The stereotypical Male voice is very sexy to me. Tones ranging from Brad Garrett to James Earl Jones make me swoon.
But a deep voice can be just that, A Deep Voice if he doesn't speak or communicate well. Now a man who speaks grammatical English, that doesn't mumble or say uh, huh, nah mean, and other slang all the time make my head turn around everytime. Especially a Black Man.
That's how I met my "little brother", BJ. Nothing about him was/is attractive to me. Matter of fact I had wrote a narrative about him while just looking at him months before meeting him in the dining hall at Lamar University. (I wasn't far off once I met him.) Then at lunch one day with others I heard him talk. I stared at his mouth like whatever he was saying was gold. I made him a little uncomfortable. I explain that I liked Black men who spoke correct grammar.
It is appealing to hear speech like that because I can understand what they are saying. I know what they mean, I don't need urban dictionary to have a conversation with these men. I don't have to ask him to repeat that because what he said is clear. When a man says, "Hello! How are you?" when he approaches me I know to reply "Hi. I'm fine and yourself". He and I can converse. I honestly don't know what to say to "Say, Say, Baby, Uh Uh Say". That guy must want to conversate. And contrary to what the Webster's dictionary will accept, I Never want to conversate with anyone.
A man who speaks "Proper" let's me know that this guy and I have at least one thing in common. 65% -80% of grammar class was learned. Whether we have anything else in common, at least I know that in the end I will be able understand what he said. I know a man's diction says nothing about his character. Trust me I know some men that speak well and and are very gross people. I also know some very nice guys that speak a lot of slang.
If they ever let me have my way, mumblers would be be sent to a talking rehab as soon as I hear them talk. Speak up or you can go to jail. Mumblers drive me batty.
So hats off the those sexy talking men out there.
I know what you are saying. And how you are saying it is hot. Come talk to me sometimes. Conversation Only!!!
Okay you guys have read some of the types of men I not interested in dating. It was a series that was started with me saying why I don't dated ministers, preachers & pastors (Link is Here). Then it became a series (Intro Link is Here). Thank you for reading that series (well all the series & post for that matter). I do have more (Gold Teeth wearers get ready) but I also want to focus on the characteristics of the men that I am attracted to.
The things that at least get OUTSPOKEN_DIVA to want to put herself in your eyesight. These characteristics are not what is appealing to the eye. It's not that simple. These attributes are not all common attributes. Some are even things that even I didn't always know how to describe intelligently or correctly.
Are these guys I date? Maybe & maybe not. Sometimes what is appealing to the the senses is Not appealing overall. But you guys (since most of my readers are over 25 years of age) know that by now. I say this because if there are people who annoyingly like to set me up on dates all the time are reading this, don't take too many notes, make a wrong set up and get your feelings hurt. This is just a series to balance "Not Interested in Dating" out a little.
So have fun reading because I will have fun typing. *blushing*
*sigh* It's been a year! Just been a year!! It's Just Been A Year!!! *tears*
Track 78
Still unbelievable that the Eternal Songwriter finish Track 78
I miss the melody & lyrics of Track 78
Maybe because parts of Track 78 was apart of my Life song
A Life song that someone else will name when the Eternal Songwriter finished writing it
Don't know what notes & rhythms he will add to the sheet music of my heart
Just like adding Track 78 to his Greatest Hits compilation
It's his work to compose
Well, last night was the season finales of Grey's Anatomy & Scandal for the 2014 -2015 TV Season. Both shored up some open holes. Grey's Anatomy was good at it. Scandal was not as good for me.
Let's start with Scandal. I have to admit this season has be so-so for me. After Olivia was freed and Andrew was given a stroke, I was mostly underwhelmed. And that was even when I was given so many episodes of Olivia the Crisis Management Fixer(I am Not a Fitz or Jake fan). The Controversial Black teen shooting was great. I sobbed.
But like the episode when Marla Gibbs came looking for her friend who was Olivia's neighbor. The boring reveal that those little old ladies were lovers was not needed. Old people can be friends and seriously care about their well being. Whenever my grandmother makes her transition, all her little Mission sisters & Garden Club buddies will be there crying almost as hard as us. Go to a funeral of an old person, there are swarms of their buddies there boo-hooing, talking to long and to much and trying to run stuff. And I doubt they were sexing it up with each other. So I should've known the season finale would let me down some.
Okay so we found out what or rather who is Foxtail. It was Mellie and Eli/Rowan Pope finally got an audience with her. He posed as a donor for her Senate campaign and she then finds out he was there to blackmail her so he could get his hands on a list. The list provided was the list of the Grand Jury in the case against B-613. The next thing you know all 16 jurors & the stenographer are killed. Mellie put 2 & 2 together and went to Cyrus and he handled it.
Rosen stepped away from the case & Olivia went to work taking down command aka her father Eli/Rowan. She tried with the advice of her mother but ended allowing her father to cover his bases and "kills off" Rowan.
Mama Pope is let out her confinement as a result also. Then the idea about following the money finally hit Olivia (She only watched The Wire, once so she didn't know) and Eli is arrested for money laundering.
Yes, I'm still butt hurt about that
Now over at the Mellie/Fitz camp, Mellie becomes Junior Senator.
As she is giving her speech Liz (who in my opinion is still pissed odd about Andrew) tells Fitz everything. Fitz then cleans house. He tells Mellie to leave and fires Cyrus. Jake also decided to "breakup" with Olivia freeing her to be with Fitz. The last scene was of Fitz & Olivia standing on the balcony of White House basking in the moonlight.
Next season will probably not reveal the dream I think it should but as long as Olivia keeps Gladiating like she should and Mama Pope does Not run to much havoc, I'll be okay
Speaking of being okay, before I talk about Grey's Anatomy. Let me warn all you McDreamy (and Olake, Jolivia, & Team Jake) fans, this is not the place to bash Shonda Rhimes. Please hop off the Shondaland ship and let the true fans have more legroom. I am not a characters only fan. As long as the storyline is good... Only person that must be on Grey's Anatomy is Not Named, Derrick Shepherd.
I'll tell anybody I am not a fan of Richard Webber & Catherine Avery together. It's like Webber is cheating on Adele even though she is dead. But they had a nice wedding in the end. The negotiations scene was priceless. It was like their version of a prenuptial agreement. It was touch and go for a minute but thanks to Meredith Grey they should be just fine. I have to say through sorrow Meredith Grey is a Hero.
She brought the newborn infant of a man stuck in a car to him so he can see he had to survive to see his son. She let her sister-in-law, Amelia listen to the last phone call she received from her now deceased husband, Derek Shepherd.
Then she made her sister, Maggie tell her what was going with her. When Maggie told her that her parents were divorcing she let her cry for a moment and then told Mags & Amelia it was time to dance it out.
All while hosting a wedding reception.
Now can Grey help Maggie's new step brother, Jackson and his wife, April Kepner? I don't know who is wrong. oth are right, actually. Kepner needs to heal her way, internationally. Jackson loves her enough to let her go, figuratively & literally. He also loves himself enough to know he's hurting & not healing when she is gone. I am a Japril fan. I want them together. And hopefully next season, Season 12, we'll get to say Chief Miranda Bailey.
I love that she has finally found a happy medium between love & career.I was not feeling weepy Bailey a few seasons back. One of the two characters (Maggie) that I see myself in and she was acting crazy (I hear Football Nerd in my head & heart say "You act like that Bailey too". To which I am telling him the hush LoL). I can't wait to see who is Bailey's competition is on her road to Chief.
Speaking of Football Nerd, I made it through a whole season of Grey's Anatomy without him physically here on this Earth. He was my person when in came to the show. I discuss the show with other friends (that I truly love & appreciate. And better know it.) and I live tweet but talking to him about it was different. And yes, I have major "cry face" typing this by like Meredith, I will survive.
Alright, I will see you guy TV season 2015-2016 in Shondaland, if the Lord says the same. Yep, I'm still riding Grey's Anatomy, Scandal & How to Get Away With Murder until the wheels fall off or the storylines go dumb. So, see you next season!!!
Sunday, I visited my foundation (home) church. The Minister of Music is a buddy took a job at another church and they were giving him a goodbye musical. I had no incidents, just hellos & hugs, this visit. And it felt so great. So this week, that visit got me to thinking about the crowns that don't fit you.
I go by my Biological name on FB so I whited it out
I talked about it on Facebook and even made a meme that I put on Instagram. Yeah, I did it for the 'gram.
Let me define the kind of Crowns, I will be talking about. These are the proverbial hats that we don that inpret our various roles in life. For example, some ladies wear a mommy hat.
I have refused so many crowns in my lifetime. I am only want to wear hats that I am destined to wear. My head only has so much room on it. So, any extra crowns that others want or intend for me will not fit.
When I graduated from college was when I started to pay attention to so many crowns that were waiting to be place on my head. I had a few relatives that apparently didn't read my graduation invitation and didn't see nursing and had job leads lined up for me that I was clearly not qualified for, I graduated with a degree in Nutrition.
I finally went to church and all these church leaders already had me placed in the positions I was in when I was a teenager. I felt bad but I had to tell & show them the person I was meant.
I felt mostly sorry for the church announcement clerk. Apparently, somebody didn't tell her what happened the weeks before I became the youth announcement clerk. I told the youth sponsors, No. I knew someone who really wanted that job plus I knew I didn't have the give a care that job needs. They called my mother and told her I said No. She in turned told my 15 year old self not to tell any adult no and I would be doing the job. Though I was good at it and it helped hone my public speaking skills, I never liked giving the announcements. It was like "church legal" gossip, to me. Also, other adults thought they could run over me and force me to announce stuff that was not approved. I hated that. Some of those people still dislike me because I would refuse & referred them to my superior. Poor church announcement clerk never caught on. Sometimes when she sees me, she expresses how she misses me. She's older in age and I know she is looking for a trusted successor. I pray she will find the person that that crown belongs on.
Even now, people act like they know what is best for me. I make no bones in telling them when if they are wrong. For example, right now I am a non-dating single woman. I wear that crown. For some reason people want me to replace that one for at least dating single woman. Recently, I had to hurt someone's feeling because their feelings about my romantic status. I am competent enough to know what path I should blaze. I know my worth so, no one can't put things on me that don't fit. Point Blank!!! One day I want to wear that Crown described in the song I provided for your listening pleasure. I don't need anyone to hinder me in doing so. I know people are blinded by their intentions and wants for me but like the slang goes I Got This. I know no one does it alone but No One does it well because someone weigh them with extra plans.
I wear the Crown of Destiny that is laid out for me by one person, God. He and only he can put on that Crown.
It is Prom Season!!! I like Prom Season because I like dressing up. One night in most American students' lives they get all dolled and duded up for this special event. I love seeing the pictures of the kids in their dresses & suits.
Yes, I went to prom. I wore this cute Geranium (Fuchsia) two-piece formal suit with White Gold podesua pumps with a matching purse. One can look at my Freeze with Shirley Temple curl hairstyle and can guess when I went to prom. LoL I was sans date. That was a decision, I have yet to regret. After prom there was No scandal on my name. 4 other friend-girls and I went in a Rolls Royce Excalibur limo. We were talk of the prom for a moment. Now when I went to prom, I did see the start of the revealing inappropriate dress trend.
I remember at other local schools in my city a dress similar to this one being worn. It was the dress worn in R. Kelly's Down Low video by GarcelleBeauvais. I know...Racy!!! I know at my prom one girl had on what looked to be a mid-thigh camisole with a shrug. We all gasped and went back to dancing. Heck, it was said that my own slightly improper cleavage top made a couple of tongues wag. That is what was told to me. Who knows and cares anymore? But those were the good ol' days before prom dress codes.
I understand prom dress codes because the inappropriate dress has evolved into less and less clothing.
I first heard about prom dress codes in 2003 a few years after I graduated and my cousin had to show the chaperones a picture of her dress before the event for approval. So, prom dress codes are not that new. But my question is, what is considered inappropriate these days? Do the young ladies in the first picture posted look improper? Ok got to read THIS article & THISarticle.
Based on both of these stories, these young ladies were targeted, in my opinion. Especially after reading what the vice-principal disgustingly said to the young lady in the Red embroidered dress.
When asked what was wrong with the dress, Alexus was told by the assistant principal that she has more boobs and the other girls have less to show.
Like the article asked "being a plus-sized teenager with boobs is against school policy?" That is not a plunging neckline like the dress code advised against. If she is showing too much bust, then I would have Never been allowed to attend my prom at all. Also what kind of language is that for an explanation from an adult? Can we say crass & classless? I have an issue with that. We can't expect children to use respectful words if we don't. The other young lady also wore a respectable dress. (I really like that blue polka dot dress. Wish I could wear my back out.) Backless dresses were allowed at their event. And yes, she was standing with another student, who clearly was showing more skin I hope these parents investigate more.
Students and parents pay a lot to go to prom. They expect to go and have a go time, Being issued suspension notices & being asked to leave. It is very embarrassing for the students and the schools should be ashamed that it came to all of this. Maybe showing the young people photos of former students of all ethnicities & body shapes that "obeyed" prom dress code so that the students have a clearer idea of what to dress. And they should be reasonable because less than 1% will wear a high neck formal to prom. No one wants to have bad memories of their prom night. Prom is too fun to have a bad time. At least it should be.
So, it is April and this month is known as National Poetry Month. Last year I shared with you some of my works. You can read that post HERE. This year, I will tell you about some of my favorites works from others.
Full Figured Potential by Ga Me (Georgia Me)
I probably would be a Spoken Artist if it was not for the fact that I hate reading in front of people. Reading and Praying out loud are the only parts of public speaking that make me stutter. Now reciting what I memorize or talking from the top of my head, I can do. And for some reason I don't memorize me own stuff. That's why I leave that field to people like this talented lady in the clip above. I love this poem.
Ego-Tripping (there may be a reason) by Nikki Giovanni
Blame the show A Different World for introducing me to this gem. The descriptive tones are so powerful.
I was born in the Congo
I walked to the Fertile Crescent and built
The Sphinx
I designed a pyramid so tough that a star
That only glows every one hundred years falls
Into the center giving divine perfect light
I am bad
I sat on the throne
Drinking nectar with Allah
I got hot and sent an ice age to Europe
To cool my thirst
My oldest daughter is Nefertiti
The tears from my birth pains
Created the Nile
I am a beautiful woman
I gazed on the forest and burned
Out the Sahara desert
With a packet of goat's meat
And a change of clothes
I crossed it in two hours
I am a gazelle so swift
So swift you can't catch me
For a birthday present when he was three
I gave my son Hannibal an elephant
He gave me Rome for mother's day
My strength flows ever on
My son Noah built New/Ark and
I stood proudly at the helm
As we sailed on a soft summer day
I turned myself into myself and was
Jesus
Men intone my loving name
All praises All praises
I am the one who would save
I sowed diamonds in my backyard
My bowels deliver uranium
The filings from my fingernails are
Semi-precious jewels
On a trip north
I caught a cold and blew
My nose giving oil to the Arab world
I am so hip even my errors are correct
I sailed west to reach east and had to round off
The earth as I went
The hair from my head thinned and gold was laid
Across three continents
I am so perfect so divine so ethereal so surreal
I cannot be comprehended except by my permission
I mean...I...can fly
Like a bird in the sky
We Wear the Mask by Paul L. Dunbar
My Elementary School was named after him so we learned a lot of his poems. Sad to say we still have to "wear the mask, sometimes
We wear the mask that grins and lies,
It hides our cheeks and shades our eyes—
This debt we pay to human guile;
With torn and bleeding hearts we smile,
And mouth with myriad subtleties.
Why should the world be over-wise,
In counting all our tears and sighs?
Nay, let them only see us, while
We wear the mask.
We smile, but, O great Christ, our cries
To thee from tortured souls arise.
We sing, but oh the clay is vile
Beneath our feet, and long the mile;
But let the world dream otherwise,
We wear the mask!
Oh! The Places You’ll Go! By Dr. Suess
Many of us heard this one as children but it was not until I was an Adult that I really felt the words.
Congratulations!
Today is your day.
You’re off to Great Places!
You’re off and away!
You have brains in your head.
You have feet in your shoes.
You can steer yourself any direction you choose.
You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the guy who’ll decide where to go.
So, those are some of my favorites. What are your favorites? Leave them in the comment box below.
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