professional job. Probably the job I initially went to college for…School Nurse, more than likely in the public school system. I’ll have the neighbors who don’t understand why I don’t hang with them often and don’t understand why they like me. Oh and the occasional newspaper will gets stolen (that really happens some weeks)

4.       I’m Single, Over 30 and Comfortable with it. So my occasional dating life would be shown. Probably would have an up & down romantic rapport with some longtime pal. Give myself a When will they… storyline

5.       Social Life is occasional but it will awkward. I have to stay true to my Social life. See me get geeked up about going out, see me try to fashionably dress myself to go out, go out and depending on the situation have a good time or not. I actually do know how to line dance well. So no bumping into people off beat. Maybe goofily learning the latest one. Oh I will have a “club” name, one for the white or multi-racial clubs and one for predominantly black clubs like in real life.

6.       Oh I am a Southerner (Texas). I live in a metropolitan area.  I will not have an annoying Southern Drawl (like in the movie Jason’s Lyric (I can’t stand that movie for that reason) Wait maybe my dislike for that movie can be a topic). But I will go to a State Fair, the weather will be hot in the spring, summer, & fall and cold in the winter time and there would be some southern sayings pop up (well except "Make Groceries" (I've never made those))

7.       Yes I’ll have family & friends that will reflect my real life ones. I have a diverse group of friends (relationship status, sexuality, gender, race, wait everyone is a Christian oh but wait they are all different denominations)

8.       Avid Book reader. Probably see me with a E-reader, Tablet, or book 60% of the time. Oh and I will represent writing a blog, being on Twitter and Facebook and not understanding why Myspace is still the fad anymore. Oh and my love for Web Shows & Indie Films.

9.       Still like stuff from my Childhood in the 80’s and Teen Years in the 90’s So I’ll have nostalgia moment that lead to flashbacks

I know missed something. Now I wrote this blog so if I see my story come across a screen I want my credit. Ha Ha, Heck, I will sue. So who would watch a show about me? Does it sound fun? What would your show be about? Would I want to watch it? Talk about diversity. Humph, Pop Culture would not know how to handle my story. I’ll freak Pop Culture out. *evil laugh*

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Sexuality Questions

If you came to this blog and thought you would read something hot & juicy… Shame on you!!! Silly Nosey, Gossipy Rabbit, Shame on You!!! Now bow you head and leave my blog in Shame!!! No, your Shamefull self can stay.

Apparently, I am the ONLY person who does not look at a person and automatically assign them a sexuality. I think I am the ONLY person who does not even give it a thought about a person sexuality until they mention it or if I am interested in dating them. I date men who don’t date men so, that is important to me.

 Today I saw an article title “Janelle Monae Avoids Sexuality Questions” and I thought someone thinks she is gay. Earlier this week, I saw an interview clip asking Johnny Galecki was offended by gay rumors. He pretty much said why be offended and he knew it was not true (I agree). On R&B Divas Reunion, Wendy Williams asked more than once &to more than one Diva if they knew if Kenny Latimore was gay. I was getting pretty ticked off because his sexuality did not have anything to do with the show. Wendy Williams still got a no so, her questioning was for naught.  All summer long folks have still been wondering if Raven Simone came out the closet with a tweet about gay marriage. I am so over this.

 

I think people are obsessed with who is bisexual, gay, or straight.  Why does that even matter? Janelle Monae is still a phenomenal singer. Who she sleeps with is not our business? Johnny Galecki knows who he is. He’s does not need to be getting angry over someone’s stupid lie about him. Before the Internet became the gossip vehicle it is, the street have been saying Kenny Latimore was gay. That is not a new rumor. If we pick apart every everyone’s, including Raven’s, tweets and read them into their lives well there is no telling what kind of freak show we are all living.

 

I think everyone should just live their own lives. Stop wondering what the next person is doing or who they are sleeping with. I just don’t understand asking about who someone is or is not sleeping with. That is their business. Maybe people who ask these questions are not being run of the mill nosey but like me and asking because they want to date or even just have sex with them. Maybe like me they think that is important in dating someone.  What? No! ONLY I do that too. OK! *smile* Oh well. Regardless stop being nosey. Stop stereotyping people and assigning them a sexuality. I don’t care what you saw them do or heard them say, how you saw or heard them do or say it, who they were with, and/or where they were. Stop minding their business and mind you own. The tabloid industry just cussed me out for saying that. I guess if each every person did that, they would Die!!!

I wonder when I walk in or they look at how I carry myself do people assign a sexuality to me. Like I give three craps. I’m not going to be offended. I know my truth. Get to truly know and you’ll know it because I refuse to live a lie. Maybe briefly act out one out for kick and giggles but not live one.

Just leave people alone!!!

 

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms!!!