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VOTE

In my opinion Non-voters Should Not Complain and Whine when things are not going the way they think they should. If the Affordable Health Care Act is repealed, a non-voter does not get to complain. If Homosexual marriage becomes Federal Law, a non-voter should not be in protest. If all clinics that provide abortions close or taxes increase for the wealthy and decrease for the poor and middle class a non-voter's voice is one that should not be heard.

Want to be heard, It starts in the Voter's Booth.

I don't care who you vote for. I just care that you VOTE

IDK...A Very Random Blog

Have you ever thought about the random conversations you have with strangers? This past weekend I did and I had to laugh to myself. On top of people telling me to smile (my "blank/nothing is going on look" draws concern somehow) all the time, random people will strike up a conversation with me. Yes, I am friendly most times. Rarely do I give them the "shut up" look.

This past Friday I was at a happy hour (yes, where shapewear needs to be enforced) and since I couldn't find my brown clutch bag that matched my outfit, I just went with my coin purse that has my keys & pepper spray hooked to it. I do it a lot. I carried that more than I did on campus during undergrad. I mean it was where my ID and essentials go everyday, so thought nothing of it. Well this man standing by the table asked me was that mine. I said yes. He then started talking about how bold I was to bring it inside. I had to tell him that it was hooked to my small purse & keys. Then he asked did I ever use it and hoped I did spray it in there. I finally said only if forced to. His buddy walked up and that was the end of that.

I know very random. Maybe he was sprayed before and had a fear of the stuff. Maybe that was the first time he had ever seen pepper spray indoors. Bless his heart!!!

But thinking over that lead me to think about all the conversations that are had with strangers. Along with the many memories that flowed. My mind started asking questions. What have I learned? What have I taught? How many strangers have I spoken with? How many should I have spoken to? How many will I speak to in the future?

Of course I didn't know the answer. Life's end might. And if it doesn't, "Oh Well". Just something else random in our "meaningful lives".

Oh Yeah Enjoy the Poem. Heard it a few years ago on Myspace. I like it!!!

A Fashion Rant & Announcement

Announcement 1st: I am going to Stop investing girdles & shapers and invest in cheap tight fitting dresses and let it all hang out! Because apparently it is the fashionable thing to do.

Now the topic of this rant is not a surprise. I am tired of seeing women in tight fitting clothing without the proper foundation garments. This is not just to the Plus Size community. This is for Any woman who has an extra pudge on their body somewhere. It's like woman are not even trying to look decent.

Foundation garments are bras, girdles (capris, long leg, boxers, & brief panties, thong), shaping slips, shaping camisoles, waist cinchers, bustiers, and corsets. Foundation garments also come in firm, moderate, and light controls. They help you look smoother in your clothing. They can be bought so many stores that sell clothing & lingerie, from Walmart to Neiman Marcus.

I went out last night for happy hour and I literally saw a woman who I actually thought was pregnant. She wore about a 10 dress size, minus the tummy. But the way she dropped it on the dance floor, I knew clearly she could not be pregnant. She was wrong for wear a dress for tight it hugged around her stomach like that. Her boots were banging though. She was not the only one. Everywhere they is some woman who could look smoother is her clothing. Even on TV!!! I was watching Say Yes to the Dress and many times I wonder why are they trying on dresses without all their undergarments. Then, I see some once they are picking up their dresses and some getting married and I think "Cute Dress but she needed a girdle".

I'm not a fan of tight fitting clothes. I know I go a little extreme to some. I wear a moderate hold brief under my jeggings. Bought some and knew immediately which kind of shapers it needed. I spent more in foundation underwear in a year than I do in shoes. It is something I don't cut corner for. And don't let me see a sale. I'll go broke trying to buy more than one color or style. The only thing I want hugging on my body are the arms nice looking man. LoL

I've been wanting to say this for a while. Others including experts and style watchers have talked about it. It needs to stop. Come on Ladies, Let's Looks Smoother!!!

Paddling Not Abuse

Well in Springtown, TX (Parker County) two teenage girls were paddled by a male assistant principal for wrong doings. The school had permission by the parents but by school policy the male was not suppose to spank the females. If that is policy then I agree. Also the girls' paddling resulted in bruising on their bottoms. Most men have the ability to hit harder than women. So yeah that was a terrible thing. But the reactions from this is worse.

I'm a Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child depending on situation type non-parent. And to hear people complaints about corporal punishment is lost on me most times. Because some of these complaints are reaching. One woman said that the Male assistant principal paddling the Girls was teaching Boys It's Okay to hit Girls. WHOA! That is a bit much, IMO. I can't agree with that.

Okay so a father shouldn't spank his daughter if warranted because it teaching domestic violence is right. UMM NO! Parents are EQUALS. Parents & Children are NOT EQUALS. If a child or adult have that attitude or mindset, I think an equality lesson needs to be taught. That what wrong in so many cases. Children think they are adults' peers. Many adults have supported this attitude. Adults have the right to discipline (Not Abuse) children. Spanking is a form of discipline just like time out. Adults don't have the right to spank other adults. Children don't have the right discipline children. I think that needs to be taught to everyone. Because if a male spanking a female child is teaching a male child to hit females we are in a world of trouble.

I don't want a man that abuses women to use that as a lame excuse for his actions. "My dad spanked my sister". "But did he hit your Mom a*k*a his equal"? "No"! "Exactly! Now Shut up with that Crap!"
Stop this attitude. I want hear that again. But Some feel spanked children grow up to be more aggressive adults. I know some people who can shoot that theory to hell.

Unfortunately those young ladies were bruised & the policy was not up held. But that should have stayed the focus of this case, instead spouting opinions about corporal punishments and domestic violence.

Male assistant principal shouldn't have spanked the female students because of school policy and the female students wouldn't have been bruised. Nothing more needed! But that my opinion, what's yours?

So Your Child Has a Tattoo...

Okay a news report came out about a parent getting arrested in North Texas because their child had received a tattoo. The tattoo artist was arrested also. The tattoo the children received was not her first tattoo, it's her third.

I say they should be arrested. I don't understand it is unlawful for anyone under 18 to get a tattoo. Yet it is very visible that law is not being upheld. The rise of tattoos in high school seems unreal. I remember when I was in high school and Seniors who got a tattoo for their birthdays would hide theirs from school officials and many cases parents. I didn't know anyone under 18 with a tattoo. If they did I bet their parents didn't know. Now tattoos are as fashionable as jewelry on young people. Many parents are going with the children to get the tattoos. This is why many in this generation are not excited to grow up. They are already Too Grown!!! What's left to look forward to when you've done it already. *sigh*

If parents are arrested for giving their children under 21 alcohol, a parent should be arrest for allowing their child to have a tattoo. The law is the law.

My 9-11 Remembrance (Blame Country Thug for this Blog)

Like many Americans, September 11, 2001, is a very somber day to remember. I remember where I was when the WTC went down. I was at Lamar University in Beaumont, Tx, still a nursing major, staying in the dorms called Units. I didn't have class until 2:30 pm (Finger Spelling) so I was watching Little House on the Prairie, wondering about what to wear that day. Then my show was cut off. I don't know how long it took me to figure out what I was watching but I know I saw the 2nd tower go down as it was happening. I was in shock. I couldn't figure out if it was an accident or what.  Then I sat and listen and found out the plane had been hijacked. Then the tears flowed. I had to turn off the TV and turn a CD on, Probably the WOW Gospel 2000 CD 2 because I had that in heavy rotation back then and prayed. I finally got dressed to meet my friends for lunch.

Then the unthinkable happened on my way to class. These guys, one of them liked to call himself, Country Thug (*sigh* Yes, I'm serious) were ticked off because they heard from their friends at Stephen F. Austin & Prairie View Universities that they were canceling classes and that Lamar needed to follow suit. I was appalled. Planes of people had lost their lives and they were upset because their lazy tails didn't want to go to class. Trust me, they were not concerned about the safety of the school. The Library at the time was the tallest building on campus and it was just 6 floors. They were concern about kicking it for the rest of the day.  I had to remove myself from the scene. I was already known as a stuck-up chick from Dallas (later I found out my formal name slur was Dyme Piece) & now they were about to see that side reserved for real special idiots And well, that day was not the appropriate day. It needed to be peaceful. So, I let them look like petty fools. My annoyance grew for them when I got home after 6 and I found out about the planes crashing in Pennsylvania & the Pentagon. Intellectual Diva, one of my best friends lived in Washington D.C. I worried until I saw a map on the news. But still, there were more lives lost, and these guys, that I probably called jackals, were worried about...

A few times when I am in the airport, while being check thoroughly for WMD's, I think about Country Thug and his pals (Oh my first name is of Sanskrit origin so I get "randomly" checked 3:5 times. being black helps sometimes). I hope by now they see how petty their concerns were compared to the lives and resources that cost this country. I hope they realize how Thankful they should have been that day that it was not them. I hope they realize how Thankful they should've been that the only concern of theirs was that school didn't close. So here's to all the "Country Thugs" out there. Hope you have a different outlook on September 11, 2001.

Remember 9-11

Never Shall Forget

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Looking for OutSpoken_Diva through an Angled Lens

I had a dream last night that my Life was a Reality show. Yeah, my life as a reality show. Every time it switched scenes it would be a camera lens turning. I guess to represent the movement to another angle of my life. Most of the show was my life this summer up to this past weekend. For some weird reason I still live my life similar to my undergrad days. 90% work to 10% social in the spring, fall, & winter but 50% work to 50% social in the summer. Especially my birthday I party hard (my version of hard) in the summer. Brunch with the besties. Friendly outings with the church pals. Small concerts to let's try this Restaurant for dinner. It all is punch up a notch in the summer and slows up some by mid September. Guess my show would be a Boring Adult version of Jersey Shore.  But my dream was just a manifestation of a comical angle that many view me as. "Being the Good Girl" they think they see.

I am a Staunch believer in the quote "What others think of me is Not My Business".  I don’t care what people think as long as it’s not a lie that I can’t or refuse to make true. *smile* People don’t have a heaven or hell to put me in. So why care about thoughts. Words and deed matter to me.

If you meet me outside the Internet you going to view me as a "Quiet Good Girl" or a "Stuck up B-Word" when first meeting me most times. Very few times do people view as a "Cool" or "Wild" chick at first. It is because I sit and meet people with a greeting and nothing much else. I like to watch people before I truly interact with strangers. I like to see how you would treat someone else so I know what I maybe looking forward to with you. I accept both views because I am Both Views and So Much More.  Most people afterwards move away from those views after really meeting me. Few still think of me as the chick they first met. If they still see me as a "Stuck up B-Word" is because our personalities & lives have not & will not ever see eye to eye. More than likely I said something they didn't agree with and well... I am still a "Stuck up B-word". Again Not My Business!!!

The funny people are the ones who still think of me as "The Good Girl". I can do all kind of stuff around them and their view of me will not change.  My grandmother's friends have seen & heard me have an argument that includes language that is very vulgar with someone and those little old ladies still think I am one of the Best Citizens in the world. Most of one of my best friend's families (except one of her aunts and as of this past weekend, her mother) think as long as I'm around every thing is in order. Nothing "wrong" is happening. Case in point a few years ago we went out one Saturday and didn't get to her place until late. While we were dressing for church, her grandmother found out that I was with her and said "Oh that was probably a very nice place" even though right before she knew I went she was about to fuss like grandmothers do (Well at least ours). They never understand when we say 4 out of 5 the things we do & places we go be it sacred or secular, I was the planner or at least invited her. Rarely is it her idea. Even sometimes when it was her idea, it was just an idea, then I made the idea an action. Reasons why my mother doesn't think the way her family does about my or my sister's friends. She says (In love because people love/like my mom) all the time "If you hang with my heathen children, you are the same heathen. Why? You Chose to hang with my heathen child".

I guess I rather them think no matter what I do I am still a good girl. It's better than the people who thought I was a good girl see me outside that angled lens and feel betrayed, like I was hiding the "real" me. Yeah, I have those also. They bother me because I have to actually tell Adults "You should not have boxed me into the frame you Thought I would fit". I should not have to. It’s Not My Business!!! I think some of those people think I'm a "Stuck up B-word" also. Oh well. LoL Who said it? Yep, Not. My. Business!

Maybe "Not My Business!!!" will be the title of my reality show. It's Catchy!

The next time someone says “Tell me about yourself” I might tempt fate and ask "Which Lens do you want to look through"? and wait for their response. I really won't care because I believe "What others think of me is Not My Business",  but it would be fun to do. LoL