It Is Hard: October Awareness 2015

I know I have not done a post on October Awareness. I will not front guys, this year, It Is Hard!!!

It Is Hard when the medical portion of the US government changes the recommended guidelines for mammograms yet again and the age gets older and not younger.

I'm just going to leave one fact here on this point. The founder of Susan G Komen, Nancy Brinker died at age 36.

It Is Hard when a panel of women on morning talk television can wear purple for Spirit Day. Some even Instagrammed their outfits. But will they do it for Domestic Violence Awareness, also? The keyword is Also.

It Is Hard when the focus on Breast Cancer rarely include male breast cancer in the conversation. Breast cancer is not typically associated with men. However, male breast cancer can occur in rare instances at any age, although it is more common in older men.

It Is Hard when TV personalities can joke about a going to jail dance because of this story. Man Dances On Top Of Ex's Roof After Lighting Home On Fire  

But what is even Harder when I look upon my FB timeline and woman I know to post this story and adds the caption "U had to be the worst Girlfriend in the World!". I've been wondering when I was going to use this accidental side eye picture I took at the State Fair this year.

Umm Ma'am, it is for you. This 25-year-old man had also gone to his girlfriend's home, "forcefully" took her keys, driven her car "recklessly" up the street and destroyed a utility pole and two fences with the vehicle prior to setting her home on fire but the girlfriend gets the blame. Knowing the person who said the "U had to be the worst Girlfriend in the World!" statement, this had been a slip of the tongue, well finger. I know it had to be.

It Is Hard when the other signs of breast cancer do not talk about as much as the lump. Many do not ever get a lump.

• Persistent itching and the appearance of a rash or small irritation similar to an insect bite
• Sharp pain in your breast
• Vaginal pain

These can be signs also.

It Is Hard when you don't see as many of these

 as you do these.

I am just happy the church I attend, had one this past Sunday.

Hey, I can brag on mine if I want to.

Churches are having funeral services for victims of both issues. I feel they need to take time to show awareness to both. I have my theories on why they don't but my theory still doesn't negate that the need is there.

It Is Hard when I personally know people right now suffering from both of these. When I say right now I mean at this very second on October 22, 2015. I know somebody suffering from the effects of breast cancer. That person may be too weak to read this post. I know somebody in an abusive relationship. That person's phone is controlled so even if I test out the link, they will not be allowed to read it. 

Matter of Fact All these things mentioned in this post happened this October of this year, 2015.

So yeah, that is why It Is Hard but I know in my heart when I post this it will be worth it to somebody. I don't wear the colors because they are cute together.

 I wear them in support. I think of different makeup looks because they can't. They could be the worse whatever but they don't deserve to suffer. Everybody needs support. If you can walk or run, do it. Some are not financially able to donate but in our discretionary funds sometimes budget a little donation in. When you see flyers to a balloon release, go to it. Help pass out awareness cards when you can. And most importantly pray (or send up positive thoughts) for those going through this issue. A little can go a long way. 

We All Can Support. Support Is Not Hard!!!

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Purple Awareness in Shondaland

OMG How to Get Away with Murder focused on a case about Domestic Violence in October. I was so stoked. I often get somewhat frustrated in October because more focus is brought to Breast Cancer Awareness than Domestic Violence.

I know it's because the attitudes & opinions surrounding Domestic Violence so, when I see popular cultural talk about Domestic Violence in October, my heart swells. So last Thursday night, my heart was Very full.

So after Annalise Keating got into fighter stance and confronted her husband about his peen being on the dead girl's phone, we are brought into a case where a young man kills his father for abusing his mother. The father was a cop so the wife felt she could not go to the police because who would believe her. Annalise Keating knew that the case depended on the emotional opinion of the jury. They discuss how things like gender, race, and other similarities should be considered in jury selection. Then the prosecuting attorney requests to have any discussion of the domestic violence barred and her request is granted. Keating and her band of students seemed screwed. So they have to come up with a way to wiggle abuse talk back into the courtroom and work on the mindset of the jury.Well through digging through a few years worth of the boy’s blog, they get what they need to have the abuse entered. Then one juror gets kicked off for a statement about how cop killers deserve to die made in a magazine.

Keating is finally delivering her closing argument in the domestic violence/murder case and Laurel finds a stack of papers explaining what jury nullification is and she “accidentally” leaves it on a bench for one of the jurors to find. Frank sees her, tells Keating and she swing this total illegal move to her advantage and the case end in mistrial, plea deal, and the boy gets probation, community service and counseling.

During the trial the police unity in the courtroom was grossly powerful. The sat there like a silent wal of blue. Here are my foremost feelings on those scenes while live tweeting during the show.

Like the first juror who got kicked off, it featured some the attitudes of Domestic Violence. It is as though all the police saw was that someone killed a fellow brother in blue. I bet none of them personally looked into if the abuse was true or not. Hate to see what had happened if the young man was found guilty of murder. A few possible scenarios in my mind don't have him living to see prison thanks to the police.

Well, Salute to the writers of How to Get Away With Murder and all of Shondaland for focusing on Domestic Violence. It may or may not have been a deliberate storyline to be shown this month but it was shown. Like I said earlier Breast Cancer Awareness is the more popular focus in October. Hey, they could have given Annalise a Breast Cancer scare yet they chose a the least popular emphasis. For the purpose of using slang, I see ya! I see ya!!!

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

An October Awareness Look

It is October or it is near depending on when I have time to post this one. So that means we turn our support to  Breast Cancer Research & Domestic Violence Awareness. These are two issues that are near & dear to my heart. I know women who suffered from both. Two of those women being relatives. I'm not in the physical shape to walk or run for them, Yet but I can show my awareness in a way I know would get the message across. I use my makeup looks as that way. Why? Well, I remember when both of those ladies could not wear makeup. I was floored when I found out my relative had to specially order her makeup after her cancer went into remission, She can't just go into the store and pick up stuff off the shelves and try it out. When my Big mouth shot off at my relative not know about basic trends about makeup when I was a teenager, that was when I found out when she was with her abuser, he didn't allow her to wear makeup. Makeup would attract other men. So, it was like she was a least a decade behind the trends, So that is why I bring about awareness with my makeup. If I wear makeup during the month October, I only wear pink & purple makeup. If someone ask me or bring in up, I tell them this is how I bring about awareness about Breast Cancer & Domestic Violence.

The Purple is for Domestic Violence & the Pink is for Breast Cancer. But you knew that.

Okay so in last year's BLOG I told guys I would try to figure out a matching eye to my lips.

Well, I went out on for Valentine's Day and I was wearing a purple top so I made one.

So that plus the lips,
I look like this.
To get the eye I used

Eyeshadow Primer from Avon
Strawberry Milk Jumbo Stick from NYX
Keep Your Pansies On Eyeshadow Chubby by Flower Makeup
Jet Black Eyeliner by Wet ~n~ Wild

Well of course, I had to do something different. So I made another lip ombre. I mean come on that one is pretty standard. Everybody does the bold liner around a gold, pink. or nude lip. I practiced a few ombres I saw on You Tube. Many do the purple to pink ombre.

I didn't like it on me so much. It photographed ok but I real time my top lip looked more hidden than usual. My top lip can be sort of hidden on pic but it real time, that is a no-no. Then I made the grave mistake of doing a lollipop lip with the purple. Never will I ever do that again. I'm too shamed to show that one. Well I finally decided to invert what everyone else was doing and transition pink into purple and I got this.

I love it. I can see my top and bottom lip. It photographed well. It looks go in real time. Plus I might be doing something different. Pair that with my eyes from Valentine's and I got this look for October Awareness month.

It even looks good when I'm not smiling.

LoL

I did this lip look with those products.

Blistex Berry
Clear Lip Liner by Mary Kay
Sublime by Cover Girl
Runway Plum by Sephora Collection
Candid Candy by Sephora Collection
Pink Pop by Maybelline
Blushing Mauve by Revlon

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So this will be how I look this month when I put on makeup.

Oh before I leave I have to show off my newest pin.

I already had a Breast Cancer Awareness pin (probably why it is fading some) but I didn't have a Domestic Violence pin. Well in my search I found this one with the feet. Oh, those feet were so powerful to me. I had to get it. So I'm wearing those all month long.

Again October is not about what I look like or what I wear. It is about conveying a message about two important issues to me. Breast Cancer & Domestic Violence are affecting us all. One will be surprised who is in the fights for their lives because of these two things. So Keep Your Hands, Feet, and Cruelty to Yourself & Save the Ta-Ta's.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Women Hitting Men Discussions (I Blame Pop Culture)

 I don't understand people who can not Use Their Words in an argument. The first thing they do when they are losing is start hitting someone. Some folks act as those that is the only reaction they have.  Many of those are women. It behooves me that I live in a society that does not see these women that unjustly put their hands on men. It behooves me that some people don't understand the sentiment of statements of Whoopi Goldberg

or Stephen A. Smith. I didn't say I agree exactly with either Goldberg or Smith. Goldberg's statement doesn't stop the violence.  And I've already spoke about the Smith's

generalized rant in a previous blog. But I wholeheartedly understand what they are saying. I agree with the underlying ideas of what they have said. Smith tried but failed majorly.We need to confront and/or punish these women who think it is okay to hit men.They actually think they are immune to punishments & consequences.

Oh there is a culture of nasty little women that feel like because they are female and it is taught that a man can't hit a woman that they think they can hit a man and there will be no consequence.

Let me describe a situation. A man is late coming home from work. They had plans to play cards with other men & women in their home. His wife and he started arguing about his tardiness. The argument gets heated. The others are looking. The man suggests they go into the bedroom to discuss the issue. The wife says "I'm not going anywhere". The husband tries to proceed to the bedroom. She says "Where are you going? I'm not through talking about this". Then she pushes him in the head. He walks off and goes into the bedroom. She follows him and still wanting to argue. The guest are just sitting there discussing what they just witness. The wife is heard pushing her husband  and saying "What you want to hit me back".  Eventually the husband leaves the house to cool off.

Why did she hit him? What about the woman's consequences? She gets to hit him because he was late and she is mad and embarrassed. Nobody is going to stop her.

Sad part is society and pop culture actually protects her. A woman hits a man. If that man press charges on her. He is call a derogatory names like wuss & punk. Not a victim. Just like some of the people like the police officer in the video. So yeah, some of these guys snap and hit hit back or worse. Then, they go to jail. It's like a crazy Catch 22 scenario. Of all the double standards that are female favorable and it would be this grossness.

What is wrong with telling women not to put their hands on men? What is wrong with telling women to keep their hands & feet off of other people? Men are People too. My mother & grandmother taught me to keep my hands to myself. I teach my 18 year old niece & my eight year old nephew the same thing.

No Human has the Right to Hit, Punch, Slap, or Kicking another Human unless it is in Self-Defense or they are being legally paid to do so. Don't know how to fight without your extremities, Get Away from Each Other. If you  Hit, Punch, Slap, or Kicking another person, there should be lawful consequences.

Women are humans so, they do not have that right either. Pop culture has it wrong. Instead of attacking those who are trying their best to speak on and against this gross issue, they need help getting the message across.

Men shouldn't hit Women. Women shouldn't hit Men. Men shouldn't hit Men. Women shouldn't hit Women. People shouldn't hit People

Now I Said it!!!

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

October Awareness Lip Ombre'

Yeah I got Very Cute for a Cause. October is Domestic Violence and Breast Cancer Awareness Month (A Blog I did in 2011). So I decided to paint my lips in honor of the month.

The Purple lip liner is for Domestic Violence Awareness

 & the Pink lipstick and gloss is for Breast Cancer Awareness.

I wear the ribbons and the colors all the time. This time I just decided to let my mouth show my message. Got some compliments so I got to tell the message behind my look. I even met a Ten-Year Breast Cancer Survivor that day in the grocery store also. We were slapping high-fives all around.
Maybe next year I'll have a matching eye makeup look also. Keyword is Maybe. *smiles* But before then let's be aware of these two issues not just in October but all year long.!

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Be AWARE in October

It's October which is Breast Cancer Awareness Month & Domestic Violence Awareness
Month
So Keep your Hands & Cruelness to Yourself!!!
&
Let's Save the TaTa's (saw that on a shirt, might buy it)!!!
#pinklove #purplelove