Monday, March 20, 2017

My Favorite Season!!!

Hoodies off, you winter loving folks. It is my Favorite season. I Love Spring!!! Yeah, it has pollen that heralds allergy & sinus season. I restocked the meds recently. So, my household is ready.
It also has dangerous storms in it. I saw this first on my Twitter feed. I live in "Tornado Alley" so, weather eyes will be watching.

Spring has:
Easter, My Favorite Holiday. Only new readers don't know that. Do a search within the blog and you will see the numerous posts about my feeling for Easter.

My Birthday is in Spring. Let me learn you something. (Yes, that's slang) 1st day of the next season is June 20th. I was born 4 days before that day. So, I was born in the Spring.

The happy colors come back. I'm a "girly girl". I love the bright colors & pastels. Can't wait to ease out of navy & burgundy so, I can rock pink & yellow.

It's Sandal season. My toes will be free. And 2017 trends Love me. Block heels are Back. I was still rocking a few during this long painful stiletto trend. But now I get to be stable, balanced, and up to date all at once. I might even go back to 3-4 inches.

Oh and the yards will have a little life. Flowers are starting to bloom & bud. My grandmother's purple irises are starting to come up. I'll have to keep my shears handy in order to snip a few of her perennials as they come up.
And along the Texas highways will be blue bonnets photo ops. One day I will take one quick blue bonnet selfie before I leave this world. Yeah, it's a weed. But it is a pretty one & it doesn't stay.

So, Happy Spring!!! Shine Bright and Enjoy!!!

And As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms

Wednesday, March 15, 2017

Christians, Churched Folks, & The Churchy

Can you define them?

This is actually a FAQ. I wanted to make sure I did a little research before I answer this one. I'm a Christian but not a Christianity scholar. I didn't want this post full of just my snide opinion & memes. Oh, if you came here are ready to argue? LEAVE!!!

A Christian is a Human that chooses to live for God by following the ways of Jesus Christ. It's that simple. There is no set way to practice Christianity. But Humans and our right to choose have bungled that up by adding our opinionated interpretations with the different denominations & numerous other divisions. 

In my humble opinion, the opinionated interpreters are a subset I call "Churched Folks". "Churched Folks" are religious. They follow the ways of Christ but not without precise man-made interpreted laws. For example, women can't wear pants is what many Christians are taught. They use this scripture; A woman must not wear men's clothing, nor a man wears women's clothing, for the LORD your God detests anyone who does this. (NIV, Deuteronomy 22:5). When that was written no one wore pants. Then fashion changed.
Again with my opinion, Churched folks don't function with common sense and rarely realize the faults in the interpretations of their forefathers. Realizations cause arguments on doctrines & more division. And none of this lets True Christianity Shine. But none of this is new. Who do you think the Pharisees & Sadducees in the Bible were?

Ok, Churchy is a style of behavior. The dictionary says; excessively pious and consequently narrow-minded or intolerant. But like Obamacare, it was probably a slur that has now become a term of endearment. Remember on The Simpsons, the Flanders boys were jumping on the trampoline. That is probably the best universally known example of churchy behavior I can think of. LoL
Ever been in the grocery store and a hear "Hey brother, do you have any more 1% in the back". I have a feeling that person has spent lots of time in church. Ever said Amen in agreement to the statement, "It's hot outside". Yeah, that's churchy. And of course, I admit to being a bit churchy. Okay, more than a bit. LoL, The funniest churchy thing I do is clap when I am really feeling a secular song. I have clapped through the Wobble, once. And will do it again.

And there is nothing wrong with being churchy, to me. And if you are a Christian and don't act churchy, that's good also. Every Christian has a different personality & experience with Christ. All those make us beautiful in his sight. Unless you are being intolerant or pious like churched folks, Be You, Be Christian!!!

Do you agree with my views? Got some other examples to Help the post? Let me know in the comments. The discussions are welcomed.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!!!

Thursday, March 9, 2017

Just a Post on Living Life

Like a long winded preacher says, I'm not gonna keep you long. Have you ever paid attention to how judgemental people are about how freely people live. People shame others based on their measurement of freedom.

People who want to travel around the world, shame people who have staycations. Ever thought maybe that person might like finding the beauty in attractions in their own backyards. While they are touring the newest museum, others should go on that Mecca pilgrimage that they want to go on.
I am not bi-curious, so why am I being called "Boring" or "Plain Ol' Vanilla"? I don't want to kiss a girl. I really am not attracted them. I mind that. I have a friend that does not drink alcohol. My friend doesn't like it in order to have fun. What does my friend's ice tea have to do with another person's Rum & Coke? The goal is to not be thirsty. The path we each take is the one we chose.

People love to say "Live Life to the Fullest". I not saying that anymore. "Live Your Fullest Life" is what I'll be saying from this day forth. What is your definition of full? Take it and go fill you plate of life. If you are filling yours, you won't have time to see some else filling theirs. No, go ahead & look. Hope you see something jaw dropping.

If we're going have life lessons instead of regrets, learn stuff because we personally chose that task. Stop jumping off buildings that we know we didn't ever want to visit.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms

Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Settling These Breakfast Food Debates

I love my Twitter timeline. I've watched discussions about red velvet cake being trash. I have seen polls debating if pineapple belongs on pizza. It does Not, by the way. The latest I've come across is Pancakes ~vs~ Waffles. So, I knew I want to give my opinions on my choices for breakfast.

Let me start with the Best Cereal known to man...Cap 'n' Crunch. I still remember the very first time time
I first had it at 8 years old in Eureaka Springs, Arkansas. It is perfect. I now only eat it once season and I swear it still taste like it did then. Can we say, Memories?

Butter is the perfect condiment on All breakfast baked goods.

Jelly ~vs~ Jam ~ vs Preserves
The winner is Preserves. I like the fruit bits.

Fruit cup ~vs~ Parfait
I like Fruit cups better. It takes a lot to get the yogurt to fruit ratio right.

Salt ~vs~ Sugar on Grits
I don't eat Grits! I prefer Malt-to-Meal with butter & sugar

Home fries vs Hash brown.
I love Hash Browns. Home fries or potatoes O'Brien are good. But shred a potato, season it up, shape it if you like and fry it, that is potato perfection.

Toast ~vs~ Biscuits, that award goes to Biscuits. Toast, yet tasty is eaten because of time constraints. If I had the time, I would make & eat biscuits.
The fluffy kind, not the layers and I like fresh or frozen. Canned biscuits are gross. Fun Fact about me: I learned how to make biscuits because of a failed attempt at making donuts. Added more flour, put the dough in the oven and Christmas morning my family loved them.

Speaking of donuts, Glazed Yeast are the best. I only enjoy other flavors & the cake varieties is mini form only. Little Debbie has a good product.

That brand has a good muffin product, also. When it comes to muffins, in general, my favorites are blueberry & cranberry-lemon. Craving a Malt-o-Meal muffins now. Might makes some soon.

Ok in the debate on Pancakes ~vs~ Waffles, Waffles Win!!! So what if the batter is the same, Pancakes let the syrup waste onto the plate. Waffle have syrup pockets. Waffles are so fun. They're so fun that french fries & ice cream cones borrowed their shape.

Oh the incredible edible egg and I only like them two ways, hard fried or hard boiled. I take that back I will eat an occasional Denver omelette. I don't know the occasion because I haven't had one in a couple of years.

And now for the category that you can smell as read this, Bacon ~vs~ Sausage. My choice is Ham!!! LoL
Like toast, bacon and/or sausage is eaten the most because of convenience & price. Since I ate it for breakfast for the first time at age 8, it has always been my favorite (If you can have a favorite) breakfast meat. It's not as fatty as bacon & sausage. It's cured flavor give a very good contrast to whatever it paired with.
Oh and yes, chicken for breakfast get two thumbs up from me. If you've never had a Honey Butter Chicken Biscuit from What-a Burger, you are missing a blessing.

No matter what is eaten, I hope everyone reading this doesn't skip breakfast. It really is the most important meal of the day.
I'll probably have toast, boiled eggs, and an orange. My tastes buds are leading me that way.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!!!

Monday, February 27, 2017

Yep, She was Black & Nerdy & Awkward. And You Loved Watching Her!

The other day, a bud of mine called while he was watching Family Matters. He couldn't believe how easily Laura adapted to Steve Urkel's world, once she started dating him. I told him it was easy because Laura was a nerd or at least had nerdy qualities. Steve recognized it hidden in her beauty. He asked me to explain.
  • Laura Winslow was a straight-A student, even in college.
  • Steve was not just a schoolmate. Laura & he were in the same classes.
  • Steve & Laura were in many classes with upperclassmen.
  • In the episode, "The Way the Ball Bounces" a very tired Laura sneaks to the library to study for the PSAT.
Laura Winslow is not the first & only unseen & unspoken nerdy or awkward black female character in TV & Movie history. Pop Culture only likes to recognize a handful of black "uncool" characters.
What happened to Earnest?
He was cute
Most of those are male except for Winfred "Freddy" Brooks in Different World being mentioned sometimes. TV & Movies is chalked full of black ladies being nerdy & awkward. Let me run down my favorites.

Terry (Jumpin' Jack Flash) In the late 1980s, Terry was a foul mouth, 30-something-year-old, cracking code keys.
She had more online friendships than in offline land. And Jack & she were in an online romantic rapport. The ending makes us think it progressed past the computer but its origins were online. She was very stereotypical nerdy if you asked me. Oh wait, she used profane language. Only cool people do that.

Joan Clayton (Girlfriends) If it could go wonky, it did. It wasn't even hidden by her big sister-like manner. Joan was a lady full of facts & rules that she lived by. Joan was also very well-read and studied intensely studied what she read. When she joined her superior, Sharon in a book discussion that included Jackie Collins & BeBe Moore Campbell, she tried to argue about seeing allegory in the book. She loses with the ladies because she didn't read the whole book, but she knew she was right. And for people that need ideas for cosplay, I bet Joan(and some of her friends) could've helped your costume ideas be the best they could be. Joan's costume game was superb.

Evangeline Eva Dandridge (Deliver Us From Eva) Most people see the mean, pretty chick that just needs some d---. 
The biggest complaint about Eva was she was full of facts, that she loved to issue. She was a know-it-all. Eva also had a stereotypical nerd job. She was a food inspector. Food inspectors (aka on my dream job list) are full of food-related science facts & stats. She even only dines at certain restaurants. Does a popular TV nerd come to mind when you think of this behavior? And do you remember her shoe storage? Sheldon Cooper from Big Bang Theory would hug her. But that wasn't the storyline that was presented. She just needed a man.

Taylor Mckessie (High School Musical) The only thing I like about this movie franchise is the smartest student in the school is a black girl.
She was the lead character's best friend but her story was still very important. She was the head of the Chemistry Club and became the Valedictorian in the end. Stereotypical things are reserved for nerdy characters. Monique Coleman, the actress who played her & I were proud of that role.

Mona Thorne (Half & Half) Mona was so awkward, I waited for Freddy Brooks to make an appearance as her cool cousin. Mona owned her awkwardness. She openly talked about being a fan of cartoons, indie bands, and wedged boots. She didn't always like being uncool but it was a lane she knew. There was an episode where a guy felt she was "not black enough" so she tried to "blacken up" and in the end, she was comfortable being her rhythmless self. Her awkwardness leads her to learn all about herself. And isn't that what life is about?

I tell people in offline land all the time "Beware talking nerdy to me" all the time. I see nerdy & awkwardness (and churchy) in people all the time. I guess I have a radar. I don't talk about it because the stereotype of being nerdy & awkward is uncool. "Cool" people have "uncool" qualities too. Millennials are breaking from the stereotype but most people I interact with are non-millennials. Many non-millennial-age people have yet to recognize and/or embrace those qualities in them.  Some are embracing it, and some are. But I see it, trust me I see it.

Those are some of my favorites. The list could go on and on. Kimberly Reese comes to mind. Heck, being smart was most of her storyline. Who are the unsung nerdy & awkward people you enjoy(ed) watching? Let me know in the comments.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Wednesday, February 15, 2017

Chicken & Watermelon, Oh Lawdy!!! (Food Know-It-All)

Please know when I finished this post, I took some time to pour love into my psyche. It is almost as bad as watching movies & TV with overt & violent racism. And I can't watch those. I had to be in the love clouds when I decided to scour the underbelly of food stereotypes. Psychologist & sociologists need to study poverty, lying, and self-hate deeper. Then go with a cyborg that is set on stun, to educate the past. I'm sorry to say this but too many people in the past Hated themselves. I knew that but not to this magnitude.

Who made the "Black folks loves them some chicken & watermelon" stereotype? A working-class Southerner in the 1800's said it about the mysterious Black people and pop culture marathon ran with it.

Since the American Civil War, traditional "slave foods" like fried chicken & watermelon have suffered a strong association with African-American stereotypes and blackface minstrelsy. The Scottish were the first Europeans to deep fry their chicken in fat (though without seasoning). The West African peoples had traditions of seasoned fried chicken (battered and cooked palm oil). Scottish frying techniques and West African seasoning techniques were combined by enslaved Africans and Black Americans in the American South.
Contrary to the textbooks, cotton & tobacco weren't the only things grown on plantations. Watermelons were many of the other agricultural goods grown. After the Civil War, newly freed black people grew, ate, and sold watermelons.  Many slaves work in the job areas they were "trained" to work previously. Also that fruit, Watermelon became a symbol of their freedom. Poor Southern farmers, became threatened by blacks’ newfound freedom. It meant that the former enslaved, that worked for the bigger competion were now competion. The Blacks were now Equals. So, they responded by making anything that black people did to be perceived to be unclean, lazy, childish, and unwanted in public places. Their rumors were widely spread through the pop culture vehicles of art, minstrel shows, & a movie called Birth of a Nation by D.W. Griffin.

For several decades in the late 19th century through to the mid-20 century, the watermelon stereotype was promoted through caricatures in print, film, sculpture and music, and as a common decorative theme on household good. Yes, I said music.
Popular songs of the time pushed the stereotypes into belief. When the ice cream man comes around and we hear "Turkey in the Straw", now. There was another song made & performed in 1919. You can listen to it HERE. Talk about a remix.

D.W. Griffith's 1915 silent movie called, Birth of a Nation is about the heroic founding of the Ku Klux Klan. If you have never watched this film, here is your warning. It Is the MOST Racist Movie Known to Man.
One scene in the movie features a group of white actors in blackface portraying lazy black elected officials acting rowdy and gross in a legislative hall. Some of the legislators are shown drinking alcohol. Others had their feet kicked up on their desks. And one of them was very flamboyantly eating fried chicken. Minstrel shows were popular to theater crowd. Actors in blackface also would be on stage joyously eating chicken & watermelon while acting slothful & idle.

But we know all these stereotypes are tied with a bow hypocrisy because Fried Chicken & Watermelon is Loved by Everyone. History said that the Scottish were the first in Europe to fry chicken. If pop culture used common sense...Wait!!! Gossip & Rumors don't function with common sense. I can imagine one of those liars in the late 19th century, smacking on a greasy drumstick telling his tale. SMH

Okay, I'm not a fan of watermelons & any watermelon flavored products. Like bananas, they're too sweet for my taste buds. I do like Fried Chicken. If you ask me who (restaurant) has the best chicken in Dallas, Tx. I will tell you Henderson's, Max's Wine Dive, & Golden Chick.
Do Not listen to anyone who says Rudy's. It is over-salted. LoL I don't eat any of it, often. It's been a while since I had Henderson's. In a previous POST, I told you about Oven Fried Chicken. It reminds me of elementary school. It is very tasty and with less fat.

Oven-Fried Chicken (Variation of the Betty Crocker recipe)

Ingredients:
• 1 cut-up whole chicken (3 to 3 1/2 pounds)
• 3 cups cold water or milk
• 1 Tbsp. garlic powder
• 2 Tbsp canola oil
• 2/3 cup baking or pancake mix
• 1 1/2 tsp paprika
• 2 tsp of dried Italian seasoning. salt free or poultry seasoning
• 1 tsp salt
• 1/4 tsp pepper

Directions:
1. Soak the chicken in cold water or milk & garlic powder for 1/2 hour to 8 hours.
2. Remove the chicken from the water or milk mixture.
3. Preheat oven to 425°F.
4. Heat oil in rectangular baking dish, 13x9x2 inches, in oven.
5. Combine the baking or pancake mix & seasonings in a plastic zip-top bag.
6. Add the chicken and shake bag to coat the chicken.
7. Place chicken, skin sides down, in dish.
8. Bake 35 minutes; turn chicken. Bake about 15 minutes longer or until juice is no longer pink when centers of thickest pieces are cut.

And yes, I don't like watermelon but many people do. They love watermelon and it is only fair to provide a fun recipe for them.

Simple Watermelon Smoothie

Ingredients:
  • 2 cups frozen cubed watermelon (Every time you buy a watermelon for this purpose, cut it up in chunks and store the chunks in bags in the freezer.)
  • 1 cup water
  • 1 tablespoon of honey or other sweetener to taste
  • a few mint and/or basil leaves, if you want to take it to the next level

Directions:
  1. Blend the watermelon and the water until smooth. 
  2. Add the honey and mint and blend another 10-20 seconds until mostly smooth and the consistency of a slushy.
  3. Serve immediately.


“Stereotypes exist because they are useful. They reduce the tremendous complexity of the world around us into a few simple guidelines, which we use in our everyday thoughts and decisions. However, the simpler and more convenient the stereotype, the more likely it is to be inaccurate, at least in part.” ~ Stuart Oskamp


Do you like Watermelon? What restaurant makes your favorite fried chicken? Ever had Oven-Fried chicken? Do you like it? Are you trying this smoothie recipe? Answer below in the comments.

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Friday, February 10, 2017

Friends With Your Ex (Answering Questions)

Got an email to answer. Yay🎉👊👍

Q. I just broke up with my love. It was mutual and I feel like I still want to be friends. I know you're friends with an ex or two. Do you have any advice?

A. I think might have covered this. Yes, I am/have been friends & friendly with a few of my exes. All Exes Can NOT Be Your Friend or You Friendly With. I am friendly JMac & Rom Com. We don't talk often but when we do, we really genuinely catch up and reminisce with one another. Football Nerd was one of my Best friends. Our friendship looked pretty much like my relationship with my other besties. My rapports with these men are/were not easy but not greatly difficult to maintain. I have 4 points for you to consider.

-Define Friendship & Define Friendly
What is Your HONEST definition? Is your ex a picture definition of it? Just "still wanting them in your life" is a wishful starting point but not a firm meaning.
Football Nerd still wanted me in his life. Our friendship was a learning experience that is not textbook in the least. WoW, that could've been a cool joint effort of a book. *sigh* I'm sitting here now reminding myself, God Loved Him Best.

-Does your ex want to be friends?
Friendship is different a relationship. It has to be mutual.
 1. Some exes just want to be Cordial when they see you and move on.
 2. Let "We Can't Be Friends" by Deborah Cox & R.L. be a guide
     -"Verbally we agreed It was over and we were through
I'm trying to compose myself"
     -"I went by Mother's, saw your car there To her you're still family, and it don't seem fair"
     -" May see me hang my head
When you come my way"
I think those lyrics are most important in considering wanting to befriend an ex. Friendship is Still a relationship.

-Draw the Line & Recognize Their Line
If it is not set properly, the friendship will be befuddled. RomCom set a line and I didn't even know we needed one.
"Let's go see the Passion of the Christ" "Let me get you home before you have to sleep on the couch" He was drawing his line. If I made one on one plans, it was always for public events before 6 pm. So, I drew my line.

-The Friendship Dynamic Can/Will Change.
It's Life!!! We all have friends that we used to be inseparable and now we talk when we get a chance. That could happen with the ex-to-friend bond also. Since JMac is not local anymore, our interaction is mostly via email.
Unless you are one of my grandfather's nieces, most people are not sending monthly newsletters to keep up. Holidays & June (both birthdays) we end up catching up then. Still my boy, life just redefined how we get to be friendly.

Oh Bonus: Side Hugs are Best. Full embraces are intimately dangerous. Keep some space between you guys.
If I was a supervillain, my name would be Side Hug Master. Many people Hate them & I'm a Master at them. 😂😂😂
Side Hugs have a Wikipedia page
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Hoped this helped. Keep me posted.

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