OMG How to Get Away with Murder focused on a case about Domestic Violence in October. I was so stoked. I often get somewhat frustrated in October because more focus is brought to Breast Cancer Awareness than Domestic Violence.
I know it's because the attitudes & opinions surrounding Domestic Violence so, when I see popular cultural talk about Domestic Violence in October, my heart swells. So last Thursday night, my heart was Very full.
So after Annalise Keating got into fighter stance and confronted her husband about his peen being on the dead girl's phone, we are brought into a case where a young man kills his father for abusing his mother. The father was a cop so the wife felt she could not go to the police because who would believe her. Annalise Keating knew that the case depended on the emotional opinion of the jury. They discuss how things like gender, race, and other similarities should be considered in jury selection. Then the prosecuting attorney requests to have any discussion of the domestic violence barred and her request is granted. Keating and her band of students seemed screwed. So they have to come up with a way to wiggle abuse talk back into the courtroom and work on the mindset of the jury.Well through digging through a few years worth of the boy’s blog, they get what they need to have the abuse entered. Then one juror gets kicked off for a statement about how cop killers deserve to die made in a magazine.
Keating is finally delivering her closing argument in the domestic violence/murder case and Laurel finds a stack of papers explaining what jury nullification is and she “accidentally” leaves it on a bench for one of the jurors to find. Frank sees her, tells Keating and she swing this total illegal move to her advantage and the case end in mistrial, plea deal, and the boy gets probation, community service and counseling.
During the trial the police unity in the courtroom was grossly powerful. The sat there like a silent wal of blue. Here are my foremost feelings on those scenes while live tweeting during the show.
Like the first juror who got kicked off, it featured some the attitudes of Domestic Violence. It is as though all the police saw was that someone killed a fellow brother in blue. I bet none of them personally looked into if the abuse was true or not. Hate to see what had happened if the young man was found guilty of murder. A few possible scenarios in my mind don't have him living to see prison thanks to the police.
Well, Salute to the writers of How to Get Away With Murder and all of Shondaland for focusing on Domestic Violence. It may or may not have been a deliberate storyline to be shown this month but it was shown. Like I said earlier Breast Cancer Awareness is the more popular focus in October. Hey, they could have given Annalise a Breast Cancer scare yet they chose a the least popular emphasis. For the purpose of using slang, I see ya! I see ya!!!
Disclaimer: No particle of air was grabbed or neck muscle worked in the writing of this blog.
Now, I told the Sassy Black Woman I was coming for her neck. I think this myth, the Fat Motherly/Jolly Black Woman and the All Fashion/Beauty Knowing Gay Man actually make me an Angry Black Woman. I should LoL at that but yeah, I won't. I hate those myths!!! Fat Motherly/Jolly Black Woman myth might as well get ready for me to pop their balloon one day.
I am an educated black woman. I read a news magazines & professional journals monthly. I engage myself in the news daily. On paper I look like this.
Thanks to pop culture though even with all that I do, in the eyes of mainstream America I still look like this.
That is one of the images put in front of everyone, Ms. Sassy & Strong. Somebody may have read my description of myself and envisioned me with pursed lips, moving my neck around in a circle and waving my finger or hand grabbing air.
Though I have can, and do act like that at times that is not how I talk all the time. Very few black women do. I was buddies with a few black women that I never saw work their neck at anytime I was in college.
Don't let reality show conversation and black pop icons like Sandra Clark fool you into think there are no such people like nerdy black women, awkward black girls like Issa Rae,
or happy & demure black women, (which amazing enough I Googled that and got shoe pictures. See what I am saying.) And don't let shows like this "Girlfriends Intervention" (didn't get Not one Nielsen rating point out of me) make you think this is the way one acts so she can be a strong, confident, & Alpha-like woman no matter what race she is.
The Sassy Black woman is a caricature like the Angry & Strong Black women.
Caricature means a picture, description, or imitation of a person or thing in which certain striking characteristics are exaggerated in order to create a comic or grotesque effect. The synonyms are cartoon, parody, satire, lampoon, a mimic. I don't like people thinking that all I am is a satire to be made fun of. Thinking that I act like the lyrics of a Jay-Z song
I got this black chick that don't know how to act
She's always talking out her neck, making her fingers snap
She says, "Listen, Jiggaman, I don't care if you rap
You better R-E-S-P-E-C-T me"
— Jay-Z, "Girls, Girls, Girls"
all the time is Not cool. We all should to wave their finger in the face of Pop Culture and it's definition of the Sassy Black woman. That can be done by showing more images of black women acting as non-caricatures but as human as everyone else.
So I was talking on Facebook (where they know my name) and may have mentioned me 100% being happy with Bath & Body Works again. Well, Bath & Body Works are back in my good graces. I gave them a small frown a few years ago. They discontinued my favorite scent, Vanilla Noir. I finally smelled the new Wild Madagascar Vanilla. Vanilla Noir has been reincarnated.
Well, a FBF asked me how did I like it after purchasing a few days later. I can say I truly still like it. I told y'all in the BLOG, Ooh, You Smell Nice (What I Wear) about my favorite Bath and Body Works scents, Vanilla Noir.
Madagascar vanilla with black plum, bergamot and seductive musk that is call Vanilla Noir makes me smell glamorous....Maybe I should start a petition to make Bath and Body Work put Vanilla Noir back in the rotation.
Well, the fragrance gods whispered to Bath and Body Works about my last bottle of Vanilla Noir that was dwindling. They felt my sadness and took me starting a petition seriously and developed Wild Madagascar Vanilla. Okay I am stretching it far but they did come out the Fall with the new scent, that smells very similar to Vanilla Noir.
I did my research before I went in to smell it. The Notes are similar but not the same. Vanilla Noir's notes are Madagascar Vanilla, Dark Vanilla Bean, Black Plum, Dark Berries, Bergamot, Gardenia, Carnation, Vanilla Orchid, Tuberose, Whipped Toffee, Cinnamon, Cashmeran, White Sandalwood and Creamy Musk. The notes for Wild Madagascar Vanilla are Madagascar Vanilla, African Pear, Sparkling Clementine, Ruby Apple, Wild Jasmine, Wild Gardenia, Heliotrope Petals, Golden Plumeria, White Sandalwood, Creamy Musk. The only thing that worried me was the gardenia with plumeria. I'm not a fan of either scent by themselves and I could not imagine both together.
So, I stiffed the the preview bottle and the a wonderful memory came to me immediately. Bath and Body got me the purchase the Wild Madagascar Vanilla collection. And I can even say even after a few days, I'm still in love. It's mature, sexy. and long lasting with being over powering. Things that I love in any fragrance I wear.
Bath and Body Works that sign is for you. My last bottle of Vanilla Noir was getting mighty low and I couldn't afford what Ebay and Amazon sellers are charging, Maybe Wild Madagascar Vanilla will become a classic like Country Apple, PearBerry, or Warm Vanilla Sugar. One can hope, can't she.
On Facebook I said: Okay my fellow Shondaland fans, I have a feeling tonight's #TGIT might give me a clear theory on #HowToGetAwayWithMurder & more wishful thinking for #GreysAnatomy & #Scandal #Gladiators. So as I say on Twitter,#ExpectABlog
Well here is said blog.
I'm going to go in order of latest to earliest show order. So, I will start
with "How to Get Away with Murder".
I have one minor observation well actually funny ha ha observation. No, it is not about Annalise Keating's
wig.
Even Viola Davis has no good clue why she is wear that thing. The nape of
it is... look just get Annalise some better looking hair. How did she get that fine, fine, Nate with that hair? No, my funny observation
ages me. Is it me or does
Alfred Enoch resemble C. Thomas Howell in the movie
"Soul Man". I laugh every week at that. Spoiler alert but Mark &
Sarah (who happen to be in law school) makeup at the end.Wes Gibbons could be
their child. An appearance by them as his parent, could happen. Alright, that's
the wishful thinking. Now for my theory. Sam Keating's murder may have been an
accident. He goes to confront Rebecca and it got violent and he's dead. She
called Wes and the other students and they "help" her. Annalise
Keating does Not know her husband is dead, right now. The point of the show is
"How we, Keating's client & students got away with the murder &
cover up of her husband". This will be a big cat & mouse game with one
question, Will Annalise Keating ever find out?
Okay I'll admit this
"Fixer Only Fan" has been enjoying Olitz free episodes to think about
many possible Scandal theories. I only have one. There may be a Mellie vs
Olivia showdown. I'm not talking about Mellie's Folders of Men tactics. Mellie is
finally going to fight for her husband. And if this
Mellie with fleece wear and
chicken in tow shows up, my money is on her.
Still don't feel sorry
for Cyrus Beene and his hair plugs he got that happens to look like a dead muskrat. He
can grieve screw that prostitute all he wants. His now lonely butt should not
have had James, his husband killed.
I'm full of wishful
think when it comes to this show. Harrison may Not be dead, just shot. Quinn
brought the information. They had a Graveside burial. Lord know who was in the
casket. Oh and Eli Pope is involved. He could've hid him off like he did Maya.
Also, Harrison still could be Olivia's brother. At the funeral it came out that
Harrison was reared in a group home. The actual reason why Eli put him away (one
way or the other), He could be the love child Maya and Dominic. Not because
Harrison put 2+2 together.
Again wishful thinking, Isiah Washington came
back for a moment, if Columbus Short gets his head and issues straight, he
could too.
Where is Sally Langston?
I know she lost the election but Fitz needed to make her Secretary of State. I
know over in her Ellis Grey world, she has daughter coming out the woodwork but
she needs to be on Scandal. She worked well as the conservative in the White
House. I miss "Yum, Yum, Piggy Piggy".
Speaking of Ellis Grey,
Maggie Pierce is her daughter. Her reaction to Weber finally admitting he was
her dad, told me so. If she didn't act like Meredith, I don't who did.
Sad to
say but Meredith will be the healer in the broken family drama. That's my
theory. Oh and who is buying this Ellis grey didn't know she was pregnant
story. Umm, why were she & young Meredith in Boston? My theory is she and
possibly Adele, Weber's wife knew she was pregnant. Ellis went to Boston to have
the baby and give it up for adoption quietly so that her husband Thatcher (who
is Cyrus Beene on Scandal) wouldn't find out. Also not to cause any more drama
in the Weber household. Thatcher may have been told by Ellis or Adele before
their deaths both from Alzheimer's disease.
Another theory is Karev may have
conceded the board position to the Bailey. Oh and I see him snidely admitting
that to her when he can't get something done from her.
If have a feeling
Derrick will go test the waters in DC anyway because of this upcoming fight
between Meredith and he. Could we get a Grey's Anatomy/Scandal crossover show
via Derrick Shepherd?
Yeah, its wishful think but I bet I gave you something to
think about.
That all this is, my
thoughts so far on the current seasons of TGIT. I'll be back sometime around
the holidays during the winter hiatus. Let's see if my change or was I on to
something.
I may be in the 5% of the population that may not see suggested or hidden sex & sexuality. That is because I in the percentage that will see racism. I don't tell you guys but there so many racist sighting blogs I've have attempted to write but then I feel like a racist conspiracy believer and erase them. But I see racism a lot in the media, movies, TV, & commercials. I almost wrote about a Twix commercial recently but I hit delete. Some of it makes me upset. It started when I was 10 and I saw this cartoon called "The Fighting 69 1/2th" on TNT.
Watch the clip above and tell me what you see. Yep, the black any with the big lips and Eddie "Rochester" Anderson accent saying, "Forgot the Mustard" made me upset. I didn't "see" the Watermelon scene until I was older because I didn't know that stereotype until I was older. My mind was awakened then. After that I decided for a few years not to watch "classic cartoons". I have now been taught & grown to understand "that was the times". Comedy featuring blatant racist, sexist, homophobic jokes were common in early entertainment. And to paraphrase a Maya Angelou quote, When we know better, we do better.
Now, The companies Amazon & Apple-owned ITunes are trying to "do better". On it's Prime services, subscribers can watch classic Tom & Jerry cartoons. The cartoons come with a disclaimer that says:
"Tom and Jerry shorts may depict some ethnic and racial prejudices that were once commonplace in American society. Such depictions were wrong then and are wrong today.
The original "Tom and Jerry" ran from 1940 - 1957. It was about the rivalry of Tom Cat and Jerry Mouse and had many other characters. One of those characters was named Mammy Two Shoes, voiced by Lillian Randolph.
She was a plus size, darker hue black American maid (I thought it was her house until this topic came up) that wears house dresses & slippers and has a stereotypical black southern accent. When she yells "Thomas" when referring to Tom it sounds like she says "Tom-Mus". Also she uses is in place of are and am ("is you" and "I is"). I totally understand how she is perceived as wrong. As a child I never understood why she spoke like that. Now, her clothing was not offensive to me. She was cleaning the house what was she suppose to wear. But being the 40's and 50's, that how Hollywood thought people act. But again, We know better, We do better. Amazon & Apple decided to show the cartoon in it's original form (An act I agree with because cutting around it make the cartoon dumb) but let subscribers understand that these images were, are and will continue to be wrong. Wording that is actually similar to disclaimers on DVD releases. I commend these companies for these disclaimers. I said this on a FB comment on a post by a FBF. I was taught to ""Consider the time period" but the problem is now we are finding out many were/are not truly been/being taught about the time period. I think is why the disclaimer was slapped on. If they hit "Tom & Jerry", I just hope many of the Looney Toon & Warner Bros cartoons get hit also." I don't want another 10 year old discovering the subliminal racist, sexist, homophobic, etc images like I did when watching "Classic" Cartoons and Shows made by Warner Bros, MGM and others in the past. This is one time I say if parents and school are not teaching about the past let the TV (Video Service in this case) teach them. At least this lesson taught in these two sentences will be teaching them against something and not the "Anything Goes" lesson it has the reputation of teaching.
Now, I want to watch "Tom & Jerry" but I will not watch "The Fighting 69 1/2th". LoL
The clip is the first episode of a show I used to watch called "The Number" that was on one of my favorite Youtube channels Black & Sexy. Premise a couple have a monumental event happen in their life and they decide to reveal the number of sex partners each has had. One person's was higher than the other and the story goes awry from there. The show was a trip.
I am a person that does Not reveal her number or want to know a person's number.
Unless you are a virgin, the number of people you have slept with shouldn't matter if you care about the person. But with our minds warped by society's varied opinions about sexual purity, it does. Let me say this clearly. If your number is too Low, you are either Lying or Not Experienced Enough. If the number is too High, you are a Whore. We've all judged people by their "number". We've all been judged by our "number" Oh men yes, women judge you by the number of sexual partners you have. I knew a guy, I was not sleeping with and the topic came up and he said he tried to count but lost count.
I think that might have been the day I decided not to ever know "The Number" ever again. That was scary to know. Sad, but I judge part of that guy's life of how women he slept with. His number could have been low and he just had a bad memory.
But then what is low or high. Actually, in my humble opinion, there is no set acceptable number of sexual partners. Some people feel like any number over 1, the person you're married to is too many. Some people think over 10 is too many. Some people think if you've had under 10 sex partners by the time you are over age 25, you are lying. The proper "number" is based on opinions and not facts.
But factually, a person can sleep with one person and still contract HIV/AIDS. A person can sleep with many and still be sexually ignorant. A person can sleep with many and never contracted an STI or STD. A person can sleep with one person and be totally knowledgeable about all kinds of sexual information.
The "Number" doesn't tell you that and much much more important information that needs to be done when engaging in a sexual relationship.
That is why I want to deal with facts & Not numbers. Again 0 is the only number that reveals a fact.
So, yeah do Not ask me that. I'm Not telling you and I will not be asking you. I will be asking you more substantial questions that will determine whether we will ever sleep together. Hope that's not an issue. Hey, I'm celibate so, I can hold out. *smile*
It is October or it is near depending on when I have time to post this one. So that means we turn our support to Breast Cancer Research & Domestic Violence Awareness. These are two issues that are near & dear to my heart. I know women who suffered from both. Two of those women being relatives. I'm not in the physical shape to walk or run for them, Yet but I can show my awareness in a way I know would get the message across. I use my makeup looks as that way. Why? Well, I remember when both of those ladies could not wear makeup. I was floored when I found out my relative had to specially order her makeup after her cancer went into remission, She can't just go into the store and pick up stuff off the shelves and try it out. When my Big mouth shot off at my relative not know about basic trends about makeup when I was a teenager, that was when I found out when she was with her abuser, he didn't allow her to wear makeup. Makeup would attract other men. So, it was like she was a least a decade behind the trends, So that is why I bring about awareness with my makeup. If I wear makeup during the month October, I only wear pink & purple makeup. If someone ask me or bring in up, I tell them this is how I bring about awareness about Breast Cancer & Domestic Violence.
The Purple is for Domestic Violence & the Pink is for Breast Cancer. But you knew that.
Okay so in last year'sBLOG I told guys I would try to figure out a matching eye to my lips.
Well, I went out on for Valentine's Day and I was wearing a purple top so I made one.
So that plus the lips,
I look like this.
To get the eye I used
Eyeshadow Primer from Avon
Strawberry Milk Jumbo Stick from NYX
Keep Your Pansies On Eyeshadow Chubby by Flower Makeup
Jet Black Eyeliner by Wet ~n~ Wild
Well of course, I had to do something different. So I made another lip ombre. I mean come on that one is pretty standard. Everybody does the bold liner around a gold, pink. or nude lip. I practiced a few ombres I saw on You Tube. Many do the purple to pink ombre.
I didn't like it on me so much. It photographed ok but I real time my top lip looked more hidden than usual. My top lip can be sort of hidden on pic but it real time, that is a no-no. Then I made the grave mistake of doing a lollipop lip with the purple. Never will I ever do that again. I'm too shamed to show that one. Well I finally decided to invert what everyone else was doing and transition pink into purple and I got this.
I love it. I can see my top and bottom lip. It photographed well. It looks go in real time. Plus I might be doing something different. Pair that with my eyes from Valentine's and I got this look for October Awareness month.
It even looks good when I'm not smiling.
LoL
I did this lip look with those products.
Blistex Berry
Clear Lip Liner by Mary Kay
Sublime by Cover Girl
Runway Plum by Sephora Collection
Candid Candy by Sephora Collection
Pink Pop by Maybelline
Blushing Mauve by Revlon
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So this will be how I look this month when I put on makeup.
Oh before I leave I have to show off my newest pin.
I already had a Breast Cancer Awareness pin (probably why it is fading some) but I didn't have a Domestic Violence pin. Well in my search I found this one with the feet. Oh, those feet were so powerful to me. I had to get it. So I'm wearing those all month long.
Again October is not about what I look like or what I wear. It is about conveying a message about two important issues to me. Breast Cancer & Domestic Violence are affecting us all. One will be surprised who is in the fights for their lives because of these two things. So Keep Your Hands, Feet, and Cruelty to Yourself & Save the Ta-Ta's.
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