Speaking Mostly in Slang (Not Interested in Dating (Grey Area))

I am quite aware many of you will read this (and have read other posts in this series) like "Man, she be critical like a mug. I see how she is. Ol' bougie, stuck up BAP. Irregardless of what she say, Imma be me." And that is exactly my point. LoL

Somewhere it is becoming socially acceptable to talk like all the years of sitting in English class learning grammar is a waste. So, blame this blog post on the teacher & Chick Fil A manager banning slang in the classroom & workplace. In which I stand and clap with hearty agreement. I just don't understand why people think talking in slang all the time is cute. Can you imagine if you were ordering a Chicken Biscuit one morning and the person taking your order said, "You want a chicken biscuit or nah. Fam, those be on fleek". I just rolled my eyes at that after I typed it. I wish I would hear some foolishness.

Many of us speak slang, sometimes. I know I do.

It is one of the reasons I am nervous about doing a vlog. I would get too relaxed and sound like some home girl. And I only sound like that to survive walking down the street or I'm very angry. It actually grates my nerves to talk to someone who only or mostly holds their conversation in slang. Especially if the person is claiming to have some smarts about themselves, it's mind numbing. Sometimes, if one could hear my niece, Alura and I engage in conversation, one would laugh.
The scene would contain a lady acting like a grammar teacher and an older teen frustrated with that lady. It is something about talking in slang all the time that sound unintelligent. I hate for people to have a perception that I am dumb. I feel like with me being Black, Plus Size, Southern, and living in the Inner City I can't afford to make that stupid perception be true. And of course that is what I am teaching my niece & nephew. Many times what comes out of your mouth tells a story about you. Whether if it is the true story or not.

Unfortunately, many men on the dating scene were not taught that. Many men don't get that they can talk themselves out of not getting the number or dates with what comes out their mouths. What is wrong with "Hello" or "Hey, How are you doing?”? No, folks want to cool and hip and approach their person of interest with "Say ma, how you be or 'Sup”. Oh and does stop there. Some slip by with a nice Hi and later their conversation gets very sloppy. I went out with a guy once and his approach was cool. Our few phone calls were great. We went out on a date and I thought I had been punked. I had never heard so many uh's and say's while anyone ordered in my life. I thought he might have been nervous until at the end the night and he said "Check this out Guh, I ain't had a good time like this in a long time. That food was gooder than a mug". I was expecting "Check it out, I had a good time. The food was good". Clearly, there was not another date. What is wrong with talking like that? Why does talking lazy have to be the cool thing to do?

Oh I know some of you are sitting there thinking "Well, she needs an educated dude".

No, that is not what I am saying. I have dated men who were former street corner drug dealer that have been to prison with barely a high school diploma that didn't talk lazy all the time. I have also been on college campuses with guys who spoke as if slang was their native tongue. Education has nothing to do with it. Age has nothing to do with how a man talks. I'm not dating anyone under that age of 35 these days. Also rarely, am I even approached by anyone under the age of 30. These are adult men that talk like this, I dislike talking to people who act like it is a bother to talk like one has some sense most days.

I am not saying when a guy is on the basketball court not to speak slang. But who plays basketball all day. I just don't like guys whose conversations are more than 35% of slang. I like men who act like some of the grammar lessons taught to them got through and not be ashamed to speak like it. That's all!!!

Okay let me go edit this bad boy. Make sure this post is on fleek. I can't be talkin' all about how the bruhs be talkin and have all deez errors. I be not that type of Guh. LoL

OAN: If Spell & Grammar check  was a person it would more than likely cussed me out for making it work so hard on the post. ☺☺☺

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

My Favorite Web Series, RoomieLoverFriends Ended *sigh*

I should Not be saying Spoiler Alert because you should be watching THIS SHOW!!!


Umm, who is not aware that I am Addicted to Web Shows? How did that happen? Right now I have to be the fan of something like 70 web shows. I told y'all in this BLOG unlike the reality shows that everyone else watches, "I relate to Web Shows better".

Well my favorite, RoomieLoverFriends after three seasons ended on Halloween. I was hurt at first. Not my baby! Not Tamiko! Not Jay! So I voiced my concerns on Twitter & YouTube leading up to the series finale.

It didn't matter I was still watching it. I am a FAN until the end and even after.

So at 1 something in the morning, after a Halloween party, I watched the Series Finale, which happened to be a Halloween (and birthday) party, also. And it didn't disappoint.

I'm sad but better things are coming. In the Summer of 2015, RoomieLoverFriend will be a movie in theaters. I can Not wait!!! I really hope it comes to Dallas. I know it's not LA, New York, or Atlanta but Dallas is a large metropolitan city, too.

RoomieLoverFriends is about roommates, Tamiko & Jayson (Jay) and what happens when they sleep with each other.
Jayson is a charming & outgoing personal trainer, who reaction to what he doesn't like is very monkey see, monkey do. Tamiko is a very observant & lay it on the line business owner. Also, she's petty and has an attitude that goes from 0 to 100 at a moments notice. Also these two bring into their world,

Well Meaning & Laughable Friends & Family

A Dinner & Clothes & Accessories Thieving Ex & other Potential Suitors
Trifling, Nosey, & Messy Neighbors 
And a Creepy, Overprotective Daddy, who is also a Sugar Pops

Since September 2012 I have been hooked on the hijinks & drama of these two that I lovingly call Jamiko, Oh and that video above is the theme song, Enjoy!!!

What Made them my Favorite?

-I saw part of me. I am a Tamiko. I am very observant and I have a great memory.

Too many shifty people in your life make you that way. But the downfall is that you come off rather petty when you bring some of your observances up. Then that person gets upset or lies and boom the raging attitude explodes. For example Tamiko had a 72 hr that changes to 24 hr rule about overnight guests. $75 dollars for any day stay after they scheduled stay. Well, she had to execute that twice in the show. Once because of the very reason for the rule. Her roommate had snuck in a squatter. Some folks said she was trivial about that. Umm, when the bills goes up would it be fair for Tamiko to pay the increase? I didn't think so. I'm not excusing Tamiko on some of her actions. But, I will say I understood them a lot. I understand how someone could act like that. Also, Tamiko, like many women had a hard time in surrendering herr heart. I told you she was observant. Jay always wanted to be with her but it looked like he only wanted to show his interest in the apartment. That was because of the nature of how their romantic rapport started and the fact she didn't require him to show his interest in her outside the apartment until later. I think she like many of us women had to learn that.

Until she found herself worthy of just being more than his RoomieLoverFriend did she see how her really saw her.

-This is an aspect of relationships, I Never experienced. I had the opportunity, once when I was graduating college. The guy didn't want me to leave college town and wanted me to stay with him. It didn't make sense to me. We weren't dating or even screw buddies for that matter. I guess he just really wanted for me to be close by. I didn't have job or even a job prospects. Also I could not figure out how to explain to my mom why I would be staying. So I returned home and he pouted about me not staying. I am so thankful for turning that offer down for more reasons other than this show. The guy ended up getting a job in another city and state. I would've ended up at home anyway. One of the writers confirmed that some of the storyline was loosely based off events in her life. It was refreshing to see that stories like this do exist without being farfetch. This is a believable story. Pop culture want us to believe that we all can sleep with one another and not ever catch feelings. Sorry mainstream media!!! Many times, we are catching feelings.

-The Eye Candy on the show. Andra Fuller who plays Jay is so fine. Yeah, his quick to jump to conclusions without all the facts approach got on my nerves but he still looked good. I see how Tamiko hook up with him.

He's Team Eye Candy & Pinterest Board. I don't care if he played a gay guy on LA Complex. I didn't watch that teeny bopper show. He plays a gorgeous straight man on RoomieLoverFriends. And I have a feeling he's the type if he were gay, it would be known. If he is, oh well, the lust was fun while it lasted. Even with that struggle beard, Jay look good.
And let us not forget Austen Jaye as Austin & Sinorice Moss, a former football player as Jessiah.

For a petty chick, Tamiko sure did have some fine, Fine, FINE men in her romantic life. Oh and who remembers when Jay & Austin were about to fight because Austin called Tamiko a 'ho'.

All that fineness was about to punch each other out. But it didn't come to that. Black & Sexy TV,if you are reading this, can I play Jay's cousin from Texas in the movie? I mean, he needs some relatives on camera. I know Jay is from Louisiana but he could have went to college in Texas. I promise not to be incestuous on camera. I promise!!!

Weel I still have next Summer of 2015, Roomie Lover Friends. I know I have other shows to watch. Black & Sexy TV with That Guy & Hello Cupid at least will keep me company. But nothing will be Jamiko on RoomieLoverFriends. I'm hoping for a Black & Sexy TV wedding.

As long as Mike from That Guy will not perform at the reception as Prince like he did on the Finale.

He was a hilarious mess. Oh and I hope they answer my question finally "Where is Joshua"? I think he's Jessiah. Jessiah is Joshua's middle name and he might be a tad vengeful. Sheldon the Sugar Pops, Tamiko & Calista better watch out. LoL

Oh, I just found the After Party recap has posted. I on my way to watch that. Oh I didn't tell you one of my post made it onto a After party episode!!! Watch it HERE!!! (Yes, I tweeted them back. My comment was edited for grammatical purposes. Y'all know I get excited when I type. LoL)

Team Jamiko Forever!!!


Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Blind Dates/Matchmaking Process (Not Interested in Dating)

It's cuffing season. How do I know? My singleness is bothering the desperate to in relationship, the kinda really want to be in a relationship, & all the matchmakers in my life. I shouldn't say bother. May I say, they really want me to be in a relationship. Some feel like Everybody should be in a relationship. Some feel like they're tired of being single so, somehow I should be too. But yeah, I have like more than a handful of people right now wanting to set me up on dates. I even had a friend to offer to write an online dating profile for me. I know their hearts are in the right place but their thought processes are very wonky.

Matchmaking & blind dating is a grey area. I've been there, got the T-shirt, and could pen a few novel loosely based on my experiences. Let me tell you guys something that I've never actually said. Though I have participated and still won't totally reject participating in dating based on the matchmaking process, I am Very weirded out by it.

When people want to "hook me up" with a guy, I never understand their motives. Especially, when the guy & I have never seen or met one another. I understand if he saw me and thought I was cute or vice versa. I understand if I mention more than 3x's a months that I really want to date. 3xs a month is a sign of wanting be in a relationship, in my opinion. Even when I in my moment of wanting to go on a date, I know I don't mention that more than 3xs a month. Matchmaking people just because what one thinks could be good for them, in weird to me. Again I know their hearts are in the right place. But it is hard to not wonder why do people feel like you can't find like, lust or love if you wanted to on your own. It's hard not to think that people think you don't know how to pick a possible companion for yourself. It's hard to ask them why do they think I need to be booed up. It's hard for me not to think people actually think I am so dogface, fat, mean, Christianity-based, educated, whatever that I will never date again without their help. It is very hard for me not to ask them, Why are you trying to hook me up.

I'm not saying I've never hooked anyone up.

But I've only played matchmaker when someone was interesting in someone else I knew or was really wanted to be in a relationship. I'm pretty oblivious to other people's romantic loneliness. That's something people have to say for me to pay attention to. Just this time last year, I found a good guy for a buddy of mine (who was really wanting to be in a relationship). They both were professionals, well read, liked traveling and had seen to have similar interest in religion, music, & comic books. I even found out they ran in the same circles and may have know one another. I told my buddy about the guy, my buddy looked the person up and was not interested. I backed off. and I don't revisit the idea.

I guess that might be my problem. I really want to many of these matchmakers in my life to back off. Most of them have failed already and don't even realize it.

I have a mental list of those who are Not allowed to hook me up on a blind date Some won't get a chance again. Some will never get a chance because of their thought of the types of guys they think I would like (based on their limited knowledge of guys I've dated (Only 1 of my friends knows all the guys I've dated in my Adult life). Some will not get a chance just for sheer annoyance of always wanting me to date. I've even decided to Never tell some of these people when I decide to get back on the market or that I am ever romantically lonely. Yeah, it's that bad.

So, blind dates are not high on the list of my dating pool of guys.  Now, if  you know dude is trying to holla, that's different. Pass the info and move on. I got it from there.

Matchmakers, don't come for me until I call for you. I love you! I truly do. But until then, stop trying to make me a match.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Umm It's Halloween Time and Umm Walmart, That's Strike One!!!

Well it's Halloween time! As I was rolling my eyes looking at this years starter crop of distasteful Halloween costumes (ebola costumes, child as Ray Rice, some chick as a used sanitary napkin) Monday morning, many distasteful Walmart articles kept popping up.

Walmart's Website Features a Section of 'Fat Girl Costumes'

Market Report: Walmart Features Horrifying Selection of “Fat Girl” Costumes

Seemly it was up for a few days before Monday. Twitter was abuzz about it even days after.

So, I decided to look myself. Because surely not Walmart being gross in labeling the Plus Size. Then I saw it with my own eyes.*sigh*. Walmart had to get their first "Plus Size Hate" strike. I had to join Twitter and tweet along. 45 minutes later after I saw the section, it disappeared from the website. 

Walmart apologizes for 'fat girl' costumes

Here is an article about the apology HERE.  It is disgraceful that it was on the website. Like I said before in a previous BLOG, the plus size can take there money somewhere else. If Walmart keeps this up, it will be on my boycott list that already includes its competitor, Target and Old Navy, As much money I give Walmart... Get it together Walmart!!!

I'm going to say because it is Halloween, somebody in the web developing department or some hackers thought it would be a laughable Trick or Treat joke. I mean, It's Halloween in America where blackface and deadly diseases an acceptable costume. So making fun of fatties is okay. Be it Halloween or not, fat people are fair game to joke about anyway. Oh it's wrong to make fun of  anyone because of their age, race, creed, gender, national origin, religion, sexual orientation, gender identity, disability, marital status or socioeconomic status. Someone's body type or weight is a free for all for humor and taunts, always. Not funny, jerkwad!!! I hope all involved who thought it was okay for it to be on the website lose their jobs.

Even with that gross mishap, it is still Halloween time. I've been invited to a Halloween theme revue & a Halloween party by sister's friend whose birthday is that day. For safety sake I'm not going to the Halloween revue. Some revuer grab me from behind and scare me and get punched in the costume shorts. Plus all the Tootsie Roll & Sucker references will get old real quick. I do wonder, If Revuers wear costumes on Regular revue nights, Do they wear their regular clothes on stage for Halloween? LoL But I might go to the party.

I plan on being a cowgirl with lollipop stained lips.
You know, I look like I've been eating candy all night. LoL If not I'll pass out candy to the few trick or treaters we have until 8pm and then I'll watch the 1986 classic, "The Worst Witch" (the clip above) and anything else Halloween (fun, non-scary) related. 

Are any of my readers celebrating Halloween (or All Saints Eve, Neewollah, Hallelujah Night, Harvest Night)? How are you doing so? Let me know in the comments.

Well if I don't talk to you on October 31st, Happy Halloween!!!

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Ok Boardwalk Empire, All Empires End *sigh*

So, Lucky Luciano rules the underworld.

Al Capone went to jail,

Oh and Nucky Thompson was killed.

I was shocked he died. I am upset and who killed him. Okay I am getting ahead of myself. Let me rewinded. Boardwalk Empire ended on Sunday, October 26, 2014, I hated to see it end. But as HBO said "All Empire's End" and "No One Goes Quietly".

Okay. I saw 3 good points in the finale. Al Capone actually went to jail. I learned that Al Capone went to jail in high school history class. That was inevitable but when he told his partially deaf son that he was going down that brought tears to my eyes. My heart swelled a little all throughout the show whenever he interacted with his son.
Capone was a lot of horrible things but he was a loving father too. Valentin Narcisse got killed.

Oh Valentin Narcisse, the bible quoting dope smuggler dies, I was so happy to see him get killed. And in front of his parishioners giving him compliments. He brought down Chalky White so he had to go down. The best part of the finale was Gillian Darmody Not getting out of the mental institute.
I was so fearful that a guilty Nucky was going to atone for his sins towards her by getting her out. I know young Gillian was wronged because Nucky gave her to that pedophile called Commodore

but Gillian as an Adult was crazy. Remember when she drowned that poor innocent Roger that was a doppelganger of her son Jimmy. A sane person would've turned Nucky in for killing Jimmy. No, not Gillian she kills an innocent man so she can officially declare her son dead. Yeah, she belong in that asylum.

I should have known Nucky was going to die when these three men died,

the two men who clearly had 9 lives on that show, Mickey Doyle & Nelson Van Alden and

the beloved Chalky White. But that is no never mind. Die by the sword, Live by the sword. Nucky dying was not my issue. Who killed Nucky broke my heart.

Tommy Darmody age 14 posing as a guy named Joe Harper killed Nucky. Tommy was the son of Jimmy who worked for then betrayed Nucky. Nucky killed him.
Jimmy was the son of Gillian and the pedophilic Commodore. When Jimmy died,

Gillian raised Tommy for a few years before a friend of Jimmy's named Richard Harrow rescued him from Gillian's whorehouse during a shoot out. Harrow places him with some friends named the Sagorskys. There is custody battle in which the Sagorsky's win and they raise Tommy. Later as a teenager, Tommy went under the alias "Joe Harper," to get close to Nucky Thompson. He gets in trouble and Nucky gets him out of it. Nucky tries to advise him not to go down the path he did. He doesn't listen but he does follow Nucky down the Boardwalk, tells him who he really is, and then kills Nucky. He is arrested immediately. It's safe to say his grandmother in her quest to write people to get herself out of the asylum, she wrote Tommy, telling him about Nucky Thompson. Tommy avenged Nucky for all that he did to his family.

Why am I hurt?

If only Richard Harrow had survived!

Richard Harrow would have raised Tommy and put him on a straight & narrow path. He put Tommy in the care of Julia Sagorsky & her father. He eventually marries Julia so they could get custody of Tommy. Richard Harrow just had to return to Atlantic City for "work".  Harrow made an agreement with Nucky to recover Jimmy's body to seal the deal in the conviction of Gillian, with his obligation being to help Chalky kill Valentin Narcisse. Chalky's daughter steps in the path of the bullet and is killed. In shock over the accident he reacts slowly while bullets fly his way. He is shot but manages to escape and die quietly on the beach. His last visions are of  him coming home Julia Sagorsky & Tommy. We never find out what happens during the years before Tommy poses as Joe. It's just hurtful that Tommy had to succumb to the same fate as his biological family & Nucky Thompson, the man her murdered.

Well, here is a hat tip to "Boardwalk Empire".

RIP
Nucky Thompson
Chalky White
Richard Harrow
My Sunday night will not be the same.

Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms