Not Interested in Dating…Relatives of Friends or Friends of Relatives

Okay in the Long Distance post you already know I have dated a brother of a female member of my Chosen Family. For this blog post, she will be called Pink Red. I will never do that again. I love my friendships too much to ever put those in jeopardy again. I can honestly say that through all the drama I dealt with the demise of my relationship with J. Mac, Pink Red remained my friend. I thank her for that. Watching and listening to someone being mad at your brother had to be hard. I tried not to do it often but I still did it.

It was crazy for me to be friends with Pink Red even while J. Mac and I dated. Pink Red and I go back to high school. We talked about boys we liked, dated, etc. all the time. So not talking about her brother cause me to pull back some. The first time I felt bad about the turn in our friendship was one time I called for J. Mac and she answered the phone. I didn’t recognize my friend’s voice. She said “My Biological Name! It’s Her Biological Name”. I said “Oh hey girl. How are you doing?” At that moment I felt like an a-word. I didn't acknowledge my friend. That was crappy as hell. Luckily they were eating and J. Mac had to call me later. I had time to kick myself and sit with my emotions. One time Pink Red & J. Mac were fighting and I got a phone call and had to be questioned about something wrong J. Mac did. I told J. Mac off on his next visit. He had wronged my friend. Once the drama started, the first person I called was Pink Red. Gosh, I was so immature for doing that. She was more level-headed than me about the situation. When her brother’s name came up after the Big Fight, she never went off on me as she has. She was always a friend to me. I was even in her 1st wedding as a bridesmaid. I can admit now that I was nervous about the possibility of her brother being there. I never asked if he was going to come down but I think she sensed it because out of the blue on the way to the bachelorette party, the night before, she mentioned he was not going to be there. 

Every time J. Mac would lose my number after we were in a good place, Pink Red would give it to him and ask me can he have it. I finally told J. Mac to stop 1. Stop losing my contact info and 2. Don’t ask his sister for it because he was IMO aggravating her.  I would have told both of us off, years ago. And so far she is still a friend to me. She might read this and Long Distance and it dawned on her “Heck yeah, I was a friend to that…. Time to cut her off”. Lord, I truly hope not.

So that is why I’ll never date a relative of a friend. I take my friendships seriously. Rather share my love of a person with my friends than let it divide us.

Dating a friend of my relatives is easy. I will Never!!! 1. That guy hangs with my relative. He has issues by the association. I was born into knowing that person. This guy chose to know this person. That is a problem! (Yes, you should be laughing). 2. I will never be accused of incest because I think every one of my family members looks like monsters, especially men. More than likely their friends look like monsters to me too. 3. My family member’s friends for the most become our “friends”. So they are like family. So, that would be like incest.

So sorry guys, I’m not interested. You are friends or related to the wrong people. LoL

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms