An October Awareness Look

It is October or it is near depending on when I have time to post this one. So that means we turn our support to  Breast Cancer Research & Domestic Violence Awareness. These are two issues that are near & dear to my heart. I know women who suffered from both. Two of those women being relatives. I'm not in the physical shape to walk or run for them, Yet but I can show my awareness in a way I know would get the message across. I use my makeup looks as that way. Why? Well, I remember when both of those ladies could not wear makeup. I was floored when I found out my relative had to specially order her makeup after her cancer went into remission, She can't just go into the store and pick up stuff off the shelves and try it out. When my Big mouth shot off at my relative not know about basic trends about makeup when I was a teenager, that was when I found out when she was with her abuser, he didn't allow her to wear makeup. Makeup would attract other men. So, it was like she was a least a decade behind the trends, So that is why I bring about awareness with my makeup. If I wear makeup during the month October, I only wear pink & purple makeup. If someone ask me or bring in up, I tell them this is how I bring about awareness about Breast Cancer & Domestic Violence.

The Purple is for Domestic Violence & the Pink is for Breast Cancer. But you knew that.

Okay so in last year's BLOG I told guys I would try to figure out a matching eye to my lips.

Well, I went out on for Valentine's Day and I was wearing a purple top so I made one.

So that plus the lips,
I look like this.
To get the eye I used

Eyeshadow Primer from Avon
Strawberry Milk Jumbo Stick from NYX
Keep Your Pansies On Eyeshadow Chubby by Flower Makeup
Jet Black Eyeliner by Wet ~n~ Wild

Well of course, I had to do something different. So I made another lip ombre. I mean come on that one is pretty standard. Everybody does the bold liner around a gold, pink. or nude lip. I practiced a few ombres I saw on You Tube. Many do the purple to pink ombre.

I didn't like it on me so much. It photographed ok but I real time my top lip looked more hidden than usual. My top lip can be sort of hidden on pic but it real time, that is a no-no. Then I made the grave mistake of doing a lollipop lip with the purple. Never will I ever do that again. I'm too shamed to show that one. Well I finally decided to invert what everyone else was doing and transition pink into purple and I got this.

I love it. I can see my top and bottom lip. It photographed well. It looks go in real time. Plus I might be doing something different. Pair that with my eyes from Valentine's and I got this look for October Awareness month.

It even looks good when I'm not smiling.

LoL

I did this lip look with those products.

Blistex Berry
Clear Lip Liner by Mary Kay
Sublime by Cover Girl
Runway Plum by Sephora Collection
Candid Candy by Sephora Collection
Pink Pop by Maybelline
Blushing Mauve by Revlon

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So this will be how I look this month when I put on makeup.

Oh before I leave I have to show off my newest pin.

I already had a Breast Cancer Awareness pin (probably why it is fading some) but I didn't have a Domestic Violence pin. Well in my search I found this one with the feet. Oh, those feet were so powerful to me. I had to get it. So I'm wearing those all month long.

Again October is not about what I look like or what I wear. It is about conveying a message about two important issues to me. Breast Cancer & Domestic Violence are affecting us all. One will be surprised who is in the fights for their lives because of these two things. So Keep Your Hands, Feet, and Cruelty to Yourself & Save the Ta-Ta's.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Don't Disturb My Fall TV Schedule (2014-2015)

Well, TV season 2014-2015 has officially started. And yeah, I got opinions.

Sunday: It is about three shows for me. Resurrection, Cutthroat Kitchen & Boardwalk Empire

Resurrection gets my TV blood pumping for the beginning of the week. Marty is now one of the Returned. I know this is fiction but seeing a Omar Epps as a deceased Marty made me frown. It was very life like. Also the matriarch of the Langston family has returned also. Maybe be some order & healing can be brought to this family. They need it, so bad.

Cutthroat Kitchen is so good.
The sabotages are so funny. Have you ever thought about preparing you dish in a high chair and cooking on a toy size stove? You don't know how to cook until you do it successfully with one of the sabotages.

This is the final season Boardwalk Empire.

The last season of Nucky time. They say No Goes Quietly.
They are not lying.

Monday: This day will probably be mostly a reading day. LoLo Jones & Tavis Smiley have both been voted off Dancing With the Stars, so I'm out.  I watched Scorpion.

It's just on the "need something to watch" list for me. Actually I read while I watched it.  I'll just wait until Jane the Virgin

comes on next month and declare if Monday is a total "Reading Day" or not

Tuesday: So Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D. sucked me in again. Last season, until the last 4 episodes I would watch this show and regret watching it. Yet, I kept coming back. I have to see it through. I just want this show to get a consistent Black female character that is a Good Guy that will Not die or just seen for one episode (President of the S.H.I.E.L.D Academy’s Science and Technology). That's all I am asking for.

Stepping between a slave and shotgun was the deciding factor for me to watch, Forever.

Dr Henry Morgan is such a noble 35 year old guy. He's seen and experienced so much in life. In the first episode, he died 3 times. Once just to test the murder weapon. I also we see his past and there is a mysterious "he" that decided to call himself Adam, who claims to be living longer than Dr. Morgan.

Wednesday: Oh The Middle is back. This show is so funny. It's my opinion it is millennial version of Roseanne.

Sue Heck is my favorite. Her gung ho attitude reminds me of my niece. First episode dealt with Frankie Heck forgetting the first week of school. My mother never forgot the first day of school but there was a reason why she had copies of the school calendars at work & home.

I liked Blackish. I relate a lot to Blackish. My black experience differs from my mom's and her's differ from my grandmother's. I think that will be the base undertone of this show. How has being black progress And not progressed. I don't know about it being The Cosby Show, so far. The Cosby Show was more smooth with it's "We are Black people" messages. But like Richard Pryor used to say, "We will see".  Love Laurence Fishburne being funny. And Tracie Ellis Ross can never do any wrong in my eyes.

Thursday: You know I was in Shondaland on TV Thursday.
So Grey's Anatomy is now on at 7:00 CST. Remember when it was on Sunday night. I do. I can Not wait until the whole new daughter/sister storyline comes out. Oh Meredith is her usual mean girl self with her and it's going to get worse, IMO. I really think Ms Meredith may already know about Ms. Maggie. Ms. Maggie just don't understand. Her sister treats all her half sisters like that. Wish she could've me Lexie Grey. She would've had some stories for her. And the "Weber giving his baby some lunch money moment" *tears* Bailey ~vs ~ Karev Let's get ready to Rumble

As for Scandal, I am glad Shonda Rhimes heard this Non Fan of Fitz or Jake talking and let Olivia get back to being the Fixer She is without a distraction (Oh even Jake couldn't get in the way)!!! I know it will not last forever but hey, an OUTSPOKEN_DIVA was Happy for at least that episode. Yes, Olivia Pope, the Fixer & OPA are back. Now, "Timed Out" Mellie frightens me a little but I need Mellie to Grieve her little Jack and her Life for a little while. Oh knowing she has Wolf Monkey was Very, Very Gross.

While we talking grieving, Who was not crying at the Harrison Wright funeral? When I die, I want Scandal's music director to do the soundtrack. Baby, I expecting instrumental of "Precious Lord" or "Amazing Grace" but Shonda brought out Aretha Franklin's version of "Like a Bridge Over Trouble Waters". I'm already in my feelings like the young ones say and she go and do this. But then Shonda Rhimes productions does do music right.

Say it with Annalise Keating and me, How to Get Away With Murder (Murdaahh).

Okay so we (and her students) get to study her actual cases as they are being litigated. That is good, I like when character's actually do their jobs. But the two, yes two backdrop stories, both being deaths, well possible murders and one of those being the death of Annalise's husband are great. When I finally saw it was Sam Keating in the carpet that was rolled up, I gasped.  There is all kinds of "Who Dunnit" in this show and I Love it. Also, there is all kinds of natural sensuality on this show. Annalise is very smooth and very vixen like even in her professional life. I thought her very gorgeous boyfriend, Detective Leahy was her husband at first. I just thought they were being kinky at the office. That's how natural their relationship looked to me. Once I saw her husband, I understood why he married her. Keating is very smoldering Diva. Get it Viola, Get it.

Friday: I only have one show I must watch the rest isn ONDemand catch ups

I love The Amazing Race. It's got action and travel. The two teams I am cheering for are the Food Scientists and the Flight Attendants (Mother & Daughter). The first team I wanted gone is gone. All I can say is, Karma is a b-word. I love that it is on Fridays. Football and other sports on Sunday can't push it back in the schedule to the point where we can't see it.

My shows I will catch up on ONDemand this year are

New Girl & The Mindy Project: They moved Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D from 7 to 8 so I have to watch my Adorkable sheroes later in the week.

Red Band Society: I have a sore spot for sickly kids. I was raised one. I have treated a few. This show is really good.
Ever volunteer on a children's wing of a hospital and she will understand.

BigBang Theory:Yeah since I am in Shondaland on Thursday the antics of lovable nerds like me (Bernadette) has to be seen on Friday once they move them back from Monday soon.

I will tell you now that towards the end it got a little emotional for me. I used to discuss a lot of this with Football Nerd. Football Nerd was "my person" when it came to Grey's Anatomy (not in life I don't have one person I'm too complex for just one). I was cool and then I went to message him and the cry face started.

Watching Harrison Wright's funeral didn't help any at all. I've avoided watching funerals since that day. I'm not strong enough yet. Then, The Amazing Race came on. It was already hard not talking about who we would be cheering for but then the first destination of the Virgin Islands made my heart drop. He spent some time in there as a child. They took a flight on a "crop duster" to get to the another part of the island and I remember some of his stories and a few pictures of him in a school uniform. Maybe he was watching with me. Maybe that was his way of telling me. Maybe I'm stretching it. LoL Resurrection help me heal a little. I saw a tweet while live tweeting, "I'll be happy that my love ones came back from the dead. A little scared but happy". I agree with that tweet. Also, I know Jesus would have to be coming back, so that would be shouting time.  :-) Just pray for me, I'm healing but, it such the process.

That is what I will be watching the season. Let's see if I'll have have to modify the schedule, I will say, So far, So good.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Oh the Angry Black Woman (I Blame Pop Culture)

Okay before you read this, go check out this ARTICLE, if you have not already.

It is already bad enough with reality television constantly playing up the image of the Angry & Sassy ("Coming for you again, soon" warning) Black Woman. Here come Ny Times writer,

Alessandra Stanley and her very hurt butt article about her disapproval of the the image of black women Shonda Rhimes uses in her shows. Alessandra Stanley called

Shonda Rhimes, an Angry Black woman for creating non docile black female characters as leads. Stanley does not view Miranda Bailey, Olivia Pope and the newest character added, Annalise Keating as heard working heroines. She gives that compliment to Esther Rolle when she played Florida the maid on Maude & benign mother also lawyer, Clair Huxtable. I want Stanley to watch the beginning video of Clair Huxtable and wonder will she still call her benign. Lord, I just got Clair Huxtable put on Stanley's "Angry Black Woman Lead" list.

When I read this article I immediately thought of this meme.

Even Stanley's beloved Florida Evans on Maude probably wanted to tell her,

 when it came to Stanley's green eyed feeling of  Shonda Rhimes. So unless, Black women are help the women succeed in the background, she should not be seen on scripted television. Or if she not helping the white person be the best they can, she can only be a gentle mother aiding her family through life. Alessandra Stanley lives in a trivial past filled with stereotypes on her television only. Stanley need to turn the past off and go step into the real world. She must have never heard the real Crisis Management, "Fixer", Judy Smith.

I doubt Ms Smith is docile in her job. Stanley clearly has never truly seen a medical or law professor "terrorize" their student into being the best they can. I was a nursing & nutrition student. I have had some terrorizing instructors. I'll take her to Lamar University and let her meet my Basic Foods instructor who took ten points off every time a student said cooking term wrong. When she get's a 30 for the day, I bet she'll understand some instructors are like that. Then she wants to talk about the morals of the characters of Pope & Keating. Where was her morality finger waving when Rhimes introduced up to Addison Montgomery (formerly Shepherd)

on Grey's Anatomy later on the now cancelled Private Practice. Derick Shepherd would've never came to Seattle Grace and met Meredith Grey had Addison never cheated on him. Oh and she complained about the rantings and long speeches of the Angry Black Women leads. Umm remember Meredith Grey's "Choose Me" speech. Am I "nitpicking"?

Those are even the most egregious parts of the article.

"As Annalise, Ms. Davis, 49, is sexual and even sexy, in a slightly menacing way, but the actress doesn't look at all like the typical star of a network drama. Ignoring the narrow beauty standards some African-American women are held to, Ms. Rhimes chose a performer who is older, darker-skinned and less classically beautiful than Ms. Washington, or for that matter Halle Berry, who played an astronaut on the summer mini-series “Extant.”

My mind exploded at  less classically beautiful. So, now Alessandra Stanley is an expert on Black Beauty.

Halle Berry is somewhere, wishing Stanley had not brought her name into this typecast based article. It is Shonda Rhimes' show. She can show the off the wonderful beauty of the Black skin tone rainbow if she wants. Dark-skinned woman, heck any-skinned don't only play servants & sidekicks to white people. Don't let racism and pop culture fool you. There is not one single written down rule about that. If it was, it would still get broken because Hollywood breaks the rules all the time. Then we wonder why a "Dark-Skin Girls" documentary had to be made. Stanley needs to know that is not the Black standard of beauty. That is the White standard of beauty that was fed to all of us. The problem is those that keep eating it and won't feast on another dish.

Now if you think Shonda Rhimes didn't respond to Alessandra Stanley. Huffington post covered it very well  HERE. My Twitter timeline was full of Ms. Rhimes rebuttal tweets and us fans agreeing with her. I loved how she informed the writer & creator of the article. In my opinion, all Alessandra Stanley had to say is, "I don't like Shonda Rhimes work. I prefer the black women characters of the past" when asked to review the new show "How to Get Away With Murder". I did my research on Ms Stanley. This is not her first time not doing her job correctly. She misspelled the name of Everybody Loves Raymond. She accused Geraldo of a nudge that never happened and much more. Maybe that is why she is so hard hitting Shonda Rhimes. She can't do her job correctly so, she'll make somebody else look bad. Alessandra Stanley, you failed, majorly.

Oh Well, this time next week we'll be talking about the Shondaland shows that fill our Thursday primetime lives. Alessandra Stanley's critical piece will fade away. No, I'm not Angry at her. I pray for her and others that continue to ingest the images the Pop Culture that tells are the only proper definitions of people.

I'm sorry, we are All more than that definition, even the definitions.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Not Interested in Dating...The Marital Separation Guy

I wasn't going to tackle this topic. I thought when I introduced this series, this topic stood as one of the cut & dry No's. But thanks to my very recent past and a web show I watch (because of spoilers I won't tell you which one. Just go watch all of them on Black and Sexy TV. (I like all of them but one)) clearly I might be in a minority mindset.

Marital Separation is still Married in my opinion. You are not single. Separated men are still legally attached to their wives. She is your wife until the state approves your divorce decree. Legally married are still married. I really don't understand why is it that hard to understand.

Again I think I might be the minority on this one. Maybe I missed the message of possible acceptability during my previous dating hiatuses. I knew at my "advanced" age in the dating game, that separated men were out there.

Few months ago, I had to hurt a man's feelings because of his marital status. He lied because of my advanced age in dating, I asked him was he single, dating, separated, or divorced. Well, he said he was divorced. Once the mutual person we know heard we went out, that was when I found he was still divorcing. Had been for quite some time. So I told him it was cool to know him maybe hang out in group settings only but I would not be going on any dates with him anymore. He now acts like I am "Stuck Up" for my decision. I am dodging all kinds of bullets with this one. I don't want to date someone who is still married and I am wrong. Well, I Will be Wrong!!!

On one of the web shows I watch, somebody seems to have a change of heart. It was so obvious this could've happened. They were legally married, separated, and living in the same home at one point in the story.  But one of the couples finally moved out and is dating someone else and the one regretting their decision just come from a date. That is a mess. Red Flags are everywhere.

So, whether you can date a person maritally separated or not remember they are still married. I can't handle it. Between the possible "knee jerk" reactions and the emotional healing, a guy needs to experience, who would want to date a "separated" person anyway. We've all seen it. Heck, a small percentage of divorce people get back together so you know separated people maybe reconciling is greater. And every breakup, in my opinion, needs healing time. I told you guys I date whole men. A whole man doesn't come to a relationship with emotional baggage that he needed to unload. Get the proper legal decree and do the psychological work out the way and then ask me out.

I still think this shouldn't have to be said. It's a relationship no-brainer, in my opinion. Well, don't say you were not told. My life so, my opinion rules.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

One Day... (What I Wear)

Yep, blame Phyllis Nefler for my near life-long fashion goal.

I want a dress cape. I got close in 1998 to buying a dress suit with a cape but I only had $100 and that particular suit was $375. I settled for this great Kasper Scarf Suit. I loved that suit.

It's no secret I love to dress up. Oh it was nothing for me to dress up "just because" in high school and college. Probably one of the reasons I was referred as "Dime Piece" behind my back at Lamar University. I didn't care if I was overdressed just to go to class. If I wanted to dress up, I did. I'm not a flip flops and jeans everyday type of girl.

As little girl, I often day dreamed about the flair and flash of being stylish. You walk in and command attention without saying a word.Nothing demands attention like a cape. I used to take my outer coat off with flair just practice for the day I wore cape. Amazingly enough, no one ever asked my why. I see capelets on suits are becoming popular again.

They are cute. I've tried a few on. I didn't like me in one. I look restricted. I'll stick to a full cape. Long or short, they all are cute. And I know I would be cute in one. Preferably in Navy Blue or Heather Grey since I don't wear all black suits. Plus an all black suit with a cape look rather vampire like. LoL That reminds me of a bank/cops/comic book store story I'll have to tell you guys, one day. Keyword is One Day.

Ooh I came across this beauty of a bridal gown.

If I wasn't so clumsy and fear tripping over it on big day, I would consider wearing a cape on my wedding if I have a cool weather wedding. I can just see me arriving to the beginning of the aisle, opening my cape to reveal my dress like Shelley Long in Troop Beverly Hill and then starting my walk to my groom. I told you, I love the flair aspect of dressing. All eyes should be on me on that day anyway so, let me give them something to see. ☺☺☺

So that is something I want to wear. I guess you can say a suit cape is on my Fashion Bucket list. When I get one, I'll post a blog about it and let you guys know. And if you see one that you think would good on me, don't be afraid to point me in it's direction or even better get it for me as a gift. ☺☺☺

 Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms