Oh Yeah, I Didn't Do a Blue Bell Blog

I just finished a peach before I typed this post. Summer time signals lots of fresh fruit & ice cream for me. Well this summer I've had lot of fresh fruit but no ice cream. I have no good reason why I haven't talked about this issue but I am now. 

Yes, I am a part the masses of Blue Bell fans in the United States. I am a Texan. I may not be the biggest football fan. I've never seen or drank Alamo beer. But you take away my Blue Bell and I am very cranky. I know the people who have Never tasted Blue Bell Do Not understand the freak out when Blue Bell was recalled. 

Blue Bell Ice Cream lives on a  pedestal here. Intellectual Diva (ID), her sister & I were talking last week about the missing ice cream at the wedding activities last month on a Facebook post about the recent Blue Bell activities.

They are classic examples of Blue Bell ice cream fans. ID does not live in Texas but when she comes home, she will have to get her some Blue Bell. Well, she revealed that she wanted Homemade Vanilla dixie cups at the wedding. I added I overheard out of town guests say there was no ice cream for the cobbler at the BBQ. And I just chuckled because they had No clue. Her sister said there wasn't going to be any other ice cream there but Blue Bell. "It's very serious." And It Is!!!

Yes, we have a local ice cream shop called Braum's and it is good.

But I've lived life without it when I lived in Southeast Texas a decade ago. I chose to live there so being without Braum's was a choice. This is the first time I have lived without Blue Bell. And it was not my choice.

I will admit it has been an interesting Summer for my household when it came to desserts. If you know me in offline land, you know the oven is not turned on in my house once the High temperature reaches 85°. Baking is a no-no. So, we rely on frozen treats in the summer for dessert. We've had to lean heavy on the Non-Blue Bell frozen items we eat.

Yep, we've have consumed a lot of popsicles, sherbet & gelato. Mostly the popsicles because sherbet & gelato are very pricey to eat frequently, especially gelato.

I really love the Sea Salt Caramel but it doesn't love my wallet. Sherbet is only pricey in my house because nobody like the same flavor. I'm not a fan of Orange. My mother dislikes Raspberry. My grandmother is not a fan of Peach or Lime. So, I have to buy at least two flavors. This Blue Bell recall (Oh I'm not a fan of Blue Bell sherbet LoL) did let me fulfill a craving. I got to make some Annual Day (Frappe' or Ginger Ale-Sherbet) punch. It is a childhood favorite of mine.

It takes me back to the days at my foundation. If we had refreshments after 3:00 service and they had that drink, I was so happy. I could care less about the cookies & sandwiches. My grandmother's Mission sister, Aunt Doll knew I love that drink so by the time I was a teenager, she would pour me up a big glass like she would herself. I told you all before, I could do no wrong in her eyes. 

Well, we now have a date for when the beloved Blue Bell to return to some of the shelves.

The man in the video is correct, the saints have been praying. The Dallas-Fort Worth metroplex is in the second round. That's fine. I'm letting the crazies go first. I refuse to push & shove for some ice cream. I love it but not that bad. A little indulgence is not worth the frenzy SOME will turn it into.

Oh what are my favorite flavors?

Homemade Vanilla

Dutch Chocolate

Tin Roof

Pecan Praline & Cream or Mexican Praline (I taste no difference)

Moo-llennium Crunch

Peaches & Homemade Vanilla (Only fruit ice flavor I like)

What are your favorites? Let me know in the comments below. And anyone reading this and you still do not understand the upset about ice cream. I want to you to sit back an imagine them recalling Starbucks coffee, Krispy Kreme donuts or all Apple products. Now do you understand?

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Men Who Cook (Attractive Characteristics to OUTSPOKEN_DIVA)

One day I am going to buy those kind of aprons for my husband. I refuse to be the only person in my marriage that cooks. I don't mind cooking 85% of the time but my husband must know how to & be willing to cook.

People that know me in offline land know it puzzles me adults that don't know how to cook. Funny part is the gender I mostly know that don't know how to cook are Women. I can't name one man in my life that can't or couldn't cook. If there is one, I don't want to know.

My Grandfather

My grandfather could cook. My great uncles was a much better cook than my great aunts. My dad would cook when my mom was worked late according to my sister. All my male 1st cousins can cook. That is what one does for a living.

Bestie Boo

My Bestie Boo, (He's my best friend & I'm one of his boobies) L.J. can throw down in the kitchen. He and I are always gabbing about what we are cooking and trading recipes. Football Nerd could cook too. One of my good ex's used call me all the time for recipes before he got married. He called so much I made him a folder. Matter of fact I went to his home and taught him how to make pasta salads & broccoli-rice casserole. Even the leader of the bad ex list made me a cheesecake. It was Jello No-Bake but he made it. So, I really don't understand the attitude that Cooking is Women's Work  I don't know for it to exist. Cooking is Everyone's Work. If it is not, how did you eat before I married you? Who provided you with meals when we were dating?

Now, a man doesn't have to cook like G. Garvin (Eye Candy List Member) Tyler Florence (Former Eye Candy List Member (Married)) , Aaron McCargo (Almost Eye Candy List Member(Married)) or any famed chef. Many of us don't cook like that. That is why they have shows so they can show us how to make meals we don't know how to make. Hey, Tyler Florence taught me how to make a Thanksgiving turkey. It just need him to know how to make at least

5 breakfast dishes

3 non-sandwich lunches

7 dinners

15 basic dishes is not a lot of recipes to know how to prepare. 3 meals a day for 7 days a week equal 21 meals a week. Man who can cook tells me

1. He know & uses his basic math & reading skills. People need to those to follow a recipe. Most recipes are not created for the single person. He has to know how to reduce that recipe to fit his needs.
2. He may know how to invest his money. It is cheaper to cook than to eat out. Convenience is expensive. Also he owns more than just salt, pepper, steak sauce, ketchup, mustard & hot sauce to season his food. 
3. He may have an idea what he is eating. Unlike foods purchased from the grocery store, restaurants do not have to disclose ingredients, calories, fat, or additives in your meal.
4. He may be making healthier choices. Now, this is a big may be. I hope his 15 dishes don't only come out of a can or be microwaved. That's not cooking that is warming up.
5. He can teach me about the things he likes & dislikes. Maybe I don't know how to make his favorite dish, It would such a great bonding experience to learn how to make it. 

So, hats off to the men that cook!!!

No woman wants a man that could Not take care of himself before she met him. Cooking for yourself is a part of taking care of yourself. Parent if you are not teaching your children, as in daughters and sons how to cook, you are doing them a disservice. Now, off to clean the kitchen. Everybody is fed in my home. I told you I don't mind cooking most of the time. I mind cooking all the time.


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Spelman Cuts Ties With Cosby

I told you guys months about Spelman College suspending professorship endowment money donated from Bill Cosby and his charities. (Here's the Blog Post). I told you guys I would be paying close attention. Well this week, they made it official and discontinued the Cosby endowment. You can read the New York Times  & USA Today and get news coverage.

I'm not shocked. When the 2005 court disposition documents were unsealed and it revealed he had obtained Quaaludes "with the intent of giving them to young women he wanted to have sex with," I knew then that should be the nail in his coffin for who ever was trying to give him some benefit of the doubt. Spelman at that point had just "suspended" the money so they were still giving him a little hope of belief. Then the admission of having the drugs to give to ladies he wanted to sleep with had to have been the point where they said enough is enough.

Now, we shouting "Black Lives Matter" & "Say Her Name" because of police brutality running rampant in the country. And we should. But we also need to stand up to folks that are harming us in other ways.

Sorry, but what Bill Cosby admitted to is dangerous. Even if the women knew they were taking the drugs. Even if he gave them the drug but didn't get to have sex with the women. Even if he never gave anyone any pills. Just the his mindset of what he wanted to do with the drugs is menacing. Quaaludes were prescription drugs that were legally used as a sedative for relaxation. But folks started misusing them because of their possible side effects that can include drowsiness, dizziness, increased sexual arousal (aphrodisia), and paresthesias (the numbness of the fingers and toes). I don't care if everybody was doing it. Bill Cosby knew that was wrong in the 1970's, just like he knows that it was wrong now

Who wants money from somebody who thinks/thought that was okay to do? . Well, Spelman College does not. I can't imagine what the board went through making that decision. If you think funding for public, private, & charter schools is baffling, think about funding for universities & college . Faculty see a mere fraction of the tuition & fees that paid. I think I read when tuition was increased by an average of 72%, faculty salaries only increased by 2.1%. That's what many of the endowments granted pay for. I've seen professor fight to be able to be the one to teach both summer sessions because of the pay. Oh and I went to & graduated from state funded schools. Spelman is a historically black, liberal arts women’s college that is privately funded. I hope no one lost their job. I hope a course or courses was/were not cut because this controversy.  But right is right. I pray that they are blessed with funding from sources that match their mission & moral standings. Spelman like its motto had to make "a choice to change the world". Trust me somebody in the world is impacted by this. Spelman, A Historically Black, Liberal Arts Women’s College decided not to take money from a man who at least had plans to give a women drugs so he could have sex with her. *slow clap*

Oh yeah a side note. Just because Bill Cosby obtain Quaaludes in order to screw women he liked doesn't mean Sagging pants is okay. Pull Your Pants Up!!1

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My Weirdest Random Facebook Friend Request

Okay like everyone else after I wake up, talk to the Lord, contemplate my life and day, & get ready for the day, I check the net to find out what I missed while I was sleep. Lo & Behold did I got a random friend requests on Facebook, today.

Truth be told some of these
"Mutual Friends" also

Like most people the random Facebook friend requests I get are some random guys looking to date or screw me or kidnap me to sell me into sexual slavery (Sometime along with an inbox message. Oh those are really funny). I don't use Social Media as a dating site (It's for the people who know my biological name in offline land, that I want to be social with,) so all of them get denied. Crazy part is as bad as I dislike them, I always click on the profile to see what I can see before I deny them Facebook friendship. This one today had to be by far the weirdest one yet for me

I was expecting a face that more than likely belongs to someone of foreign descent or some geriatric sugar daddy (Yeah the "Bapti-Costal" look brings the deacons & trustees to the gate. LoL) for his profile picture. I'm a plus size woman there are some men I know I attract, whether I am attracted or not. This time I didn't get a face. I got this.

I'll protect the stupid.
(This Time)

What the heck? He has the unmitigated gall to make this is profile picture. I was so perplexed that he tried it. Does this actually work for him? Is there any woman this desperate & gullible to accept & meet this man. Do I want to know the chick that hits accept? No One can be this dumb. All I could do was screen shot this stuff. and get ready for the day. I had a client in an hour and my FB activity had nothing to do with them.

The person Facebook says
 I may know
(I don't)
will be protected.
They had nothing to do with this.

If you know Mr. Osaruyi, tell him to STOP!!!

That profile picture is not cute. He is Not fooling me. And I will pray for anyone that is fooled into being his Facebook friend. This is one of the reasons why I deny All random Facebook friend request. Too many dangerous weirdos in the world to let into mine. But I know I'm preaching to the choir. What was your weirdest social media friend request? Leave it in the comments below.

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Darla Neugebauer!!!

Okay if you are not caught up go read THIS and then come back.

*tuh*

In my opinion, that diner owner should not be sorry. I am ever in Maine, I will be stopping into her diner. After 15 minutes, I would've yelled at the parents. I'm sorry but children do not learn how to behave in public if you allow them to go crazy. If they don't feel well, stay home. That is Not fair to others trying to eat, shop, ect in peace.

Three things I Hate, Yes Hate for children to do in Restaurants, Planes & Stores.
1.Irate Screaming
2. Running Around
3. Kneeling in a chair 

I'm not saying that children should not be allowed to dine at restaurants. I just think they should not be allowed to run a muck in public.  I'm not saying you should vigilante smack any & all unruly children. That is going to far. I actually don't talk to the children of strangers. After I survey the situation (The child might have special needs or the child is screaming because the parent disciplined them, in which I understand & say nothing) I speak to the parent(s). Recently in a Big Box store, two children kept running in front of everyone's carts causing a ruckus. Finally I turned to the parents or adults they were with and said, "This is how your kids are going to get knocked the heck out off. They are running in front of everyone causing problems." I walked off not worrying about their reactions. I just know those little girls were not running around anymore. 

And this is not a race or culture issue. In my black family, I have a younger cousin who kneeled everywhere she ate. One family event, I made her sit on her bottom and I never said it again. Even my nephew has to be told to stand where I can see him from time to time in the store. So before someone say that it's that race or that race let stop you, Every Race of Children acts up in public from time to time. It is up to the Adults to help them to behave properly.

That is one of the reasons why I am Not a parent. Parenting, in my opinion is the raising the next generation to be viable citizens of the world. That is a daunting task. And letting a child scream for almost an hour at a restaurant is not leading her to be a good inhabitant. Ignoring cries also says those parents are selfish people also. They were not being fair to the other diners or the owner. The diner owner didn't curse at the child. She didn't even put them out. *slow clap" to Darla Neugebauer. Yes, it is easier when somebody else does it. But you did it and I respect you for it. 

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Overly Conscious Black Men (Not Interested in Dating)

I am a Christian Black Woman that has an Associate's & a Bachelor's degree. I speak grammatical English. and live in the inner city aka "Da Hood. I also wear my hair relaxed. But if you listen to the all mighty Hotep brothers, I am a disgrace to the black race. Well, guess what My Brotha? I will Never apologize for being me. Never!!!

I recently had to unfriend someone I knew from elementary school on Facebook because of his Overly Conscious views. (This post is not about him. Being overly conscious was Not the only reason why I would date him. And he wasn't checking for me either) My mouse stays on the block button when they pop up in my followers' lists on Twitter & Instagram.
I've always said I grew up All-Black until I was in middle school. So, there are a lot of Black facts and thoughts I've known about for years. There are many things I read and have read that some people are just now reading. I understand that. I was afforded that (and others) opportunity in life and some others were not. But when these people who get a little knowledge and decide to bash everybody with it, I don't understand that. I remember when I chose to go to a state university and not an HBCU, a childhood friend was appalled. So I asked her what was the oldest secular organization in the United States. She was stumped and she left me alone So, the mindset is not foreign to me but it is very annoying.

I am Very Annoyed with these men who feel like the definition of being black is a monolith and you are not this definition the White man has fooled you. Around social media, some people call these men, Hotep N-words. Here is the definition from Urban Dictionary.

A Hotep N-words is a black person who knows nothing about black history outside of Ancient Egypt. Hotep N-words will attribute anything and everything to Egypt while ignoring the rest of Africa and the far east. The majority of Hotep Niggas have no sincere interest in black history as they are only looking for an alternative to monotheistic religion.

Hotep N-words will also end every sentence with Hotep.

hotep N-words: Christ was a fictional character created by the white man to enslave you! Hotep!

Hebrew Israelite: According to Roman Historian Flavius Josephus, Christ was "a man of simple appearance, mature age, DARK SKIN, small stature, three cubits high, hunchbacked with a long face, long nose, and meeting eyebrows, so that they who see him might be affrighted, with scanty hair with a parting in the middle of his head, after the manner of the Nazarites, and with an undeveloped beard."

He existed and was black man.

hotep n-word: Lies! that's the white mans book. white man! white man! white man! Ma'at! Hotep!

Urban Dictionary is a great starter definition. Oh but these men do so much more. I used to ignore them Then the day I saw them call Black Feminists or "Womanists" white man bed wenches or agents to take the Black man down I knew then my tolerance for their BS was over. I want you to search for the "#YouOKSis campaign. The opposition is cringe-worthy.

 Oh Lord, every Sunday the Black Christian church gets attacked by these men almost as bad as the KKK & all the other racist folks that set off bombs, set fire & shoot in them. Just like lumping all black people in one category, putting all churches, Black churches in one group is unfair also, Oh yeah, I don't worship the image that pop culture tells me is Jesus. In the world of these men, if you don't think like them or let them teach you their ways, then you are a waste of melanin-rich skin. They are so Negative!!!

I will Never date these guys. I want a man of any race that can accept that we All with our different races, religions, creeds, sexualities, and Lives deserve to live here. I don't want a man that is so Negative about everything that is Not their definition of Blackness. There are enough negativity and racist smoke screens manufactured by pop culture and stereotypes that it is not needed by someone who looks like us. I thought I didn't want to date an Uncle Tom growing up. I was ready for the fake Black power brother that secretly dates white girls. Oh and black men who think they have arrived once they finally get them a white girl, you still make me frown. Well, add the Overly Conscious to my list. I want a Racially proud man that still cares about other humans. That's all!!!

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Men Who Flirt and Make a Move (Attractive Characteristics to OUTSPOKEN_DIVA)

Time for me to give a *slow clap* to the men that will flirt and then ask for your number and/or a date afterwards. I am so tired of honing my flirting skills at this point at life. Oh, my flirting skills are on point. I know the difference between being flirting and being polite.

A male strange opens and hold the door for me at a restaraunt. I say "Thank You". He replies "You're welcome". He's just being polite & gentlemanly. (Side Note: If the lady Never engages you at the start or at least after she said "Thank You" at the door, STOP)  Nothing more, durn sure can't be less.  But if that same male stranger says, "How are you"? Then I in turn say "I'm good. And yourself"? And he says, "Great, now that I've seen you". Now, we've hit the compliment & flirting zone. Okay if he leaves it there, I am cool. Leave a compliment right there and move on. But he keeps small talking while waiting on the table and/or he is sitting near and says "That meal almost looks as good as you" when it comes to the table. He is no longer just being nice, he's full on flirting. I 'm cool with that. I might flirt back or blush & smile. (Again If she didn't respond to your previous attempts, this can make you look thirsty. She'll think you are harassing her. Read her body language, fellows.)  Now, here is where my frustration may begin. End of the evening, he or I are leaving and he doesn't make a move. This is when I feel like I am sharpening my flirting skills, yet again. Most people would think I could have slipped him my number, if I was interested. And to these people I say, "I will not". He initially approached me. Why am I finishing his courtship job? If he was so interested, he should see it all the way through.

*sigh* The story of my life for the past two and a half years. I'm so tired of being flirted with without being asked out in the end. It's so old, now. Remember little buddy from the big box store by my sister's house (His story is HERE), I have decided he's just a nice guy at this point who saw a friendly face way across the grocery section (I was in canned vegetables when he approached me that night. He works in Frozen foods) to have conversations with whenever he see it, now. But it's not just him, trust me. My friends and colleagues have similar stories.

This is why I salute the men that see their flirting engagements all the way to date and/or number. Some of you guys don't get how unnerving it is to feel like your conversational time have been wasted. That is breath I could've saved. I don't understand doing all of that then not want to further engage with the person past that point. Were you bored or lonely and just wanted someone to entertain you? Are you married or dating someone and decided not to deceive this woman. If that is the case, Thank You!!! You guys can't be shy. I mean hello, you've done all this verbal teasing so, how can you be bashful.? Don't be like one of the guys in the video getting upset in the end because the lady flirted with another guys. All that time wasted and you could have already had a phone call and plans for a date by now.

Oh Gosh, Am I the Real Pied Piper of hopeless dudes? I might be okay with be being single, not married but I do date. I mean how else will my future husband find me. We have to go on at least one date.

I have a theory. With the dating rules being screwed up & shallow at this point, too many guys feel like they don't have to follow through. Many of these guys chase women to the point right when they think they can flip it and they do. "Oh well if she is interested in what I put out there, she come chase me" Like they are testing our worth. Sorry bucko, that is only some women that fall for the ol' switcheroo. Many of us are leaving you high and try as you are leaving us.

Again I understand the difference in being polite & flirting. Polite is asking me if I knew a certain brand of laundry detergent is good. Flirting is you & I at the sample counter and you offer to "buy" me dinner. We laugh and then introduce ourselves to one another. Now,  I would expect that before we leave the counter you would ask me out. Am I expecting to much?

And to the guys who flirt and do make a move, take this hat nod in stride. I like what you do and sadly it has to be a part of things that catch my attention. But I am still watching for a shoe that might drop.

The dude in my last blog posted flirted and made a move that was was really aiming for me to just be a one night stand/weekend fun chick. It's just the next move, not sing  "To be Loved" loudly time.

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