Dating Game Rant

Just got off the phone with another single friend talking about being on the dating market and dating lingo. What happened to "Will you be my Girlfriend"? When did "Hooking Up" mean We're Dating? When did there become a difference in dating each and in a relationship. Oh we went on and on pondering and laughing, It got me to thinking about changes in the dating game.

There is No Secret that I am "single not looking" more than I am "single and on the being found market", "single and casually dating around" or "single and in a dating relationship" (Umm, You're single until marriage, in my opinion)  There various reasons like "emotional healing" or "hectic non dating life" that I take myself off the market. I don't believe in jumping into relationship right after another. I don't believe in being in relationship just to be in one. I'm not the lonely type.

But every time I put myself back on the market, I promise you the game has change somewhere and I have to adjust. Why does the game have to change? Dating should not have so many different rules to it. You should Meet, Like each other, Dating casually, Get in a serious relationship and Finally get married. Or if during one of those steps or phases you find out you're not compatible for any reason (religion, infidelity, values, education, work ethic, etc) you break up.

But for some odd reason somewhere it became not that simple as I stated. Now you meet someone and you have to do research on them before first or at least the second date. I understand because of people like married liars, and various catfish  but how do you get to know somebody when you possibly know it all. You meet some one and have to wait a day or two to call not to seem eager. Being to eager might turn them off. But if you wait to long to call they might think you are not serious. Truth be told, If you wait to long to call me I might forget about you. I had to "Who are you" a guy before because he waited 3 weeks to call. Actually he texted me. And that is another thing, all these adult age people texting request for dates. Who started this crap? Make it stop! I should not have to tell anyone I don't accept text requested dates. I refuse to follow that trend. You want to go out with me, Open your mouth and ask me. For all I know the text request was sent to many and whoever answers first is who he is going out with. No sir, Not me! Call me!!!

If you are in a committed relationship or married, trust me you are so not missing anything in the dating world. Hopefully you knew that already. But no matter what game changes they throw my way, I endear. You can knock me down out of game. I just recharge and regroup because I always stick to my rules. If the games ever changing rules flow with my rules, then good for the game.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!!!

"Catfish" My New Television Guilty Pleasure

 *Spoiler Warning*

Okay, It's no secret that I don't watch many popular reality shows. You know the ones that Wives, Hip Hop, Bachelor, Bachelorette, Bad, Club, or Chrissy in the title of it. I don't watch them. Yes, it gets me stared at crazy by many I know. I don't relate at all. I just don't understand all that fighting and you are not competing for a Large Cash Grand Prize or Job (Like RuPaul's Drag Race, Big Brother, or Amazing Race) or Not Relatives (Like Mary Mary) Yes, the Parentheses are shows I watch and I have some "Guilty Pleasure" shows I do watches like Cheaters, Toddlers and Tiaras, and Bridezillas. Well, there is an addition to the "Guilty Pleasures" list and its name is Catfish the TV Show.

It is derived from a Documentary about a guy who meets his online love and finds out she was not who she said was. Well after the movie aired the man was bombarded with emails with people with online love horror stories. The show is about that same guy helping people find out if their online lovers are lying or not. So far in five episodes, no one is telling the truth. I have faith though. It may be the Season finale but I have faith somebody will be telling the truth. (Yes, you can laugh).

The show is a trip. There is an episode with a lady who was a stripper and thought she dating a childless male stripper. The male stripper was a husky guy with children that was supposed to be the male stripper's promoter. There is the episode where a young lady thought for almost 2 years she was talking to a guy and it was a cruel prank of an ex-boyfriend's current girlfriend. The girlfriend was Not remorseful at all because she just wanted the girl to leave her boyfriend. I pray that the young lady learns better and more mature conflict management. *sigh* Then there was the most interesting case to date to me. The lady had a boyfriend who wanted to marry her. Yet, she had a 10-year online romance that she wanted to meet to make a decision.

I try to watch this show with an open mind. This could happen to anyone. There are so many liars out there in the world. But like Cheaters, I think it is sad that this show is even needed. People don't use common sense or are too lazy to do the "homework" on someone before meeting one another and even worse catching feelings. A central theme I see is almost Anuptahobic people trying to date. They are so scared to be alone that they accept these obvious lies. I'm sorry "Never being able to meet" is an obvious lie. Especially if for longer than 3 months if you live in the same city, in my opinion, is a bald-faced lie. Who never has time if they are single and telling the truth? Even if you met while both were grocery shopping. I understand long-distance love puts a strain on the meeting but listen to what they say when you finally become able to meet.

As for being too lazy to do the Homework, it amazed me how everyone has at least a Facebook page on this show. Yet, no one looks through the page fully. Many of the clues are found on the Facebook pages of the offender. They go to a Modeling school in India. Friends of the offender have the same pictures as the offender that happens to look just like the offender. While we texting each other I'd be all on their page.  If "Bells" went off enough to email Catfish Ummm "Bells" should have gone off for you to do your own investigating. If he could find it...

I date No One without doing All my homework. As I get older and add to my dating experience, the amount of homework has increased. I've dated online men before. Met the man to become one of my best friends that way (That was a Confession). I also met the Best Liar in the World ever (trust me he increased my amount of homework) online also.  We always met in a public place. Sometimes I brought my friends along, just in case a dude stood me up. Never had it to happen. But we always met within a month. And if we can't meet, I tell the dude to lose my number (Hey, am I wrong for saying "Lose my Number" to dismissed guys? Just Curious!). In the words of Sweet Brown "Ain't Nobody got Time Fah Dat".

So, that's my new "Guilty Pleasure", Catfish the TV Show. I'm going to watch Catfish the Documentary one day. I want to see this guy's journey. I do know him and the girl became good friends. Okay let me catch the latest episode with my fingers crossed the "offender" is true blue. LoL