Pretty Language For Sexual Violence

I know my problem is that I am a Know-It-all but come on news media get it together. Y'all see the headlines.

Teacher arrested for improper relationship with student

Police investigating alleged student-teacher relationship

Man allegedly enters car to touch child 

Woman who had sex with son’s teenage friend headed to prison

Half Of Male College Athletes Admit History Of 'Sexually Coercive' Behavior

Aren't they worded cute? We use the prettiest words for rape & molestation. I wish these headlines just call a thing a thing like Iyanla Vanzant says. And these article headlines are not worded because of creativity. They are worded because our society thinks rape & molestation are harsh & ugly words to describe rape & molestation. And it is not just me. I am in good company on social media & even a few professional clients I have. 

The headlines of newest rape case out of Aldine, Tx, has been styled in such a way that is unruled. Read it Here. I know Ms. Teacher is convinced she was in a relationship. Of course she is, if not she would not have told the police that crud. But for the news media to report it that way is crazy to me. 

Society is not dumb. We know what rape & molest mean. But I can't blame the news media because we allow them to use these words. We allow that because we use them ourselves. As a child, I heard, well, overheard adults talking to one another about a child being touched so much it is unreal. "Yeah, they found the neighbor touching on those little boys". "They put her daughter in CPS because her brother was touching her". "You weren't touched as a child, were you"?  I know a lady in her 90s whose only opinion about teacher-student rape is, "Lord, this was going on when I was in school. The men teachers were going with the girls. And the lady teachers were going with the boys. The better learn to stop". So, the news is only using the words they think we, adult are comfortable with. And until we accept that an adult having a relationship with a child is rape, we will rarely read it like we do. Man allegedly enters car to molest child can never be a headline until we stop just saying touch. Maybe the crazy attitudes about might change when we use them as the synonyms to describe their heinous acts.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

How I Feel About That Necessary Evil Called "The News"

And before anyone says, "That's why I don't watch the news",  know that those of you who don't, are the people don't ever know it was going to rain, get hot or cold this afternoon. So, go over there & sit down please!!!

Can we humans get our crap together for like a good solid week and do nothing wrong. Just one week. Even the entertainment stuff is making me frown. But I Must watch this stuff because I refuse to uniformed.

Dear The News,

If you had a face I would punch it!!!

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

MLK Memorial Ceremony News Coverage

Okay Roland Martin has his perspective, here’s OUTSPOKEN_DIVA’s on the coverage of the Martin Luther King Memorial ceremony on Sunday morning. First off KUDOS (yes big ones) to the stations of BET, Centric, CNN & TV One for covering the Memorial ceremony, when others did not. It was slap in the face to see the Big Three, ABC, CBS, and NBC going on with their programming as usual. All the news pundit shows could have been with held for one Sunday for coverage of the historical event. And I will not buy into the excuse because it was rescheduled because of the earthquake & hurricane on its original date. Organizers gave suitable notice of the rescheduled date so programming still could have been modified. I think the big Three could have covered the ceremony. What about those that do not have cable, internet, or satellite? How would they have watched the ceremony if they wanted to watch it?


Of what I was able to see and hear I was a very good ceremony. I hope to visit the memorial one day. Add to my Atlanta experience of the King Memorial there.


Yes I said of what I got to hear and see of the televised ceremony. Though TV One & CNN had the better coverage than BET & Centric (I know they are the same folks), they all are guilty of talking way too much at the wrong time. Do newscasters ever understand that no one cares what you think? I would have liked to here the choir sing or Al Sharpton’s whole speech without flipping channels without to see whose not discussing when the Obama Family arrived or running a commercial. I think most coverage of this event was only to show the President’s address. Ed Gordon et al. were talking during the introduction of Obama. Seriously? And that was very unfair for those of us not able to be there in person. Newscasters give your opinion while no one is up at the microphone speaking or performing. And keep it short because if you have something to say somebody else has an opinion to.

As Roland Martin says That’s my perspective, What’s Yours? ROTFLOL