Looking for OutSpoken_Diva through an Angled Lens

I had a dream last night that my Life was a Reality show. Yeah, my life as a reality show. Every time it switched scenes it would be a camera lens turning. I guess to represent the movement to another angle of my life. Most of the show was my life this summer up to this past weekend. For some weird reason I still live my life similar to my undergrad days. 90% work to 10% social in the spring, fall, & winter but 50% work to 50% social in the summer. Especially my birthday I party hard (my version of hard) in the summer. Brunch with the besties. Friendly outings with the church pals. Small concerts to let's try this Restaurant for dinner. It all is punch up a notch in the summer and slows up some by mid September. Guess my show would be a Boring Adult version of Jersey Shore.  But my dream was just a manifestation of a comical angle that many view me as. "Being the Good Girl" they think they see.

I am a Staunch believer in the quote "What others think of me is Not My Business".  I don’t care what people think as long as it’s not a lie that I can’t or refuse to make true. *smile* People don’t have a heaven or hell to put me in. So why care about thoughts. Words and deed matter to me.

If you meet me outside the Internet you going to view me as a "Quiet Good Girl" or a "Stuck up B-Word" when first meeting me most times. Very few times do people view as a "Cool" or "Wild" chick at first. It is because I sit and meet people with a greeting and nothing much else. I like to watch people before I truly interact with strangers. I like to see how you would treat someone else so I know what I maybe looking forward to with you. I accept both views because I am Both Views and So Much More.  Most people afterwards move away from those views after really meeting me. Few still think of me as the chick they first met. If they still see me as a "Stuck up B-Word" is because our personalities & lives have not & will not ever see eye to eye. More than likely I said something they didn't agree with and well... I am still a "Stuck up B-word". Again Not My Business!!!

The funny people are the ones who still think of me as "The Good Girl". I can do all kind of stuff around them and their view of me will not change.  My grandmother's friends have seen & heard me have an argument that includes language that is very vulgar with someone and those little old ladies still think I am one of the Best Citizens in the world. Most of one of my best friend's families (except one of her aunts and as of this past weekend, her mother) think as long as I'm around every thing is in order. Nothing "wrong" is happening. Case in point a few years ago we went out one Saturday and didn't get to her place until late. While we were dressing for church, her grandmother found out that I was with her and said "Oh that was probably a very nice place" even though right before she knew I went she was about to fuss like grandmothers do (Well at least ours). They never understand when we say 4 out of 5 the things we do & places we go be it sacred or secular, I was the planner or at least invited her. Rarely is it her idea. Even sometimes when it was her idea, it was just an idea, then I made the idea an action. Reasons why my mother doesn't think the way her family does about my or my sister's friends. She says (In love because people love/like my mom) all the time "If you hang with my heathen children, you are the same heathen. Why? You Chose to hang with my heathen child".

I guess I rather them think no matter what I do I am still a good girl. It's better than the people who thought I was a good girl see me outside that angled lens and feel betrayed, like I was hiding the "real" me. Yeah, I have those also. They bother me because I have to actually tell Adults "You should not have boxed me into the frame you Thought I would fit". I should not have to. It’s Not My Business!!! I think some of those people think I'm a "Stuck up B-word" also. Oh well. LoL Who said it? Yep, Not. My. Business!

Maybe "Not My Business!!!" will be the title of my reality show. It's Catchy!

The next time someone says “Tell me about yourself” I might tempt fate and ask "Which Lens do you want to look through"? and wait for their response. I really won't care because I believe "What others think of me is Not My Business",  but it would be fun to do. LoL

A Cute Comfortable Fashion Blog

"You Must Suffer for Fashion" "Fashion is Pain" Why do people believe those things? People especially us Ladies, are literally putting our bodies in pain to wear the hottest shoes & clothes. Stilettos are stabbing the foot in heel and pinching the toes causing bunions. There are a brand of shape wear out that are worn so tight it literally shifts internal organs out of place. Garments that pinch the skin so hard that the blood vessels & capillaries burst.
Why?

I don't believe in wearing anything that causes pain. I can't do pain for my fashion. I dress as cute as my comfort level will allow. Jimmy Choo & Christian Louboutin are cute to look at but you can't put enough Dr. Scholls gel pads in to make them not hurt. And at those prices, they should come with built in relief. Now that I blogging Dr. Scholl should make a comfortable yet stylish shoe.

I'm not saying we should wear lounge wear 24/7. Nor should you let gut hang, stretch, or poke through.  I just don't think hurting the body to be fashionable is not smart. I refuse to Layer girdles on top of each other to even smoother in an outfit. One is enough. Plus I like for my blood to circulate. I will not to wear a shoe so high my blood pressure goes up. I won't wear panties that get caught in crevices, nooks & crannies and bacteria sets up.Yes, I wear flesh tone sandal-foot stockings with open toe shoes. My feet sweat and I don't do blisters. (I said sandal-foot & not reinforced toe There is a difference Learn it.) If my feet are tired but I'm going out, they are going into a lower wedge. If I'm grocery shopping I'm wearing classic fit jeans, not jeggings or skinny ones with cotton briefs.

Relax the body sometimes. Let's look Good but Healthy also.  Maybe Dr. Scholl should get in the High Heel game. I wonder if they tried and it was not up to their comfort standards. Umm interesting?

Okay Blame KimYe for This Blog

Okay so the topic question "Does Your SO Have a Say in Your Wardrobe" has been running around in Pop News lately. All because Kanye West went through his girlfriend's Kim Kardashian closest and got rid of what he didn't approve of and it was shown on the E! reality show. I even asked some of my friends the question. It was not shocking that 3/5 of my friends said No. I wasn't even shocked at the 2 who said yes.
I say No also. Opinions & Suggestions and fine But unless the outfit is Inappropriate for the occasion my SO doesn't get a say.

What shocks some was the fact that I said "It actually grates my nerves to have to dress an Adult, all the time". It really does. It was hard but I had to learn to gauge if I'm going to have to dress a guy early in a dating rapport. It the answer seems like YES, I need dude to lose my number (Don't actually say that. People told me to say that is rude. Whatever). It's not limited to just guys I date. Any Adult!!! I just don't understand telling an Adult man that his "Good Black Jeans" are not appropriate Wedding Wear. If he has jeans he should own khakis or dark colored slacks. One shouldn't have to tell an Adult woman Not to show cleavage in the workplace. That's what camisoles and tank tops are for. It is sad that many social club have to have a dress code. But when I look in the crowd in this "Shirts with Collars only for men" club and it is a sea of polos I want to scream. No one owns a nice casual oxford (buttoN up) shirt in this joint. It's just as sad that you have to tell Ladies not wear a mini skirt to the Family dinner. Honey put on your toe toucher, Gramps don't want to see your tail.

So yes it is nerve wrecking to me to have to tell people how to dress. And I refuse to do it. Maybe I am the extreme opposite of Kanye. He has to control the wardrobe. I am trying to say a little as possible.

Are You Shocked I'm Doing an Olympic Blog? Really???

Take away the tears, all the medals and world records made and to me the 30th Olympics the Messiest Olympics ever. Gosh I have never seen so many reports about controversy in my life. After the 1st week I just stop talking about things on my Facebook page that were controversial.

Gabby Douglas's hair was one. Hey yeah, I snickered at home, (I snickered at Phelps wing flap & Farrah hitting his head to celebrate, also) but to go on Twitter and such and complain about her hair like her hairstyle was tallied in the points for her Gold medal was silly. Especially the black women going in. Sweethearts some of you won't work out because of your hair. This slim trim young lady got the Gold while you became more out of shape sitting at home watching her get it.

SideNote: I didn't think the monkey doing gymnastics was a racist nod to Gabby. 1) The monkey is male and not on the same apparatus as Gabby. 2) NBC played the same commercial many time before Gabby got the Gold. Sometimes The Race Sensitive need to think. Some of you guys didn't mind it either until the Story Broke. STHU & Use your heads

Poor Usain Bolt!!! Not a major fan (I'm a Walter Dix & Yohan Blake Fan) but give the guy a break. Bottle gets thrown in his direction. Carl Lewis opened his yap. So he responded. Had Lewis not made a comment about Drug Testing in Jamaica, we would not ever know that Bolt lose all respect for the Former Olympian & Record Holder. Now the IOC says to "Expect more drug testing for Jamaica. All because he's The Fastest Man in the World now.

Folks could not focus on Phelps becoming the Most Decorated Olympian for pointing out that he didn't win every race or the infamous picture with the Marijuana Bong. Let his past be his past. And Most Decorated includes all the Bronzes and the Silvers, not just the Golds. I want some of these opinionated reporters to stop stirring the pot. The Cooking Pot not the Illegal Drugs.

Speaking of Illegal Drugs. Everybody that were banned from the Games, Athletes and Fans, deserved to be Banned. Oh there were The Racist Tweets, The sprinter, who didn't make roll call, the drunken woman athlete, the fans that made monkey noises at the Nigerian Basketball Players, the American test Positive for Marijuana (what were you doing eating baked goods while in training) and any other actions that got someone thrown out of the Olympics. People really showed their behinds these games. Next Olympics games there should be Behavior seminars for Athletes and Behavior pamphlets with all the tickets for the fans. Sad to do this to Adults but its need

I will say I did enjoy the games so far (one moiré day) despite controversy. I cried during the Opening Ceremony's. I cried when Mo Farrah and Galen Rupp beat the Bekele brothers in the 10,000m. I felt proud to see Gabrielle Douglas get Gold. I was proud to Phelps wave a golden goodbye on a Great career. South Africa's Oscar Pistorious & Caster Semena are always Great inspiration. My voice should be gone for yelling at all the USA racers, the swimmers but especially the Track & Field. But that come from being in "Track & Field Nerd" Daughters Mode.

But next Olympics can we do away with the E! News, Perez Hilton style of reporting the controversies. It has to stop. Alright more Gold to Win.

A Blog about My Addiction

Now that you ran over here (To get some hot gossip on me , I bet (Shame on You) or Because I sent you over here), Listen up!!!
My name is ________OUTSPOKEN_DIVA_______ and I am addicted to Black Web Series & Vlogs. I'm jonesing right now because my YouTube App on my phone has been acting up for the passed 35 hours and I have to watch stuff on my slow PC. If you are an FBF you already knew this to some point. My "little brother" B.J. is gonna cuss me out if I suggest one more Web Series or Vlog. I got it BAD Just checked my phone, ERROR!

I read an article last year wondering why "black sitcoms/dramas" aren't on TV but Online (which I agree with, The ONLY "black" show (scripted or reality) on TV I'm watching this summer is Single Ladies (women friends with more money than me with men issues I so can relate)). So I went to YouTube, FaceBook and Twitter to look for some of the titles and ran smack dab into my truth. Let me see I found shows or vlogs that deal topics like "Single with a crush but date others", "Secret love of ghetto songs that you still pick apart the lyrics but you still dance to" "Weirded out by co-workers (in my case former (a self-employment benefit)) because of attitudes and culture", "Nerdy & Full of Love of "the '80 or '90's", "Single & Dating", "Like dating Men but the ones you like still got issues and you start to think it could be you" "Awkward Phone Calls" and "College study Groups". Part of my Truth. All I need to do is find a good Christan show and my life will be cover by the Web Series. Okay here my list of my favorites. If it's Green, that's the link.

10. Fail - I avoided study groups in College because I once had an experience like of these. Not telling!!! Mine wasn't so funny. I fail on my own not because of others. 8D Episode 1 (The theme song is Great)

9. Venus Vs. Mars - It's British but this American can relate. What happens after your boyfriend breaks up with you, you try to date while your family and friends are in relationships? Pilot Episode

8. Black and Single TV - They are perfect for each other. Will they ever meet? Episode 1

7. She Got Problems - Little sister of a real-life famous actress that wants to do a musical about her dating life. She had me at "Black Guys are a few of My Favorite Things". Anthony Mackie is on my Top Ten 10 list too. She Got Problems by Allison McDonald

6. Black Nerd Comedy - I swear he acts like my cousin, D.D. D.D. is the cousin I was mostly around growing and one of the ones I'm kind of similar to (Trust me the other cousins know. They won't be offended). This Vlog is filled with Top List, Rants Raves & Reviews about video games, movies, TV Shows, etc. Lot of current stuff and a lot of stuff from the 80's & 90's. Check this episode out You also have to check out his Rant of Charles Barkley. Barkley asked for it, IMO.

5. HangUp!!! - Ever had a phone call go WRONG First Time You Should Hang Up!

4 . Corporate Brother - Ever been the only "Black Person" at work or in class. And the non-blacks want to "talk" to you about you being just that. Best episode "The Black History Month Program" Episode 2. But first Episode 1

3. Unwritten Rules - Female version of Corporate Brother. Some of her co-workers are rude also. Based on a Book Yes, (I plan to read) The Hair Episode I swear it's straight from the book of my life.  Episode 1

Okay the Top Two are Both written by the same person  Issa Rae. She has another show "Fly Guys" Kinda cute. Just not for me but check it out, It might be yours.

2. RatchetPiece Theatre - Rae's Vlog were she analyzes some of her favorite Songs, that We All Know the lyrics are Vile, Vulgar, Degrading, Morally Wrong, Ghetto,etc but that Beat makes us bounce our butts to it anyway Oh and she's classy about it too. Need a definition of Ratchet? Episode one, she provides the perfect one. Episode 1

1. Awkward Black Girl (ABG to my possibly annoyed FBF) - You know you are on to something when Pharrell Williams put your Season 2 on his IamOther channel on YouTube. When the main character J. asked if she was only person that acts like she in the video when singing in the car, while singing a new ratchet favorite of mine "Booty Shawts", I was HOOKED. She had me at the first sentence, first scene, & first song of Episode 1 of Season 1. Issa Rae says she was just wanted the "black" Liz Lemon from 30 Rock. She made comedy genius to me. She's awkward at Dating. She's awkward at Work. She has awkward Co-workers (i.e. Germy Patty, "A", Sister Mary, Baby Voice, Darius are Some). She has an awkward BFF. She is Awkward and Black and I love it. (Maybe because I'm a true ABG, also) The show even has character shorts between seasons. Season 1 Episode 1   Season 2 Episode 1

Okay so now you see why I Don't Watch the various Wives, Ex Wives, Love and whatever and all the rest. I'm watching This Stuff. I relate to Web Shows better.

Now these are the one's I like. I am want you to go a look up "Black Web Series" no look up "Web Series"(my next venture, blame the article) and find what you'll. There many out there. Issa Rae and Black Nerd rave about a "reality show" called "K-Town" (Asian version of Jersey Show). Issa Rae also has the "Fly Guys" and soon out "I Hate LA Dudes". I know the makers of "HangUp" also, have "The Couple" & "The Number". On the Iamother channel there's A man on the street show called "StereoTypes" My friends rave about a series about blacks lesbians called "Between Women". There is even a "reality show" about black male strippers suppose to be out. It looked interesting enough. Oh and there are Vlogs Galore. Are you already watching some? What are you watching?

There is Something for everybody. Where TV can let you Web Series can boost you back up. Oh yeah I check my phone still an error message!!! LoL, I'm so Addicted!!!

An Apology!!!

If you want to call this blog “Fifty Shades of an Apology”, Knock yourself out. Yeah, I’ve talked crap about the book but ended up reading it. BIG WHOOP!  Just know that only some that are into the “Fifty Shades of Grey” trilogy get an apology, not all of you.

If you think/thought this book was good because it is/was so romantic and you swoon for Grey, You will get No Apology. I won’t call you Lonely.  I’m southern I’ll say “Bless Your Heart”. The "Love a Person Through it" part was not lost on me, but I told you I like my men as Whole as possible, even the fictional ones. Pick up  “What Looks Like Crazy on an Ordinary Day" or “Some Things I Never Thought I’d Do"  both by Pearl Cleage. Eddie and Blue will make you swoon.  If you thought it was good because it’s really kinky and freaky, You will get No Apology. I'll bet Dollars to Donuts you are waiting for HBO’s “Real Sex” to be a box set so you can have it for your library. The Sex scenes were scan-able after the first two for ME. Plus I’m not into the S&M lifestyle. Hit me, tie/lock me up, or gag me and that is a Fight and I’m calling the police. To Jail, you Go!!!

Now if you like this book for the Drama, Revenge, Crazy People, and the Who Done It, I APOLOGIZE to You.  This is a Good Book (still reading, trying to be done by Opening Ceremonies of the Olympics (may not make it)). Thank my friend R.B. (Close friend, About 65% similar tastes on the popular/trendy stuff) for urging me to read it. Now I thought Book 1 (took me a while to push through it,) ended wonderfully. I didn’t understand why there needed to be a Book 2 or 3. Then Book 2 made me understand what many saw in this Trilogy. Book 3 is cute also. I already know how this end (yes R.B. I cheated) because I read the last chapter after a Chapter 9 was not going my way (Yes I spoil myself not others). But I went back to Chapter 10 and I’m still reading. I’m going to see it through. I’ll even light a fire under one of my male best friends (Mr. White not Lorenzo for the nosey) & my “little brother” B.J. to catch up. It’s that Book 1 hump you have to get over.

So again I APOLOGIZE to those who Liked the “Fifty Shades of Grey” trilogy for the Action. Note I’m still waiting for “Magic Mike” to come to cables, not Pay-Per-View cables, like Premium Cable channels or even Basic Cable channels.

Will Penn State Football Ever Recover?

Frankly I don't care if the university's football program ever get back after these disciplinary sanctions have been handed down by the NCAA. How about will the victims ever recover. Has anyone thought about the student athletes getting their scholarships taken? I'll bet dollars to donut, the answer is NO!  They are Real victims of these sanctions. How are they going to pay for college? Are they going to have to drop out of school?

Fact: Sports bring lots of $$$ to schools. So because of that fact much society has been programmed to put major emphasis one part of a school. If this incident happened in the Geology department after the trial/before the trial in some cases, we would have gone on with our lives. Focus might has been given to the victims instead of the people who didn't do there jobs and tell the authorities i.e. Coach Paterno.

Did you know when Joe Paterno was fired one of Sandusky's victims were bullied and told he was the reason Paterno was ousted? When you hear that does that break your heart? Now think about how he and his fellow victims of Sandusky and their families feel when they see focus put on "W's" being taken away. YES, money will given to programs to help educate about Abuse. But that is a Band-Aid place over a crater of a wound that will possibly take lots of time to heal.

I swear the Priorities in this are screwed. Maybe during the ATHLETIC punishment time for Penn State maybe they can focus on being a Premiere ACADEMIC facility. It is an University, right?