Gotta Catch Some Common Sense

Pokémon Go (stylized as Pokémon GO) is a location-based augmented reality mobile game, developed by Niantic, published by The Pokémon Company, and part of the Pokémon franchise. It was initially released in July 2016 for iOS and Android devices, starting with Australasia, the United States, and parts of Europe, with Asian and other European releases to follow The game allows players to capture, battle, and train virtual Pokémon who appear throughout the real world. It makes use of GPS and the camera of compatible devices. Although the game is free-to-play, it supports in-app purchases of additional gameplay items. (Wikipedia)

Y'all know 4:5 times I am not doing the trendy thing. Pokemon Go is one of them. I'm not playing it. I know about Pokemon. I used to watch the cartoon. Pokemon has seen some of my money. Just last Christmas, I bought my nephew, Monkey Toes some trading cards. That's what he's into so, Ho, Ho Ho Merry Christmas.  But like Words with Friends & Candy Crush, I won't be lead to play it.

Now, just because others are Gotta Catch 'Em All doesn't mean I was going to be mean. Then I saw some headlines.

Holocaust Museum, Auschwitz want Pokémon Go hunts out

Arlington National Cemetery is a no-go for Pokemon Go 

Now, I have to hit folks with the side eye. I'll say it the creators & publishers Niantic & The Pokemon Company as well as some(Keyword is...) of the game should all the blame. None of them are using common sense & respect.

Yes, I said the creators. I was under the impression that Pokemons had permission at these places so that they could be caught. I saw a restaurant called Sushi Bayashi at Trinity Groves, that's here in Dallas on Facebook encouraging people to Come Catch 'Em All there. I was shocked when places like the Holocaust Museum & Arlington National Cemetery have people in them catching Pokemon. Trinity Groves is an open air culinary & entertainment destination. People are supposed to have fun there. (I can't imagine the increase is sighting of people sitting around on their phones in public.)The other two places are not socializing places. I just think it is disrespectful for the company let this issue run amuck. Who failed but "passed" the research & development and allowed this to happen?

But the company is only 50% of the blame. The players who decided to enter these revered places are just disrespectful. Heck, common sense should say. "I shouldn't run around this place where people are coming to learn about a dark cultural event in the world". But in a world where the police have to put out tips to keep players safe,

As Pokémon Go Consumes Country, Police Nationwide Issue Safety Tips 

I guess I shouldn't be surprised.

Maybe I need to develop an app to test common sense levels and that would determine what apps you could be allowed to download based on your level. Lord, the number of smart phones shut off because the number of people not even at the level to handle one will blow my mind.

Y'all Be Careful!!! Don't be Dumb. And Respect Everyone While You Catch 'Em All.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Social Discussions Approved...Fixing Your Husband's Plate???

I actually don't know how to start this post without rambling. If I do, forgive me. There is a meme making its rounds on Facebook (Where people know me in offline land as my biological name) that is actually working my nerves.

The act itself doesn't bother me. Serving is not a problem for me. I was raised in a home where a wife fixed her husband's plate. I fix plates every day for my grandmother & my invalid brother.

But for family events, it's every man for themselves. Even though she might at home, My aunt doesn't fix her husband's plate. My male cousins' wives don't fix their plates. My female cousins don't fix their SO's plates. The feeding order is children & elder members, first. Ladies are next. Men are last. Unless you are a 1st-time guest, no one is fixing a visitor a plate. That's my family. It is probably the reason for my annoyance.

Here is my opinion:

"He can fix his plate...Ain't nothing wrong with his legs..." is not a good answer

BUT

"Why aren't you fixing your husband's plate" should Not be asked either

Why is the Freakin' discussion or debate? Why does it matter if a woman does or does not fix her husband's plate? What is so offensive about not making this man a plate? Why is this even discussed?

I Refuse to argue this point with anyone. I will Never ask anyone a question concerning this. I always try to learn the rules of the culture or event. Matter of  fact, my answer to that meme is,

Yeah, I'm trying to lure. LoL
I made all this. *wink*
I play too much, I know

Because it is one way with my family, some are different. So, future husband, we will have to discuss this. If you ask me, I will fix it. But no one will make me feel bad if I don't fix your plate. You & I discussed this, Not you, me & their opinionated norm.

Oh and stop using the "Event Jezebel" as part of the argument.

If another lady preparing for my husband will break up my marriage, I don't think our union is that strong.

Dear Future Husband, Accept the plate, Say thank you, and Move on. I know you know this but society told me to handhold you in making sure you stay faithful.

And where is the debate for the men who were fixed plates, but didn't take the trash out?

Where is the meme that has men sitting there watching ladies disassemble card tables and folding chairs after the event? Oh, wait, wives got arms & feet, too. *sigh*

This is my opinion. But when I get married (According to a few FB quizzes it's November 13, 2016, to a guy with the initial J) don't come for me because I will walk away or tell you to mind your business and let me handle mine. Go fix your husband's plate, in peace. I felt like I should be grabbing air. LoL

And I am through discussing this.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Now If I Acted Like Miss Piggy… Yeah Sis, Bro, I’m Ok, but I Shouldn’t Have to Be

Want to know how Miss Piggy handles Catcalling & Street Harassment click Here 

Thursday, July 10 at 12 p.m. EST, News One will host a Twitter chat on Black women and street harassment. Follow the conversation at #YouOKSis on Twitter.com.

I get tired of people not understanding that Women, Gay Men and their bodies are Not a free for all, disrespectful playground. I’ll never understand when Street Harassment became the norm for vile and vulgar men & women (Yes, there are populations of lesbians are doing it women too.) to do. Grabbing somebody by the arm, saying “Say, Say. Give me those tens” is a gross form of how you should ask for a date. It’s even worse to call the person “Stuck up” or insults the person with profanities just because they don’t want to get to know you. They know enough. You are ignorant. Who wants to date anyone ignorant? Sad part is we've become a fearful population that if we complain, we are the bad guys. If we don't respond to these harassers with a “Yes” we are part of the problem. I’m tired of hiding my cell phone because I have to give some fool a fake number and just in case he call it to see if my phone will ring so I can feel safe. I’m tired of seeming like I might snap wild if you speak to me in public. This is crazy. Street Harassment is humiliating and can be dangerous.

To the men & women who are not doing it getting upset because awareness and discontinuing it is being discuss. You are not helping at all. Saying stuff like “If he was cute, it would be okay, “Not all Men are doing that”, “This is a Device from the White man to keep Black folks from dating”. Instead of getting upset, listen and help stop this heinous act. You know many that do it and not saying anything to them & continuing to hang with someone who does. You know that is a low-key way to say you agree. Many of you complainers have never had one discussion about Street harassment with a young man who does it or young women who has or might experience. How many of you have told a girl, you know about Street Harassment. Yet you can fix your mouth to complain or defend your right not to want to hear about it. Here is an article for you to read http://newsone.com/3033217/youoksis-feminista-jones-street-harassment-notjusthello/

I know about Street Harassment to well. I still remember when it was just referred to as “Cat Calling” (Which very gross and derogatory term in itself. And men have the nerve not to want to be referred dogs.) in Pop Culture. Miss Piggy experienced the “classic” definition of 1980’s Cat Calling. All she was trying to do was spy on Kermit and these construction workers (the "classic" face of Cat Calling) are interrupting her in a vulgar manner. Now days Miss Piggy would get arrested for going off. It's bad that as a child I understood what those guys were doing was wrong. Street Harassment happens everywhere. The street, grocery store, the mall, hallways of the middle & high schools, the paths of the local university (Yes, that group of guys standing around the front of the Science or English building always have something to say), bus stops, and many other places. The bus stop was where my worse encounter happened.

It was the first time I unloaded my pepper spray on anyone. I don’t drive. So I was waiting on the bus for my morning commute to summer school at one of the community colleges one summer. A car slowed down and the driver rolled down the window and spoke. Anything people know about me is I don’t answer to “Hey Baby”, “Say Baby”, “Psst (that makes me furious and has gotten some people cussed out)”, etc., or talk to people who want to converse from their cars or have grabbed my hand as I was walking by. The guy, who was Hispanic (It’s not just black guys but you knew that) said “Can I have your number”. I said “No”. He asked “Did I need a ride”? I said, “No, Thank you”. He said “Well fine then” and drove off. He made the block came back and said “Are you sure” I said “Yeah, I’m sure”. After that I thought he was gone. Nope, he was just getting started. He decided to drive around the block to taunt me 3 times before the bus came. I boarded that bus so quick and went to school. Hours later I’m coming home and I decided to get off a few blocks from my stop because the bus driver was taking his 15 minute break. It’s hot and as heck and low and behold here is the guy from earlier. He slowing down and I keep walking. He saying “Hey Baby. Give me your number”. I keep walking. He stopped the car and gets out and is walking towards me. I am 8 steps away from turning onto my street. He said “Look B-word. I’m talking to you”. I unloaded the Pep Squad on his face. This is the Pep Squad. 

 My sister gave this to me when I first went off to college. I took off to my home. I didn’t know if he saw where I went. I didn’t know if he would be back for me the next day. I stayed scared for weeks. I never saw him again, Praise God. Oh yeah, y'all know I stay in the hood, right. Where were the loitering fools around the bus stop and liquor store that day? Right there laughing at the encounter that afternoon. Nobody asked me was I ok or needed help. Matter fact I bet dollars to donuts, one of those guys probably asked me for my number prior to or after the incident. To them, I’m just a bougie chick that just went off that day. No, I was fed-up chick spraying for my safety.

All this because I said No. I said it was my worse. My worse was very extreme. It is not my only. I don't know any lady or Gay man that has not experienced this crap. Crazy part is is so common they may not even recognize it as wrong. 

What is wrong with No? No, First off, what was wrong with you approaching me with a “Hello, How are you”, away from your car? Then what was wrong with me rejecting you. I have the right to say No!!! I have the right Not to Fear for my life because I said No!!! Everybody has those rights. No One has the right to harass anyone for a date, though.

Yeah sister & brother, I am ok. But I really want People stop that. Cat Calling, Heckling for Dates all Street Harassment is wrong. It very disrespectful. Its cliché’ to ask but would you want anyone to do that to your mother or father? Don’t answer that because many of you don’t respect the well-being of your family members. It past just a "hello". It's past "you were just speaking" It is your speech that it the problem. It's disrespectful. It’s about respect. What is wrong with Respect???

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms