Abstinence & Celibacy Choices, Are they so Wrong for Adults?

Seemly the website Ashley Madison (a website where adults who wanna cheat meet other adults who wanna cheat) is willing to pay any woman who can prove they slept with Tim Tebow (the devout Christian football player who is also a virgin waiting to have sex when he's married (OK whatever)) big dollars. Why? Because they don't believe he will be able to be sex-free in New York. What nerve of Ashley Madison to put a bounty on the man's virginity? Yeah you ask well what do you expect from an adultery website. But they aren't they only people with that view.

Even though doing right is the law of the land. Saving yourself for marriage seems to not to be part of that law. 40 year-old Virgin made it seem like the guy was goofy because he hadn't "got some". If a woman goes celibate for too long people feel like she gonna close up. Oh I've heard people praise folk for saving themselves one day then act like they're a pathetic loser that missing out the next day. It's confusing & hypocritical. I could see if they wanted have sex and couldn't give it away. Then maybe you can pity them. But someone who chose this lifestyle should at least be respected. Praise them only if you mean it and may want to try it yourself. You should never pity them for their choices in life. A choice that is not wrong.
Oh the quotes use are silly too. "If God Wanted You to Wait, He Should Not Have Made it Feel so Good". I understand when that quote was said by someone wanting to have sex with a virgin or a celibate person. They are trying to "feel good" with them. I don't understand the quote said by someone not trying to have sex with them is crazy. Again people are acting as if this choice is the end of the world.

Amazing how most Adults think it's GREAT if young people wait. Why can't it be just as GREAT if adults wait? One less person possibly with AIDS, with STD's, cheating, prostituting,etc. Either way it's an Adult Choice. RESPECT THE CHOICE!!!

MY FAVORITE HOLIDAY

Easter is my favorite holiday. Most people like Halloween, Thanksgiving, or Christmas. Easter is the holiday I love.

As a kid, it meant getting Two pretty dresses (I am still a fan of pastel colors), new shoes & a different hairstyle to be in front of the congregation to say my Easter speech.

I only went to one Easter egg hunt in my life and it was Not as fun as having Breakfast with Easter Bunny at Joske's (now Dillard's)(anyone remembers Joske's, LoL) for 7 years straight. It was just a busy time event for my mom to take my older sister and me to so she could get our outfits out of layaway when the store opened. It was a basic breakfast buffet, a kiddie activity and pictures with Easter Bunny but, in my, Under 9-year-old mind, it was so much fun. Getting tickled at the simple things that excited me back then. And it was a candy eating time for my cousin and me. We didn't get a lot of chance to eat candy at home, Just holidays. Dying eggs was fun also.

Oh yes, I have wonderful memories of Easter. But they pale in comparison to the Real Reason for the day. JESUS was born and wrapped in Rags, Just to Die but Get Back Up for the Salvation of Us, a bunch of Filthy Rags. We don't give gifts, have parades, or watch a bowl games. We just have a simple celebration about the Greatest Act of Kindness Anyone could do. It's so cliche' to say BUT Jesus didn't have to do any of it. Get arrested, be beaten, died, went to hell, preached a revival, set the captives free, and got back up with ALL power in his hands. Nobody but Jesus would do all of that for us. Anybody deserves a parade & gifts is him. All he wants is our hearts but deserves our ALL. I love him for all he did for me but Saving Me is the best thing he ever did. From Warm Childhood memories, before I knew to Thankful Reasons after I knew, Easter will Always be my Favorite Holiday.

Justice for Trayvon

So do I look Suspect, Zimmerman?
I have on a Hood.
Justice For Trayvon Martin!!!

March 10th

March 10 is Women & Girls HIV & AIDS Awareness Day. It's sad to me that there has to be any Awareness days ever but this one saddens me the most. Why? The stats that says women account for about 1 in 4 new HIV/AIDS cases in the United States. And of these newly infected women, about 2 in 3 are African-American. should make Everyone frown, Just like homosexual men stats in the 1980's. But what is worse are the discussions that come about and the discussions that should come about.

If I hear another gab fest about the stats are high because of the "Down-Low" men messing with the gays one more time I going to vomit. Yes, "Down-Low" men are some of the most vile humans on this earth. But in my opinion All Cheaters are vile. "Down-Low" men are "Cheating men that Cheat with men". And "Down-Low" men are not the only problem. I know & have known quite a few people with HIV & AIDS. 80% are women and 100% of those ladies got it from their heterosexual husbands & boyfriends that got it from another Woman they were involved with in the past or were cheating with presently. People like to play the blame game but instead of playing "Lets Face Facts". Men may catch HIV & AIDS from Unprotected Sex with Women, also. People Having Unprotected Sex May Catch HIV & AIDS.

If you are Having Sex and not in a Monogamous Relationship (if you or your partner are cheating that Is Not monogamous(don't know what monogamous is, stop having sex and get an education)) you need be using Protection. Protection means Condoms (Male or Female) and Dental Dams. Birth Control Pills, Sponges, IUD's & Spermicides do not protect you from Any STD's (or let's not forget those also), HIV & AIDS. Stop gambling with your health and protect yourself. Male and Female Humans are responsible for this. If you are with someone who doesn't believe in Protection Don't be with that person. Saying "No we can't without Protection" and getting up and leaving or telling them to leave is so Easy. You are Worth more than their beliefs. Let's Take Care of Our Selves so We can Take Care of One Another!

Making Pancakes

Someone sent me this email so I am sharing it with you guys.

Six year-old Brandon decided one Saturday morning to fix his parents pancakes. He found a big bowl and spoon, pulled a chair to the counter, opened the cupboard and pulled out the heavy flour canister, spilling it on the floor.

He scooped some of the flour into the bowl with his hands, mixed in most of a cup of milk and added some sugar, leaving a floury trail on the floor which by now had a few tracks left by his kitten.

Brandon  was covered with flour and getting frustrated. He wanted this to be something very good for Mom and Dad, but it was getting  very bad.

He didn't know what to do next, whether to put it all into the oven or on the stove and he didn't know how the stove worked!. Suddenly he saw his kitten licking from the bowl of mix and reached to push her away, knocking the egg carton to the floor.

Frantically he tried to clean up this monumental mess but slipped on the eggs, getting his pajamas white and sticky.

And just then he saw Dad standing at the door. Big crocodile tears welled up in Brandon 's eyes. All he'd wanted to do was something good, but he'd made a terrible mess. He was sure a scolding was coming, maybe even a spanking. But his father just watched him.

Then, walking through the mess, he picked up his crying son, hugged him and loved him, getting his own pajamas white and sticky in the process !

That's how God deals with us.. We try to do something good in life, but it turns into a mess. Our marriage gets all sticky or we insult a friend, or we can't stand our job, or our health goes sour.

Sometimes we just stand there in tears because we can't think of anything else to do. That's when God picks us up and loves us and forgives us, even though some of our mess gets all over Him. 

But just because we might mess up, we can't stop trying to "make pancakes" for God or for others. Sooner or later we'll get it right, and then they'll be glad we tried...

I was thinking and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that need rekindling or three words needing to be said, sometimes, "I love you" can heal & bless! Remind every one of your friends that you love them. Even if you think they don't love back, you would be amazed at what  those three little words, a smile, and a reminder like this can do.

Just in case I haven't told you lately... I LOVE YA!!! Please pass some of this love on to others.... suppose one morning you were called to God; do all your friends know you love them? 

Sit With Him, It Will Get Better

It hurts my heart when I hear about homicides & suicides. It weeps when I hear when those
are the result of bullying. I'm not a flag waver when it comes to my victim days. Trust me
they will make you wince. I was/am not the best acting child, teen, adult ever. I do wrong, too, daily. But would have been easier not being bullied. But it contain lessons I needed.

In 5th grade I was physically more developed than many adults let alone children. I was subject of teasing, bullying, & tormenting of my peers, but even the spiteful conversation of my teachers. Oh I thought "Go to a Teacher" if you have a a problem was a load of crock growing up. I feel if I made a bully list a couple of math, a social studies teachers, & maybe an office worker would go on the list with some of my classmates. Okay let me move on because I'm getting upset. I'm doing well being FaceBook Friends with a few of my bullies (even the biggest one) but I have a feeling if I saw those adults Today, I don't know if I wouldn't have to pray hard not to react.

By middle school I was an overweight nerd with a bad attitude. The teasing didn't stop but My attitude changed. Instead of crying, I had a major chip on my shoulder. I was Smart & knew it. All my bullies weren't and I knew it. Oh let one try to copy off my work, I was not having it. Oh and I made sure teachers saw me not sharing answers and them trying to cheat.  My not sharing was my way of punching back because they would get caught and or fail their work. I know it was mean but explain that to a 12 year old being object of random boys smacking her butt or trying to grope her at her locker. Especially when there
were many girl who loved for them to do that them.

In high school weight teasing decreased some but, Religious teasing increased. In the most
unlikely of places, Church. I was one of kids that was called to do it all, the welcomes, youth announcement clerk, usher this, BTU activities that. If they needed somebody I was in the group to get called. It didn't help that I came from one of those "Families" that Other People think we think we are "all that", don't have
any problems, and always, Always looking for some scandal on. The family that other's had "expectations" for and when you didn't measure up their tongues wag. To my church peers, I was an L7. I Tried to fit in but after a while I cared less. I knew I loved the Lord & he loved me. Apparently it show no matter any kind of wrong I tried or do. Because trust me I would get asked by many people, strangers incl., if I was saved and why was I doing whatever I was doing.

Wait before I finish let me say this before those who are against the church start.Those are PEOPLE, not GOD. And where God is, God gets his glory. One just prays that real Worship & Praise take over at any place you go. So Satan and his minions don't disrupt. And I learned that at that church.

Well when I was 16, I wasn't getting the party because of summer school (failed Chemistry, never my subject)but I still got gifts. Among clothes, & music requests for Aaliyah, BlackStreet, 69 Boyz(didn't get that one). I wanted a Leather Bound Youth Bible(got that one). If you asked me, I told you. What was I supposed to be ashamed of? My school pals didn't tease me. A few wanted to see it actually & got one later. It was the church buddies that went in on me. NOT from the one's not being called on, the very folks being used in service such as myself. And some of the late 20's, Early 30's age group who had gotten word about it. Oh I heard all kinds of crap but "bible nerd" stand out the most. Oh I was fat there also. Now, I'm a Fat Bible Nerd!!! If I carried that Bible folks ask to see it and look at it like it was filled with profanity. In that I found out what some really thought of me. That incident was just one of many. Oh it was hard because sometimes at 16, 17, & 18 I kept forgetting you are not suppose to cuss people out in church. I learned the hard way I was there for God not man. I also had to learn that I was only there until college & I will free
to find somewhere else that I could be a "Bible nerd"(Yes, I did after college). Wish "Sitting Beside Me" by Mary Mary was out when I was a teen.

It is unfortunate Decent (not criminal, perverted, etc.) children, teens, & adults can't be who they are without taunting, teasing & abuse. It has to get better. It will get better. It does get better.We can preach that all day & night long but until we wrap our arms around somebody hurting just like we did it can't get better for someone else. Oh I said my Whole story will make one wince. How happy kids, teens & adults becomes bullied & broken should bother make anyone with a heart. It bothers me to see a big busted teen without proper under garments. It hurts to see Adults roll their eyes to see a child boldly read scripture or recite a poem on self-esteem. When you don't support them you're breaking theirs. See within my hurt feelings I am also not afraid to give public addresses because of mostly my church experience. I don't think shape wear & proper foundation is new because somebody introduced me to it early. Rather help & sit with a hurting one than that broken one hurt themselves & other. But Yeah It Has to Get Better!!! Sit with God!!!

WITH YOUR RUDE @SS (Short Hair Edition)

Was at home and I caught a popular daytime talk show and they said there are reports that since Emma Roberts, (from Harry Potter fame) cut her hair, the media outlets have been speculating about her sexuality. Some have been Bold enough to ask if she is a lesbian and was that her way of coming out.

JUST BECAUSE SHE CUT HER HAIR. Daaaaang, That is RUDE!!!

The funny part is this is so common it is not funny. A character from my favorite web series "Misadventures of Awkward Black Girl" ask the main character was she gay because she did the "big chop".

There are many lesbians who have Long tresses. Portia Di Rossi & Sarah Gilbert are two I can think of. Michelle Williams, Pink, & Halle Berry have short hair and they are straight. And those are Just the celebrities. 

Oh I know the non-celebs with short hair are asked this ignorant question mightily. Where did this come from? Send it back! Hair length is not indicator of sexuality. It's the indicator that the want or need for short hair warranted. "You cut your hair. Are you Gay"?

Ooh let that RUDE crap die quickly.

How about "You just asked me if I was Gay because I cut my hair. Are you stupid"?
I'm sorry, I'm now being Rude. 8D