Another Ring Thing!!!

This is not an unknown topic. It is just not one I've talked about here.

My answer is Yes! I would want to know why does he still have that ring. He could have sold that ring before proposing to me. That ring was bought with someone else in mind. Not me. It also still has an untruth tied to it. An omission is still not telling the truth. And before saying it's just a ring, think about all the story behind that ring. If it was a family ring, all the history behind that ring be proudly told. Can't be too proud when you don't tell all of this ring's story.

Ladies, Would You Have Issues With the Ring?

Gentlemen, How Would You Handle This Scenario?

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Alright, Sunday Came

Disclaimer: Three types of people need to leave this post. If you have issues with Christianity and say, "That's Why I Don't Go to Church", Leave! If you think Carlton Pearson is a heretic, Leave! If you come to see if I will bash and/or debate Pearson or the Christian church, Leave.

I'll start by saying that I have never been one to majorly follow Evangelist Carlton Pearson, before & after his views on Heaven, Hell & Inclusion changed. My grandmother liked him and that was how I mostly heard him. His messages were never my style. Then I saw one interview years ago after his views changed and like most of us that have been "Church Hurt", he was still in the bitter stages. I recognized & understood that. What he was called was harsh. But I also felt he shouldn't tell the story while still resentful. That was the reason why I watched the movie. I wanted to see his emotional state in telling the story.

Come Sunday is about how Evangelist Carlton Pearson was ostracized by his church fellowships because his messages changed and how he picked himself up and continued preaching.

I went into this only knowing the basic details. And even though this account is one-sided, it was intriguing. Evangelist Pearson doesn't slide into the "woke" & evolved position automatically. As the old folks say, you'll want to sock him a time or two. And yeah, the ending is quickly concluded.

The cast was superb. Chiwetel Ejiofor looked & preached like Evangelist Pearson. Condola Rashad as Mrs. Pearson was a refreshing look at the kind of pastor's wife I grew up with. Martin Sheen played Oral Roberts very well. Nothing out of his mouth shocked me. And Lakeith Stanfield is trying to get an Oscar. Reggie was such the learning tool for Pearson.

The reaction scenes of church & the bishops to Pearson sticking to his message was priceless. The extra's nailed it. I was actually waiting for one "Hell Naw" to be heard, just one. And showing the head bishop as more religious than Christian showed some great research.

My only gripe is that we should have seen more about his path to LGBT+ inclusion. It seemed rushed.

I applaud Evangelist Pearson for telling his story.  I know how I feel when people on both sides criticize me for believing in both the Creation & Big Bang Theory and saying New Life instead of Heaven or Hell. And I'm not a minister of any sorts. It had to be torturous for Pearson. It's bold to believe, speak, and live differently from the norm. But being Christian, in my opinion, was never the norm. The Bible does say we are a peculiar people. And each one should follow the path of love in the direction that we feel God whispers in each of our ears.

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What's Your Motivation?

Oh Boy, You guys love to run with part of a story. But a gossip site gave you all a portion of the story and gossip sites are always right. I almost approached this topic with just that portion. Then my sense said, "Come On" and went to the source and got the whole story. Upon researching the full video, the question presented along with its discussion & the story of what the chef did do not match.

I'm glad when people are motivated to make positive changes in their lives. We all could change something(s) to help us thrive more. But when it seems like the base motivation is fear another will leave, I have to wonder will the changes stick. It is not the same as them encouraging you to be better. Fear is defined as an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat. Yes, not attempting to be your best could mess up a relationship. But what if you are being your best and they still leave?

I think doing it for you should be your base motivation. Let a love's thought be secondary. Because at the end of the day, you will always there with you. Might as well be there for you.

As for my opinion based on the non-matching discussion that the panel had...this post HERE should say enough. But the discussion does help give a reason why a woman with vitiligo would wear those wigs all the time.

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Remember Monster Plant?

If you don't know about Monster Plant read about it HERE.

It was nice out. So, I did a little yard work, today.

Just spreading a little Weed & Feed in the yard. Turned down the last corner and I saw Monster Plant.

See, what happens when you clean up ALL your crap.

Now, I can deal with a plant that size.

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Your Fat Butt Does What? (Answering Questions)

If you have questions, send them to C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@GMAIL.COM.

Q: What is it like being a plus size Nutritionist?

A: In a world where Nutrition is seen as well-fit bodies pushing food pyramids & various weight loss products, I can admit it's not as bad as I thought it would be.

I've never been directly questioned when saying that I was one. I do see some people's face doubtful faces. But I let my life tell my story, so their face can stay like that as I go on with my work

I will admit I have had to confront some vocal misconceptions about my business because I am plus size. In 2011, I restructured my company. I decided to focus mainly on Disease Management Nutrition as opposed to Weight Loss Nutrition. I work mostly with people that have diabetes, cancers, & heart diseases. My first client was a person who is now in remission for a blood cancer.

Company history dictated that was the demographic that I had the greatest effective impact. The numbers in weight loss matched my frustration. I was only attracting people who wanted pop culture influenced, hand-holding, quick fix programs. My program is not. Now, I only take a limited number of weight loss cases a year.

Well, when word among those I network with got out that I restructured, two of my colleagues wondered was it because I was fat.

I don't expect those not educated in Nutrition to know the different facets & aspects of the specialty. I expect everyday people to only know what the mainstream has told them. But those in the Food & Diet world, especially those I have worked with, I expect better. I answered them professionally and that was that.

If my looks cause anyone to determine my food & diet knowledge, that is their problems. I have a Bachelor's degree and other certificates in Nutrition from accredited programs. It's cliche' but don't judge a book by its cover. At the end of the day, I am my favorite Weight Loss client. Any nutritionist tells you different, Run!

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Can't Be Sad All the Time (Poetry Corner)

The little bard in me came by and gave me a word to share.

The Realization

Pressing My Way to Happiness

Pressing So Hard, I am Now Tired

Being Tired Makes Me Sad

So, I Rest

Such a Daunting Task

Press, Rest, Press, Rest, Press

Oh Wait

The Key is to Press More but Get Enough...

Got It!!!

Genuine Smile Back On

You know I must show proof

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I'm THAT Single Friend

Video popped up HERE and it struck a nerve. Yes, she is clearly a "pick me", but the attitude of her message is why I purposely function as a different type of "single friend".

I have two friends that are married and 2 that are dating. My sister is also married. I realized I was thought as the stereotype of the single friend when I realized I was the go-to "Do your girl have a friend" or "My boy would like some company" friend a few times in my early to mid-20s. Not any of those guys met my basic standards and they were boring. I quietly got annoyed so, I made it my mission to never be seen or function as the stereotype of a single friend ever again.

I try my best. I've learned to not offer advice on relationships. If I do give any, I preface it with "Remember, I'm not even dating anyone".

Only a few of my friends can complain to me about baby mamas or daddies, ex-SOs, step kids, or in-laws. I'm a logical person, usually. And I hate to fight over the frivolous & petty, but I have hands & words for anybody taking advantage or just won't act right. Before I invite my married or dating friends out to ladies-only events, I make sure to have a few clues on the SO feelings about the event.

Once, a friend's former SO told the friend's mom about a planned ladies' night after hearing about it days before. I thought that was crazy for the SO to do so, but a lesson was learned. Oh, I also don't constantly commiserate about being single. Not just in front of them, I just don't. Yes, I want to be in a relationship, but not at any cost. Stereotypes whine about being single.  Next thing you know, you'll be set up on dates with guys you matched with on a secret online dating profile. And since I am only 3% favorable of dating friends or relatives of friends or relatives, an explanation of why I need to spend time with a guy is required. Just because I am single & he is single is not a viable reason.

Yeah, many of my friends' SOs or former SOs probably think I'm a weirdo. And some had to learn a new way to think. But hey, I'm just keeping our rapports as cordial as possible. Functioning as a stereotype is not an honest lifestyle for me. Being my honest self is my best way to cordial.

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