Social Discussions Approved...Fixing Your Husband's Plate???

I actually don't know how to start this post without rambling. If I do, forgive me. There is a meme making its rounds on Facebook (Where people know me in offline land as my biological name) that is actually working my nerves.

The act itself doesn't bother me. Serving is not a problem for me. I was raised in a home where a wife fixed her husband's plate. I fix plates every day for my grandmother & my invalid brother.

But for family events, it's every man for themselves. Even though she might at home, My aunt doesn't fix her husband's plate. My male cousins' wives don't fix their plates. My female cousins don't fix their SO's plates. The feeding order is children & elder members, first. Ladies are next. Men are last. Unless you are a 1st-time guest, no one is fixing a visitor a plate. That's my family. It is probably the reason for my annoyance.

Here is my opinion:

"He can fix his plate...Ain't nothing wrong with his legs..." is not a good answer

BUT

"Why aren't you fixing your husband's plate" should Not be asked either

Why is the Freakin' discussion or debate? Why does it matter if a woman does or does not fix her husband's plate? What is so offensive about not making this man a plate? Why is this even discussed?

I Refuse to argue this point with anyone. I will Never ask anyone a question concerning this. I always try to learn the rules of the culture or event. Matter of  fact, my answer to that meme is,

Yeah, I'm trying to lure. LoL
I made all this. *wink*
I play too much, I know

Because it is one way with my family, some are different. So, future husband, we will have to discuss this. If you ask me, I will fix it. But no one will make me feel bad if I don't fix your plate. You & I discussed this, Not you, me & their opinionated norm.

Oh and stop using the "Event Jezebel" as part of the argument.

If another lady preparing for my husband will break up my marriage, I don't think our union is that strong.

Dear Future Husband, Accept the plate, Say thank you, and Move on. I know you know this but society told me to handhold you in making sure you stay faithful.

And where is the debate for the men who were fixed plates, but didn't take the trash out?

Where is the meme that has men sitting there watching ladies disassemble card tables and folding chairs after the event? Oh, wait, wives got arms & feet, too. *sigh*

This is my opinion. But when I get married (According to a few FB quizzes it's November 13, 2016, to a guy with the initial J) don't come for me because I will walk away or tell you to mind your business and let me handle mine. Go fix your husband's plate, in peace. I felt like I should be grabbing air. LoL

And I am through discussing this.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms