It's Just A Hand!

I can be a Jerk sometimes. I know that is surprising. A nice sweet person like me can be a jerk. *smile* The Lord is yet working on me about that. One issue that brings out the sarcastic a-hole in me is: Being Left Handed. First, enjoy this cute morsel that found me on YouTube



I am a Left-Handed person. I write, cook, eat, and function mainly with my Left Hand.  I was the first in my family to actually write with my left hand. My grandfather was left-handed (who didn't write with his left hand until the 1980's when I did). My youngest aunt is ambidextrous. I didn't know anything was "wrong" until the evening before I started Kindergarten and my grandmother was practicing me write with my right hand. You ask why she would do that. Well back in the "good old'" days of handwriting oppression, children were forced to write with their right hand. Somewhere in the 1970's, we were liberated to write with our left-hands. Well when the school didn't make a big deal about that, she stopped practicing me. So those are my simple beginnings about me left-handed.

Yes, like the video, I groan at scissors, can-openers, desk (hard to copy off me) that made not suited for my left hand. They are a pain, but they don't bring out the jerk in me like right-handed people. I don't understand this statement-questions It's that kind of frustrating that I don't know what kind of sentence it is. "You write with your left hand" or "You're left-handed". I don't understand the amazement of writing with your left hand. It's like they are talking to you like you’re handicapped (I know not PC) and you are breaking the odds. You're left-handed and you writing anyway. You Go Girl! My attitude about it stinks. I can't just ignore it; they expect me to say something. So I decided to be sarcastic. "Yeah, my right hand is trifling & lazy". "Yeah, I don't bother my right hand for menial things like writing and eating". Once as a teen, an elderly minister was shocked that The Teachers let me write with it. I had to remember that like my grandparents, he grew up handwriting oppressed. The pastor spoke before I could because I had a very respectful doozy for him. One day I'll just leave people be. One Day, ONE DAY!

Left-handed people are still people. That's sounds so cliché' but it's true. There is nothing special about being left-handed. Stop being shocked, surprised or amused. I actually got a book scholarship for being left-handed in undergrad. So yeah, it came in handy, Once. Other than that We've adapted well. No One has died because they were a Lefty. It's just a hand.

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Beards

Who watches the show Let's Stay Together on BET? I do! I do! It's a fun show about a couples & family love. I love it. One of the storyline involves a college student who is in a paid relationship with a closeted gay professional athlete. Yes, she is a Beard. That what pop culture has decided to call a straight woman in a known relationship with a closeted gay man. It is to keep up a heterosexual appearance in public. Some are paid. Some are not. All are "helping" out a guy in a "lurch". Well now there is a hitch in this relationship, she's met someone. He knows she dating the athlete but he doesn't know he's gay. Also, the athlete does not want her dating other men. She needs to focus on her education that he is paying for or he will sue for breach of contract.

This is why I could never be a beard. I accept a man honesty to me because there are gay men in relationships with women and the women don't know. My issue with being a beard is squelching my desire to be with a man that wants me. I guess I have never been broke enough that the money and things my gay boyfriend pays that could block my true self, a heterosexual woman. If I was a beard, it's my luck my "perfect" man would come alone. I couldn't let being a beard block that blessing. A man who is not romantically involved with me could not dictate that I could not date another man who is. Now somebody just said "Maybe the datable guy would be okay with it". I don't want to date a man who is "okay" with that arrangement. I want a man who wants me and not some convoluted mess of a relationship I packing with me. I want a man who would think high enough of himself to be a "side piece". I want a man that would be bother with me, as a Beard.

So if you're going to be a beard look over the contract. Think about it with your whole heart.If it is something you agree to fully. Even though I could be a Beard, Could you?

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TV Thursday

Leave if you have not watch the season finales of Big Bang Theory, Grey's Anatomy, or Scandal and plan to. That's your warning.

Now on Facebook I said this about TV Thursday: Season Finale night for TV Thursday. Big Bang Theory, Umm Raj has a girlfriend. So I'm good. Grey's Anatomy's, as long as Meredith does not lose the baby, I'm good. Scandal Since I'm not Team Olitz once all else (Who is Joe Morton's character really) is solved I want Olivia to tell Fitz to screw off Again and next season go back to being a Fixer of other people's scandals and not part of one. #agirlcandream So let's talk about it!

Big Bang Theory: Okay why does Leonard always get to go away from Penny? First the North Pole now the North Sea. When will Penny get to go away from Leonard? I want Penny to get a movie role (1st and foremost) and it is off location. Make Leonard wait for Penny for a change. As for Rajesh, now that he can talk to women with out the aid of liquor maybe the right lady will come along. So HAPPY, the show make Sheldon & Amy have sex. I like that dynamic. I was a little scared after last week that they might keep pushing the envelope.

