My Friends' Exes & My Ex's Friends (Not Interested In Dating)

Every time I think I am finished with this series, another topic comes up to be talked about. This is a grey area to some but a Very Black one to me. I don't date my friend exes and my ex's friends. Bottom line is that it is a Messy situation to be in.

I've vaguely touched on this in a previous blog. My friend's exes are off-limits to me. I don't even know if any of my friends have banned me from their exes. I made them off-limits to me. I banned me. Most times most of my friend's exes are not my type. My Diva Bestie, TT, and I have the most similar tastes in men aesthetically. I remember when she introduced us to the guy who was casually dating at the time blog-named, Telvin. He was a nice guy. I kept telling her that. And Telvin was a good man... for her, not me. Also if my friends and I dish on who we date, we dish about many possible things but bedroom activities & the couple's secrets (unless mistreatment is happening). By the time the couple breakup, parts of the unsavory side of their ex are already known. Most times their unsavory side is something I can't deal with. Yeah, that is so appealing.

I pay attention to the friends of the guys I date.  Even what that my guy says about them. Why? Because there has to be a reason why they are friends. Something in this guy drew these people to his life. Watching his friends give me insight into him. Many times I have dated guys wondering how was he friends with certain guys. Some of the very things that grated my nerves about the guys I dated were the things that drew him to these. Okay, my worse boyfriend used to act obnoxious in the movies. One time when the usher came in to give the "turn your phone off" speech and he yelled, "Oh, so you're not taking drink orders". I cringed. Well, I met his friend blog-named, Shaun. He was an extremely cornball jokester except at his job. I went to dinner with just them once. I immediately saw the draw. They were so unpleasantly goofy & loud together. I never want to hear a "That's what she said joke" again in life. They had to have told them all. Also I another reason, I would never date my ex's friend, I don't want to see most of my ex's again. Again that is a mess brewing to happen. Yes, I am talking about the bad ex list. My good ex list thinks as I do on this topic. How do I know? We've talked about it.

Those portions of the Girl Code, Bro Code, & Friendship Code are safe with me. A guy has to be God-Sent for me to be that interested. Situations like this just scream Maury Povich or Jerry Springer to me.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms