Sexuality Questions

If you came to this blog and thought you would read something hot & juicy… Shame on you!!! Silly Nosey, Gossipy Rabbit, Shame on You!!! Now bow you head and leave my blog in Shame!!! No, your Shamefull self can stay.

Apparently, I am the ONLY person who does not look at a person and automatically assign them a sexuality. I think I am the ONLY person who does not even give it a thought about a person sexuality until they mention it or if I am interested in dating them. I date men who don’t date men so, that is important to me.

 Today I saw an article title “Janelle Monae Avoids Sexuality Questions” and I thought someone thinks she is gay. Earlier this week, I saw an interview clip asking Johnny Galecki was offended by gay rumors. He pretty much said why be offended and he knew it was not true (I agree). On R&B Divas Reunion, Wendy Williams asked more than once &to more than one Diva if they knew if Kenny Latimore was gay. I was getting pretty ticked off because his sexuality did not have anything to do with the show. Wendy Williams still got a no so, her questioning was for naught.  All summer long folks have still been wondering if Raven Simone came out the closet with a tweet about gay marriage. I am so over this.

 

I think people are obsessed with who is bisexual, gay, or straight.  Why does that even matter? Janelle Monae is still a phenomenal singer. Who she sleeps with is not our business? Johnny Galecki knows who he is. He’s does not need to be getting angry over someone’s stupid lie about him. Before the Internet became the gossip vehicle it is, the street have been saying Kenny Latimore was gay. That is not a new rumor. If we pick apart every everyone’s, including Raven’s, tweets and read them into their lives well there is no telling what kind of freak show we are all living.

 

I think everyone should just live their own lives. Stop wondering what the next person is doing or who they are sleeping with. I just don’t understand asking about who someone is or is not sleeping with. That is their business. Maybe people who ask these questions are not being run of the mill nosey but like me and asking because they want to date or even just have sex with them. Maybe like me they think that is important in dating someone.  What? No! ONLY I do that too. OK! *smile* Oh well. Regardless stop being nosey. Stop stereotyping people and assigning them a sexuality. I don’t care what you saw them do or heard them say, how you saw or heard them do or say it, who they were with, and/or where they were. Stop minding their business and mind you own. The tabloid industry just cussed me out for saying that. I guess if each every person did that, they would Die!!!

I wonder when I walk in or they look at how I carry myself do people assign a sexuality to me. Like I give three craps. I’m not going to be offended. I know my truth. Get to truly know and you’ll know it because I refuse to live a lie. Maybe briefly act out one out for kick and giggles but not live one.

Just leave people alone!!!

 

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Book Review "Just Want to Testify" by Pearl Cleage

Pearl Cleage is my Favorite author. I read “What Looks Like Crazy
on an Ordinary Day” in testify” does not disappoint. Here a brief description from Publisher’s Review.

In her return to the West End, that fictional Afro-urban paradise in Atlanta, Ga., Cleage (Till You Hear from Me) has the everlovin' mysterious Blue Hamilton, "godfather" of the neighborhood where crime is unknown, pitted against the Too FineYou had a Good Run Stars✨ Five, Amazonian African-American supermodels whose arrival in town spells trouble. Serena Mayflower manages the girls, or "vamps" (vampires, get it?), who is all part of a group that has moved its headquarters from New Orleans to an island near the West End? The good thing is they drink tomato juice instead of blood, the bad is that they are looking for some appropriate stud muffins for breeding purposes. They've hired five Morehouse College men for generous compensation, but the men neglected to read the fine print in their contract and have come to Blue for help. Seems that when the vamps are done with the men, the men will be done... for good. Can Blue stop them from being done?

If Pearl Cleage ever makes any of her books that contain Blue Hamilton, I hope she cast Ving Rhames. That’s the kind of presence this blue-eyed savior has to me. You cannot come to the West End and think you can act up. Blue will handle you one way or another. Abbie, Peachy, Aretha, and of course Blue’s God sent rib, Regina returns to make this book a joy to read. Several themed questions arise in this book. What is your definition of Beauty? What is willing to give up to live the life you feel you deserve? Are there any good men in the world? Why does money change us? Is a contract a contract? If it does not involve you, do you get involved? Can you love someone enough to let them go? I read this page-turner in one night.

Give him some Blue Contacts...And he could be Blue Hamilton

I will admit when I realized Vampires were in this book (It was Pearl Cleage, I didn't read reviews), I frowned. I am Not a fan of the Vampire craze. I have never watched or read any of the Twilight or True Blood series. When I see a commercial for Vampire Diaries, I roll my eyes. I don't get it. By the time I finished this novel, I accepted vampires for this book. Vampires are not romanticized at all in the book

So check the book out and other Pearl Cleage works (There more than just Blue Hamilton books). You will not be dissatisfied. Also, who do you think could play Blue Hamilton in a movie? Leave your answers in the comments below.

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While I was Away...

Hey! Did you miss me? I know! I know! I had desktop problems. I fixed them and now I am back. If you didn’t miss me then you must follow me on Twitter and gotten twearful with my opinions on all kinds of stuff.  LoL My mind was exploding so I had to get them out. Well this blog will be catch you on my opinions.

 

The World Track & Field Championships

                David Oliver is the 100m Hurdle Champion! Yes, a member of Team Eye Candy is a Track & Field Champion.  The World Championship was weird to watch this year. After Tyson Gay, Asafa Powell, & Veronica Campbell-Brown ended up on the Banned Substances List and could not compete, the track had some New names and faces on it. It was rather annoying because those who were well seasoned athletes that knew better. *sigh* Also the whole Russia will jail Gay athlete talk was getting tiresome. By time for the Winter Olympics, I will want to scream. Looks like Russia picked the wrong time to pass such laws. Oh well they won’t be getting any World Events for quite some time.  But it was fun the see Mo Farrah repeat his performances in the long distance runs like he did in the Olympics. Brittany Reese is again long jump Champion.  And of course Usain Bolt won the 100m & 200m. Allison Felix got hurt and couldn’t compete. All and it was a good showdown. Now let me learn these new names storming up the track & wearing down the field. Oh, did I tell you a member of Team Eye Candy is a World Champion? LoL Yay, David Oliver!!!

Twerk is in the Oxford Dictionary

                I would love to tell you I was shocked but, I am not. I told you all in previous blog, when Webster’s added “conversate” dictionaries were going downhill from there. People blame Miley Cyrus, who, I think has over twerked. I just blame dummies that want stupidity to be hip. I will remiss if I didn’t give Kudos to the dictionary connected to Microsoft Word for correcting twerk & conversate. Now that is a dictionary a Diva can have faith in.

 

A Twerking Scholarship.

                *sigh* Yes the rapper Juicy J tweeted that he would give a $50,000 Scholarship to best twerker out there.  As a College Graduate with a student loan debt that looks like someone’s annual entry level salary I've decided not to be totally outraged about Juicy J's $50,000 Twerking Scholarship BUT... The $50,000 Twerking Scholarship should ONLY be offered to Strippers working their way through College. Hey "Diamond" can get off the pole because of it BUT "Average Jane" don't have practice the pole because of it. It was a win, win. Well Juicy J later rescinded his “scholarship” offer. So now “Diamond” has to stay on the pole to pay for American Lit & Chemistry this semester and my niece and any teenage girl won’t try to get on one in order to get a “free” ride to college.

 

Booty Bounce

                I don’t understand what the daggum craze about twerking is. I was a teenager in the 90’s so Miami bass music (Uncle Luke, Poison Clan 95 South & my favorites 69 Boyz) were popular sound. So we bounce our butts all the time. Who remembers the “South Dallas Drop”? I was pretty good. I could “drop” flat footed as well as in heels. Twerking is not new. DJ Jubilee (who began his career in the 90’s) started the word in his song “Stop Pause (Do the Jubilee All)”. He said, “Twerk Baby. Twerk Baby. Twerk, Twerk, Twerk”. Check out the Link!  I’m not one to play the race card but as soon as these little white girl started doing the dance… I’m tired of hearing about it. Make it stop.

 

Harriet Tubman Sex Tape

                Yes, Russell Simmons took it down. It was on YouTube. Here's an Article.  I don’t care I am boycotting all Russell Simmons’ products. Glad I don’t have a Rush Card because like all my R. Kelly Music (Yes I boycott him too. Except for Trapped In the Closet on IFC. I saw it before I saw the tape so I got invested) I would have destroyed it. How dare someone make such filth? Sex with a Slave for the most part was Rape. Then to make an important person in the fight freedom be a conniving minx duping someone made it worse. I hated it was ever made. I was subscriber to one of the actor in the video. Keyword: Was.

 

Ask a Slave

                I was very worried about this at first. It came out after the “Harriet Tubman Sex Tape”. A few of my favorite vloggers like it so, I checked it out. I Love It. It’s so tongue & cheek.  Check it out Here.

 

New Book Reviews

                Yes OutSpoken_Diva has been busy reading. My favorite author Pearl Cleage has done it again. “Just Want to Testify” is so good. Let’s just say she uses Vampires to explain the State of the Black Man and how he treats women. So look out for a full review very soon.

 

Okay I going to wrap things up. I forgot how tiring blogging could be. All the typing is wearing me out. Just kidding.

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Heels for Girls

Okay today on the ABC News actually I think it was GMA this morning; there was a story about the rise in availability of heeled shoes for young girls. Some shoes are even made for three year olds. The brand they mostly focused on was Steve Madden. They are critics out there that say the heels sexualize the little girls. My eye instantly rolled. Those critics tick me off.

If you have read any of my previous blogs dealing with children, you already know I am not a parent. I have a niece who is 17 and nephew who is 7. I have a Godson who is 8. I have several God nieces ranging from 4 to 12 and God nephews 6 to 10. So, I am around kids. I have seen the heels for girls. Actually they are not new. I think in the 80's a pair of my dress (church) shoes were low wedges. I just remember at age 8 being slightly off the ground when I was dressed up on Sundays. I don't see anything sexy about those shoes. People kill me saying those shoes sexualize girls. The shoes don't make them walk sexy. The shoes don't give definition to their calves or elongate the leg. They look like kids shoes with heels on them. I think people who think that are vulgar. The reporter showed a little putting on a pair of wedge sneakers. She said she felt taller and then commences to run around in them like any other pair of sneakers kids wear. Typical childhood behavior. So, what is so sexy about that?

I don't want to hear anything about pedophile look at young girls sexually because of the shoes. Pedophiles are sick. Some can look at a baby bundled up on a blanket and have thought. Pedophilia is about control. Girls & boys without heels on are getting molested and raped. So let's debunk that excuse.

I'm not saying that girls should wear them all time. I actually think the dress shoes should be worn for Pageant and Special or Formal Occasions only. A girl should not wear them to school everyday. The wedge sneakers can go to school but also she should wear regular sneakers also. Little girls’ knees and legs need a rest. And as for a three year in some heels, that is a bit much. Three years old children can barely walk straight in bare feet. I know they are falling down in heels. I think they should be at least school age when they wear the low heels.

Oh well, again I'm not a parent. But I know many agree with me that the shoes are not sexy. If they made those shoes in Adult sizes and sexy will not be the word that comes to mind. I get tired of every little innocent thing supposedly sexualizing children. If the girl is not dress as a prostitute, stripper, or porn star with a face full of makeup then I don't think she being sexualized. Pair those shoes with a cute cupcake dress with her hair in ponytail and hair ribbons and she'll look like Easter morning or the cutest flower girl ever been seen.

Girl Code Conversation

Spoiler Alert Warning. Did you watch the latest episode of The Game? No! Did you want to? Yes! Then Stop Reading This Now!!!

On the latest episode of The Game, the singer Ciara (she plays herself on the show) finds out her friend, Keira, slept with a guy, Blue, she slept with previously. She didn't handle it well. Keira's defense was she only Ciara only slept with him once in a One Night Stand situation. Ciara still felt that "The Girl Code" was violated and currently not speaking to Keira

Ladies, are we having the "Girl Code" conversation with our friends? I know I've touch on this subject before but it seems like it needs to be discussed in depth. What is the Girl Code? Yes, it a good show on MTV that came out ten years to late. I could have been GREAT on that show. I am talking about THE GIRL CODE.  According to Internet and me, Girl Code is the rules of female friendship Every Girl should know. Madame Noire gives a good top ten list (http://madamenoire.com/44987/girl-code-10-friendship-commandments-every-girl-should-know/). Check it out! So, we know what it is, well at least the top ten. Do you have a code? Are we actually talking about them with our friends? Do we just wait until a random subject arises and talk about them? Do you wait until a problem arises and talk about them?

I don't think You can't get mad at the offenders of the Girl Code in your life if you never say I follow these set of rules. It didn't seem like Ciara & Keira did. Girl Code seems not to be always universal. Every Friendship (actually every person) bases their codes on different set of rules. Some folks share men/women within the friendship. Some people are okay if you date their ex. I have friends that it is understood don't touch my man, exes, crushes or any man I've ever slept with (even the whack ones). Some friends I've had to "Girl Code" about a man. My friends know we're not Twins or a Singing Group and I don't want to dress alike. I don't even want to be in the same color most times. Somebody has to change. I have and I will again. I have friends who feel whatever they tell you it is okay to tell and talk about it with others in the group when they other are around. I also have a friend or two that will beat everybody involved if they find you said they said they sneezed. My friends know that if they get the disclaimer "I Bet Not Hear This Again" from me, then mums the word. No disclaimer, then it a free for all to tell.

The "Girl Code" Conversation is more than just a Do/Don't list do this to be friends with anyone. It should be an open discussion to help strengthen your friendship or let people realize we are not a good fit to be friends. A lot fights could be avoided if ladies were having a Girl Code conversations.

What is your Girl Code with your friends? Has anyone ever broken your Girl Code? Are they still your friend? Have you ever been a Girl Code Offender? Leave a comment below and then go have a Girl Code talk with your friends, even if you've had it before. You never know somebody might need a reminding. *smiles*

Happy to be in My Thirties, Today!!!

*Warning: If you watch "The Game" on BET or "How Men Become Dogs" on the Issa Rae channel on YouTube and are not current... Spoiler Alert!!!*

Popular television has made me Realize, I am Glad I am out of my 20's. I am so glad I did what 20 - 29 year olds do when they are that age. I went where they go when I was in my 20's. And mostly elated I learned what I needed to know then Because, I plan not to go back.

On the show "The Game", there are two characters Blue & Keira. Blue is a rookie football player and Keira is a former child star, trying to get back in the business. He was very attracted to her while; she was still on the fence. Along the way they have struck up a friendship that ended up with them on one random, unplanned night, having sex. Keira was virgin and Blue didn't know that fact. He finds out from another player, Malik, because Malik thought he was lying on her. Blue confronts Keira and angrily tell her they can't be friends because she didn't tell him. After finding out both side of the story, Malik explains to Keira why Blue is mad. Men supposedly don't want to be a woman's first because the woman become clinging. Keira ends up drunk and want to talk to Blue. After throwing up on his floor and his jeans, Blue and Keira decide friendship is not bad.

Now the age I am now, I don't understand why he was so upset. This is why you don't randomly have sex with anyone out having Sex Talks. Everything we do has consequences. Unplanned Sex is not an exception to the rule. It's probably one of the reasons why there is a rule. Upset because she didn't tell him she was a virgin. That's why you don't assume. Before people have sex with anyone they even think they want to have sex with better ask questions. One never know what cards could get laid out. Even as friends, he could find out. Friends talk about their sex lives. Keira is wrong also. You have one first. Nobody should be that willing to give it up that they don't think to speak up. What if it was not all that grand? And I'm going to leave it at that.

Now a web show called "How Men Become Dogs", we have Cameron who has been dumped by his girlfriend Jessica for not being aggressive enough. Cameron and his friends start taking "Dog" classes. Well while taking classes Cameron starts secretly seeing Jessica's friend, Brandy. Brandy approached him at a party and gave him her number and that is the start of their secret rendezvous. At a pool party, Jessica finds out about Brandy and Cameron. While Cameron is clearly dealing with seeing Jessica, Brandy comes by and tell Cam she talked to Jessica and basically got a go ahead. She wants to know if she is only the rebound chick also confesses her love for him. He tells her he's not sure what love even is. She tells him to get his feelings together or lose her too.

I need to know Brandy so bad. Brandy needs to be my cousin or niece so, I could teach her The Girl Code & How to know you are the Rebound. The Girl Code to date your friend's ex is simple; Don't!!! Rebound status is almost as simple. Any point when a person is willing to creep with you, a red flag needs to go up. If you try to confront your issues with the creeping and they blow you off, a red flag should go up. If they go MIA after seeing their ex, a red flag needs to wave high. Cameron is a mess too. No, he is the mess. I don't care if you trying to be a dog. Dogs got to heal too. How about before he took the "dog" classes, he should have gotten himself together. People are going to learn not to make decisions with a broken heart.

Now y'all understand why I don't miss my 20's. I saw the light bulb come on when I turned 30 but, I never thought about the lessons I have already learn. Never thought about how clear they would become when seeing others make crazy mistakes (even if they are on TV). Oh well, onto learning more from my 30's. Got a while before 40 and I bet older Outspoken_Diva is laughing at me now.

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Big Brother Pride

Okay if you "know" me offline & are a Facebook friend or "know" or "don't know" offline & follow me on Twitter, you know I am a fan of the show Big Brother. I think is the Ultimate mind screw of a game. I didn't start watching until Season 6. My mother watched it so I decided to join her and I like it. I haven't missed a year since. This year I have to say I am very proud of the show this season.

First, I am proud that they finally put an OutSpoken_Diva approved Eye Candy. His name is Howard. I have not had an Eye Candy in the house since Marvin of Season 5. He is very handsome, has a nice smile and has great muscles. Oh and he has a well worned Bible. Since Season 5 until now Season 15, I've just had watch the game for the game. So this season Big Brother did well. Howard is playing a good game so far. He's floating but some of the houseguests this season are so thick headed, it easy for him to float. According to the spoilers, I think he will strike soon.

Okay that is the fun reason to be proud of Big Brother. My second reason is not so jovial. Big Brother is not absent of controversy. I know the reason why the cooking utensils are hard plastic is because a houseguest in season 2 tried to attack another with a kitchen knife. This season racism and homophobia is some what rampant. It's just the beginning weeks of the game. They just eliminated the first houseguest out the house Wednesday. Two house guests have been heard making fun of a Chinese-American houseguest and a Black Houseguest looks. They've said that the two Black houseguest will stick together. One said to the other that the Chinese-American houseguest should "shut and go make a bowl of rice". The other one asked her racist buddy did she want a manicure in a stereotypical Asian accent.  One of the racist has also made homophobic remarks referring the only known gay houseguest. She called him a "queer". Another guy made gay slurs around the gay houseguest, while joking with him. So I think that will not be deemed as homophobic to some. The Online media has had a field day writing articles about what is heard on the feeds. The two houseguest that made the derogatory comments have been fired from their jobs. The house guest who made homophobic remarks to the gay houseguest, job has spoken out against what was said but id fire him. A former houseguest, who is also gay, wrote CBS an open letter about his disgust with the comments and not edit said comments out of the show and show America who these people really are. CBS & Big Brother did just that.  They aired the two houseguest lowly saying their horrible remarks. One of the houseguest they don't see hearing them, is the Black houseguest named, Howard. On the taped show we see him in the Diary Room giving his opinion about what he heard. He is upset and had thoughts of acting accordingly but he knew he said he would lay low and let them shoot themselves in the foot. Looks like he's been ready that well worned Bible of his by acting rationally in the game. I have strange feeling if Howard becomes HOH and they are still in the house, he will put them up on the block for just that very reason.

Big Brother knows how to make a Diva happy. I was already upset because Big Brother After Dark was moved from Showtime 2 (a channel I have) to TVGN (a channel I don't have) before the season started. Proper Eye Candy and showing houseguest for who they really are is a good thing. It is one thing to give a statement about not standing by what is said in the house. Embarrassing them around the country is another. Oh well, people are going to learn. It doesn't pay to be hateful.

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