Too Much Emphasis on Sex

Today while straightening my grandmother's hair I was listening to a rerun of the Oprah
Show on her OWN channel. The show was about two 30 y/o ladies who were virgins  and
ashamed of to be sexually inexperienced. It was sad to me. Not because they were
virgins. As a celibate individual (YES a choice I call "Being Radical" I don't regret and a badge I wear as proud as my skin) that will never be something I would do. But because they felt like they were missing out on something in life. Because they felt like they are only people not getting the punch line of a joke. Of course it came out that they had underlying control & self esteem issues that were part of the blame. In my opinion, I blame society in part because they felt like they were less than because they were virgins. You see many movies & books about the poor virgin that NEEDS to get their cherry popped before it is too late. Too late for what? Vibrators and Dildos are is so many everyday catalogs I could scream. Levitra, Extenze, and ED medicine commercials are on TV before Prime time TV. On Halloween what kind of costumes sell the most? The list goes on & on. So it's no wonder these ladies thought it was embarrassing to be virgins. Even in my recent past I have learn not to discuss my celibacy with all my friends because some do not understand. Some one minute are praising me for that decision, the next minute think I'm crazy. Then there are some to suggest I "need to get some" but when I pay attention to their lives I realize they "need to get some" actually. One friend (whose only had "sex" once) I did tell that friend to catch up to my past then suggest that to me. I have not heard that suggestion anymore from that person's mouth. What is the obsession with sex about? Why is it everywhere? Why is it made to believe that if you're not doing it, something is wrong with you.? That was something I didn't hear on the show. No one ever ask the ladies were they Sure they even wanted to have sex. Somebody needed to have that kind of talk with them. Once they handle the control and self esteem issues, then decide to have sex there are heap of other emotions that come with that. Kinda of talk that teenage girls need to have before they have sex. Many of them are not being talked to either so why am I shocked. Maybe because there was a Doctor involved. But hey the goal was "getting them some" not making sure they look before they leap. They did help one to get know her body. That is a good thing. Can't expect somebody else to know what you like of you don't. I wish the ladies well. Hope they make a decision they can live with. And the shame of being 30 & a virgin is gone. Don't want the shame to cause them to have sex prematurely.


*Talking to You in Grown Up*