It's Just a No

You are out and about and someone approaches because they are physically attractive to you. They ask you out and for your contact information. You decline. Then this person, who just expressed flattery for you, is now spewing insults because you reject them.

I'll never understand man-kind's reaction to someone's rejection. I've seen it happen among every country, culture, race, the poor, rich and socioeconomics in between. I think insults are bad but there many times a rejecter’s actions can be hurtful and even worse with violence like rape or murder.

Dang it's just a No. What is wrong with a No? Everyone is not supposed to like you. That should have been taught in elementary school. No one’s ego should be so fragile. Accept that No and go on with life. Life is full of No's why act like a vile brat because someone does not want to be "booed" up with you. *sigh* I should even have to complain about this but...

You can't get what you want. Learn that. Live it.

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Eye Shadow Allergy

Running late, I had to put on my makeup in a car. The person I'm riding with was amazed on how I did my eye makeup. She had never seen Eye Shadow Pencils. So this blog is for her and anyone interested in traditional eye shadow alternates.

Traditional eye shadow actually gives me a headache that equal sinus or migraine. My eyes and talc have issues together. I don't know why. It took me few years and to many headaches to actually notice the link. Well when the silver line on the eye lids was very popular, I bought a Jumbo NYX pencil (yeah that it's replacement) at a local beauty supply store. Going out one night I did that look and noticed I didn't have a headache. Light bulb went off and I started buying pencils in the shades I wear the most.

Then I heard about eye shadow cheat sheets from Avon. The eye shadow came on tissue sheets already in the pattern you want. You pressed the sheet on your eye lid for a minute. Viola! Eye shadow done. I Loved those. But the story of my life "The stuff I really like or love, gets cancelled". But while they were in clearance section I stocked up. If you like animal prints Hard Candy has Eye Tattoos. Never tried them myself but if you do let me know. I know Avon SHOULD bring back In a Wink Eye Shadow Sheets. I liked them.



My eyes with In a Wink Sheets (I miss that hairstyle)



My eyes with Jumbo Pencils (what happen when I wait)





All of my Jumbo Pencils are inexpensive. I think Sephora is the most expensive. I'm graduating to gels & higher price pencils like Urban Decay, one day. I have some $$ in lip & face products but not eye. Hmm, Interesting. Some people use the pencils like an eye primer.  But since I was tired of taking pain relief just to wear eye makeup I'll wear it as a shadow.

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The Breast Word to Say

Okay got to Twitter today and had a DM from a follower that asked "Did Terrence Howard talking about Oprah's t*ts offend you?". Okay Terrence Howard did an interview about an upcoming movie where Oprah Winfrey plays his wife. Well in the interview he was asked about doing a love scene with Oprah. He thinking he's being cute & flattering creatively described Oprah voluptuous body especially her bust. I was not offended about what he said. I like Howard as an actor but nothing shocks me with him. I will say I am offended with his choice of words "Those Tig Ol Bitties".

I have a previous blog about the crude & forward things ask & say to ladies with large busts. Have not read it, read it here --->  WITH YOUR RUDE @SS (Big Bust Edition) . I'll also retweet it later. People act like they can say Whatever They Want to & about big busted ladies. Howard saying "Tig-Ol-bitties" is another example. What the hell is wrong with using the word Breast. The word is Breast. Howard was in a professional setting why didn't he use the word Breast. Too busy being cute, he basically reduced his view of his co-star from a compliment to a insult. Sometimes it is the words we use not the tone that can change a meaning. Since that was an interview, he should have said that compliment in another way. Makes me wonder how he described her in private with his friends. I hope he does better in future interviews not because it's Oprah because she is a woman.

Hope that answers that follower's question. And don't use t*ts again. Makes you look classless. *muah*

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Can I be REAL for a Moment?

Calling someone Fake does Not make you Real
What's Real for me maybe Fake for you and vice versa

It's sad to me, I have to say this to the Adult age people. As a  person who has been described numerous times as being "Fake" because I only LIVED MY LIFE, MY WAY,  I am tired of "Keeping it Real". I am tired of everyone "Keeping it Real". In my Opinion Society's Realness is flawed in a major way.

Explain to me why "Being Real" has to be loud, abrasive, hostile, and rude. Explain to me why "Being Fake" is the exact opposite. Now days nothing Classy, Nice or Gentle is Real. Think back to anything you or someone else described as "Real". Rap music is Real. Fighting on Reality TV is "Real". War is "Real". Now let's think on what have we heard that is "Fake". Speaking Grammatical English so "Fake". Taking Romantic walks in the park is "Fake". Someone giving words of advice or wisdom is "Fake". 

Excuse my fake butt thinking but I thought "Being Real" was "Being True". Whatever a Human being is doing it is Real. If that is how they truly are, they are not being fake. I don't understand how other people can dictate what is Real or Fake for another person. I definitely don't understand why the anger because someone else is not living their life as you are. The Gangster can't tell the MBA Executive he's fake just like the MBA Executive can't tell the Maintenance Man he's real. Whatever is Your True Story is Your Realness. What is not is Your Fakeness. And since nobody truly knows anyone else's whole story, just what is told and what is thought to be seen, nobody is the judge of another's Realness & Fakeness.

So how about "Keep it Real" or "Being Fake" stop. How about "Keep it Truthful" or "Being Yourself". Better yet, "Mind Your Business". If you are doing that, you don't have time dabble into who is Real or Fake. Now that's Real!

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Really Moms

Okay because it is March it means this is Women's History Month.  So let me talk my last stupid to me argument. It is the Working ~vs~ the Stay at Home mothers. I know you're saying "Diva, you're not a mom. What bothers you about that argument"? As a non-parent I can't to begin to explain to you how crazy moms who argue about this sound. Stay at Home mothers are lazy. Working mothers are selfish.

I actually grew up with argument to an extent. My grandmother was a stay at home mother. She never understood mothers who If had the choice to work. She is very vocal about it. None of her daughters are stay at home mothers. All are/were working mothers. Whether married or single, choice or no choice, they all work(ed).

I didn't even know I was living the argument until I saw both types of mothers loudly arguing on talk shows when I was a teenager. I would sit there and be amazed at the dumbness of the argument. Both sets love their husbands & children, why are they arguing over how the love is shown. The families are whole and happy. No moral or government laws are being broken. Why does this argument exist? Stop it!!!

Each mother chooses her role in her family's life. Arguing over a choice about how Someone chooses to live their life that is not harming anyone is crazy. Mother's Please stop fighting about this. Whatever is right for your family is right.

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What to Wear Under There?

What happened to wearing a slip and stockings? I feel many times I am one of the few ladies that still wears both, especially under the age of 50.

Most adults in America dress how they want to dress. I mean unless an adult is mentally challenged and can't make that decision or in an abusive relationship with restrictive rights most of us pick what we put on our bodies.

I really wish ladies would choose to wear slips again. Invariably, I get the question "Can you see through this" from some thin dress or unlined suit wearer. If the same person asks me that twice, I'll ask "Why don't you wear a slip". The excuses are the same "I get hot", "I've not worn slip since my mom made me", and my favorite "That's to many clothes to put on". I even had college pals that saw me in my slip and asked me why was wearing a teddy under my dress. They had never seen or worn a slip. The saddest part is it is becoming more and more difficult to find them In-stores, in-catalogs and online.

Also a few of the few stores that carry slips have the nerve to charge an outrageous price for them. I've seen a slip cost $45. That was nothing but the greedy devil doing that but with fewer ladies wearing slips I understand. *sigh*

Now stocking and pantyhose are not as a rarity as slips. Many still wear stockings. Beyonce wears them on stage. Broadway dancers wear them. Drag queens wear them to keep a good tuck tucked away. I can't put my foot in any dress shoe including my dress sandals with out a stocking, a knee high or a trouser sock. My feet sweat and slide up and down my shoes and get blisters with out them. I tried once at a childhood pal's wedding. I made sure I sprayed my foot spray on and had a fresh insole in my 2-1/2 inch sandal. One hour my feet were miserable in some shoes I wore in comfort with stocking. The straps kept sliding out. The insole was soaked by the end of the night. Never again have I done that again. And don't think others should too.

I see dance floors full of ladies who need on stockings. I wonder what do they think caused their blisters and corns. Why their feet hurts while doing the Zydeco Bounce? It's improper foot care & foot wear. A stocking would help some of that. They ever have the kind with the toe cut off so you can see your pedicure. No excuses!!!

Oh well, I'll continue to be a soldier in a army of the few that still wear slips and stockings. Maybe when the tides turn I'll be a General in that army. A general without my underwear showing and in dry shoe insoles. 8D Won't you join me?

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Life Decision about TV

While waiting for my next client, I was looking at The View (love that show) and one of the actors of The Walking Dead was on the couch as a guest and I found out what this popular show is about. Then it hit me being Scripted & Reality TV show everyone and every interest is represented somewhere on TV. In my opinion, if a person wants to watch TV and can't find anything of interest on TV, they're not looking hard enough or don't want to really watch TV
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It is no secret to the offline world, I watch an obscene amount of TV. I've tried to put it in hours and get embarrassed. I even have the TV on when I read and I read a least 3-4 books a month
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As I sit here doing this blog I am being reminded of the first show that identified me, the show Daria. I was a dry wit sarcastic nerd of a teenager and I dreaded talking to "stupid" people and couldn't wait to go to college where I belonged. Daria was proof it wasn't just me out there feeling like that. Since then I found myself in other TV characters. There was Joan of the show Girlfriends. The trusty advisor to her friends whose life is just a neurotic as theirs. I can name every one of my friends as a character on Girlfriends. The ill-fated show Emily Owens screamed at me every Tuesday. I am going to miss this show. Woman becomes a doctor, vying the opportunity to assist a renown doctor. She knows she's awkward, accepted it, & made it work for her and people thinks she's cool. Then her high school nemesis walks in and she has not changed. Now balance all of that. I'm good until somebody from my foundation church visits my current church and sees me and wants to talk to me and whoever is around me. I see someone from the "hood" at a restaurant or the mall, I say silent prayers like Emily Owens. Friend Request on Facebook it all makes me feel like Emily Owens. I'm gonna miss that show Emily Owens (Gone to Soon).

Those are just some. I don't think I watch anything that does not reflect me or my interests somewhere. TV is more than just entertainment, it is a reflection of life. Look at what you watch. What does a show say about you?

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