Pretty Language For Sexual Violence

I know my problem is that I am a Know-It-all but come on news media get it together. Y'all see the headlines.

Teacher arrested for improper relationship with student

Police investigating alleged student-teacher relationship

Man allegedly enters car to touch child 

Woman who had sex with son’s teenage friend headed to prison

Half Of Male College Athletes Admit History Of 'Sexually Coercive' Behavior

Aren't they worded cute? We use the prettiest words for rape & molestation. I wish these headlines just call a thing a thing like Iyanla Vanzant says. And these article headlines are not worded because of creativity. They are worded because our society thinks rape & molestation are harsh & ugly words to describe rape & molestation. And it is not just me. I am in good company on social media & even a few professional clients I have. 

The headlines of newest rape case out of Aldine, Tx, has been styled in such a way that is unruled. Read it Here. I know Ms. Teacher is convinced she was in a relationship. Of course she is, if not she would not have told the police that crud. But for the news media to report it that way is crazy to me. 

Society is not dumb. We know what rape & molest mean. But I can't blame the news media because we allow them to use these words. We allow that because we use them ourselves. As a child, I heard, well, overheard adults talking to one another about a child being touched so much it is unreal. "Yeah, they found the neighbor touching on those little boys". "They put her daughter in CPS because her brother was touching her". "You weren't touched as a child, were you"?  I know a lady in her 90s whose only opinion about teacher-student rape is, "Lord, this was going on when I was in school. The men teachers were going with the girls. And the lady teachers were going with the boys. The better learn to stop". So, the news is only using the words they think we, adult are comfortable with. And until we accept that an adult having a relationship with a child is rape, we will rarely read it like we do. Man allegedly enters car to molest child can never be a headline until we stop just saying touch. Maybe the crazy attitudes about might change when we use them as the synonyms to describe their heinous acts.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Pervert & the Cowards

Sandusky---> McQueary---> Paterno---> Penn St Officials---> But not the Police

This Penn St sex scandal sickens me. Of course Sandusky is the worse for being the vile molester. But the rest of the names are not real men either. They are a bunch of COWARDS that passed the buck of Responsibility instead of doing right thing and going to the police themselves.

McQueary is the worse of these cowards. He saw it! So why didn't he get the police? What about vigilante justice for the child? He should have confronted Sandusky in the shower then and there and got the child to safety. The rest just dropped the ball (No Pun Intended). Amazing how these Old, Grown, Adult men could do that.

And the poor Penn St community. Who wants to go though this? I know the students hate that their beloved coach is gone & school is battling reporters & legal accusations. But I want them to consider hearing this about another school. SMH

*Talking to You in Grown Up*