Grey's Anatomy: Richard might be dead/might be hurt. Yeah, I was shocked. Grey had a healthy baby. Miranda finally rejoined the surgery world. She couldn't let one her "babies" die. Arizona cheated and maybe we can be rid of her selfish a-word. I've never like Arizona. Like the last lady, Callie dated there is forced chemistry. I wish Callie would go back to men. She was more believable with men and not so forced  looking, Even with O'Malley. Arizona left once. In my opinion she should have stayed away. Also she keeps throwing up the plane crash. Callie get the point and let her go. Jackson didn't die and Kepner finally admitted she truly wants him. Did you see the paramedic fiance' see her reaction. Dollars to Donuts that the wedding is off. I am tired of Yang & Owen having the same " break up discussion" about kids. Why is this being rehashed? He wants kids and she does not. Part ways because there is not a grey area in this. Then they cause Richard to fall out where no one can see him. I look up later to see if he is coming back. Either way we get to see Debbie Allen for more episodes. She'll be the grieving girlfriend or the girlfriend worried about his health.

Scandal: Let say it together: DAD!!! I've been wanting to know who Joe Morton's character was and Wham-mo he's Olivia Pope's Father. (My choices for her mother are Debbie Morgan, Phylicia Rashad, Lynn Whitfield, or Mercedes Raul) I am on the fence about him having his daughter murdered. I WANT think that was a tranquillizer about to be shot. If not, dang Olivia! What did you do to TICK daddy that bad. Since I'm not a fan of Team Olitz, I was happy she let Fitz go, Again. I'm tired of it. Olitz is distracting Olivia from being a Fixer, the people's Gladiator. Oh I'm not Team Jake. I might change my mind after the season finale. Even after all his "stalking", I think he might have genuine feeling. The "sleeping with you" comment is not fooling me. I also don't want her or any of the Gladiators to date each other. There is no crying in baseball and there's no romance in the Gladiator ring. Do you sleep with folk at your job? Exactly! She donned the white hat (Loved the choice of Higher Ground by Stevie Wonder as the background music. Genius!!!) to be The Fixer and the cameras in her face. Olivia being Fitz's mistress has been leaked. My money is on the White House (Cyrus (Rowan told him to do it) or Fitz(He's bitter enough)) being the tattlers. I really hope Harrison is not actually her brother. I hate the whole all the black folks related. This is not One Life to Live or All My Children. I will admit I want more story line for Harrison. Why does Olivia trust him so much?

Okay until the Fall, I'll miss TV Thursday. I watch reruns of Big Bang Theory but not of the others. The suspense is not the same. What did you think? What do you want to see happen next season?

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The Tuck

Dallas Independent School District is getting rid of a very archaic part of the student dress code. Students will no longer be required to tuck in their shirts. Read the article HERE I was a senior in high school when the policy started to lightly be enforced. I never liked it. It's just not modest for everyone to tuck in their shirts.

It was around the time when some of the male students made sagging pants and no belts a hardcore fashion statement at school. Some schools made them put ropes around their pants and pull them up. Some did not. The rule made sense to those who wore sagging pants showing their underwear. Then the district decided to suggest "All Student's Shirts to be tucked in". I didn't take it seriously. It was a rare & force occasion for me to tuck in my blouses when I was younger and even then I pulled them out some to make me look more flattering my clothes. The president of the Mother's Board of my childhood church disapproved of it. I dislike ushering near her. She was always stuffing more of my blouse further in my skirt.

The Dean of Instruction of my school must have been kin to her because she saw me one day in 1996, 10 minutes before the first bell, and was outraged. "Young Lady, You Are In Violation Of The Dress Code". I thought it was my skirt. I'm 5'2" with short legs. 2 inches above the knee or the fingertip rules always got me stopped by some teacher but my mini skirt was within the boundaries. Short legs can come in handy. Oh but not this day. She wanted me to tuck in my shirt. I tucked it in and my skirt didn't have belt loops and a belt. It was an elastic waist skirt. With wide eyes, she said, "Let's go to your counselor's office. Because you are not dressed properly and you need to go home". We get to my counselor's office. My counselor asked what was the problem because she had no clue why I was in there if it was not scheduled issues or college-related. The Dean ranted about my outfit and my counselor started laughing. I was told by her to tuck my top in. Then she turn me around and showed the dean my backside. "When she fights because somebody squeezes her side rolls or rubs her hip. Because she will hit them in response. Send her home then. That's what is going to happen if she tucks her shirt in". She looked at me "Go to class". I untucked my top and went on my way. I didn't see the dean until graduation, months later when I shook her hand like the rest of the administration. A few years later DISD and other area school districts made it a rule.

I know the Dean who was very tall and thin did not understand until that day that plus-size, wide hip, large-busted student should not tuck in her clothes. DISD didn't either. My counselor knew she was sending me into a land that included name-callers, junior perverts, and mean girls call a school hallway. With already being awkward, nerdy, and sarcastic I didn't need the drama just because of an untucked top in a place where that was not even a "real" law yet. DISD finally saw it like my counselor and I knew it. School is hard enough without added pressure. One might say "It's just a tucked-in shirt". Say that to the kid who has the back fat, large buttocks, and love handles getting physically harassed every day. All because it is out there for some cruel kid(s) to pick at like it's their right to do so.

So kudos DISD for loosing up on tucked-in shirts. Now belts still need to be enforced because sagging is still an issue. Everyone does not look flattering with a tucked-in shirt. I wonder if that Dean heard this decision and remembered me and the skirt incident. Probably not! LoL

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Let's Converse!!!

Okay it not a secret Nowhere on this Earth that I HATE this fake, gross, made up word, people use called, converste. Yes I hate that word. I don't care if Webster's Dictionary added it to a list some years ago. If it did Not exist  it would not have been added. Oh and yes I roll my eyes at Merriam-Webster for adding that dumb word to the list of acceptable words even if the definition reads "nonstandard form" of Converse

I want to know who was the first dummy who said that word so I can create a cyborg to his time and have it clamp their lips shut and force them to say the correct word, Converse. Converse is not just a brand of sneakers. Converse means to to exchange thoughts and opinions in speech or to talk. Here is the Link if you don't believe me. It's not slang. It's not a speech impediment. It's being stupid. I just don't understand how this wrong word grew to become acceptable to say. I heard LL Cool J say it in "Accidental Racist" and that to me was the worst part of that "eye roll worthy" song. My message to LL Cool J "The correct word is Converse". Say it with me, Con-Verse.

Hey, I might be petty for this blog but it's my blog I can be petty if I want to. I am also not saying all the words I say are grammatically correct. I have to stop myself from saying "Gonna" and say "Going to" many times a days. I really Hate This word. Many potential suitors have become dismissed because that word was spoken from their lips. My jerky return quip when one ask "Can we..."  is "When you learn to converse, you can have my attention". Yes I'm a jerk for that but if he was really interested he would use the proper word, offended or not. (Yes, I have had some correct that word and conversed with me despite me rudely correcting them.) So, let's converse with others about using the Converse instead of it's nonstandard form. Pretty Please? For me? If not tell them to steer clear of Outspoken_Diva because I will correct them in a heart beat.

Okay that's the word that drives me crazy. I think everyone has one, two or a few. What word makes your ears bleed when you hear it? Tell me about it in the comments below.

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Deception of a Cancellation

OK  I am sighing and rolling my eyes this afternoon. The show "Deception" was cancelled by NBC. Even though we have no idea who Vivianne's killer (the point of the show), the show has been killed. I should be used to it. Lots of shows that I like get the ax. I hate how TV Networks do that. Let the shows have at least a proper ending. One special episode this summer could tie it all up in a little bow.

When I see Networks do this to shows, my mind thinks of many shows from just our recent television pact. "My Name is Ear" is one of those shows. If Darnell was not Earl Jr's father, who is? Who did Mona choose Chase or Lorenzo in the show, "Half & Half". There are shows like "Heroes" and "A Gifted Mind" both ended with questions that need answers.

The show that the Networks did  treated the worse in my opinion was the show "Girlfriends". The CW actually said a finale episode episode would cost too much. I was outraged. A Proper Series Finale would cost too much. A long running show that was showing its ending day was not worth the money of a proper goodbye. Wow, who did the research that helped make that decision? The sad reality is that CW said their reason but all the Networks probably feel that way. If they didn't think that way, then why are so many shows cancelled without an ending. It's all about the dollar line not what is actually the proper thing to do.

Oh well Deception joins the rest in the "Unfinished Series Ending" section of the Television Shows Cemetery. Finished or Unfinished great memories of our favorites will forever live in our hearts

Book Review: Ghetto Nation

Okay my Computer went into a coma last week. (Thank God for "just" a coma). So I had a chance to read a whole book within a two day span. I miss the good old days when I had time to really read. It was such a great book I decided to do a book review on it. I used to do them on Myspace and Curvy Chic but I can't remember why I stopped. Maybe because my participation on those sites stopped. I don't even think Curvy Chick is a site anymore

I be Ghetto! The author says it many times in the book. I knew that I had Ghetto tendencies as far  back as middle school. Funny part was I started reading "Ghetto Nation" by Cora Daniels with a major craving for Dill Pickle and a cold glass of Tropical Punch Kool-Aid (Yes, I gave in). Ghetto Nation deals with Society's obsession with "being" and "not being" Ghetto. Ghetto is a mental state of being that is celebrated one minute and frowned upon the next. Written in 2007, not topic is not touch by Daniels. From the names (Naming child after a luxury item to Gwyneth Paltrow's daughter named Apple (I told y'all she be ghetto for that)) to Old Dirty Bastard's & Lil John's true beginnings to Side Lines, Baby Mamas & Baby Daddies and much more. There are even sections after most of the chapters that list common Ghetto Offenses.

After finishing the book I thought, "Wow I be judgmental". Though at times I was rocking back & forth  in agreement like I was reading a great sermon, I also had to say "ouch' sometimes because like in church, Daniels was stepping on my toes. Yes, my descriptions be churchy, LoL.

Ghetto Nation is a must read. I totally recommend it. I thank BlackGirlNerds on Twitter for suggesting it to me. Check it out because you be ghetto, too! *smile*