Because I Still Believe...

I would like to be in a dating relationship. I do want to get married. I joke about not getting married until I'm age 65 (He has a check & I have a check) as a joke. Yet, life might be taking me to task on that idea. I was having quick (under 5 minute) talk about Will I ever get married with my friend, Blog name, Jay-May and it hits me. I HATE whining about me being single. LoL But I am going to have to learn to stop discussing my desire to be in a relationship with a few people in my life. Those people fall under one or many of these 3 categories:

• People who think they have a kinship and go on an on about the woes of being single. (No "Being Single" conversation should last more than 15-20 minutes and I don't like having that conversation more than once a month.)
• People who want to tell me why I am single (and strange enough unhappy). Yeah, they are an assuming bunch of self-appointed advisors.
• People(mostly those who MUST be in a relationship to survive) who feel they need to play match maker (offline & online). I'm even going to stop joking with these folks because they do not get my brand of comedy at all.
  

It freaks me out and I never see those annoying behaviors creeping up. I'm always deep in before it dawns on me that I am having This conversation. Having the conversation too much places my mind in continual thoughts like:

• Am I actually too Lame to be dating. Am I too Serious to date?
• While going off the market and getting me together, did I missed Mr. Right?
• Was there ever a Mr. Right? Am I like Apostle Paul, Oprah and countless of others who feel like single(non-married) life is the life for me?
• What if I have some funky aura that causes potentials to be grossed out?

I don't like dealing with those kind of topics unless I am suppose to be doing the "Me" work and I must deal with these certain points head on to function in life. But just to dwell on them makes me feel desperate. I Hate feeling desperate. That's how I spent to much time dating losers just because they liked me.

I mean those losers were life lessons but, I don't need to be in that headspace all the time. That headspace is the venue for dating pity parties. I got other stuff to do other than to attend that life sucking event.

Because I still have the faith in romantic love, doesn't mean I need to be down on myself because I not experiencing it now. No one should be down on themselves. And I am refusing to be pull into the talk anymore.  Oh well, back to my self-love inner lair. I'll stay there until I am to share this love with another.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Dating Game Rant

Just got off the phone with another single friend talking about being on the dating market and dating lingo. What happened to "Will you be my Girlfriend"? When did "Hooking Up" mean We're Dating? When did there become a difference in dating each and in a relationship. Oh we went on and on pondering and laughing, It got me to thinking about changes in the dating game.

There is No Secret that I am "single not looking" more than I am "single and on the being found market", "single and casually dating around" or "single and in a dating relationship" (Umm, You're single until marriage, in my opinion)  There various reasons like "emotional healing" or "hectic non dating life" that I take myself off the market. I don't believe in jumping into relationship right after another. I don't believe in being in relationship just to be in one. I'm not the lonely type.

But every time I put myself back on the market, I promise you the game has change somewhere and I have to adjust. Why does the game have to change? Dating should not have so many different rules to it. You should Meet, Like each other, Dating casually, Get in a serious relationship and Finally get married. Or if during one of those steps or phases you find out you're not compatible for any reason (religion, infidelity, values, education, work ethic, etc) you break up.

But for some odd reason somewhere it became not that simple as I stated. Now you meet someone and you have to do research on them before first or at least the second date. I understand because of people like married liars, and various catfish  but how do you get to know somebody when you possibly know it all. You meet some one and have to wait a day or two to call not to seem eager. Being to eager might turn them off. But if you wait to long to call they might think you are not serious. Truth be told, If you wait to long to call me I might forget about you. I had to "Who are you" a guy before because he waited 3 weeks to call. Actually he texted me. And that is another thing, all these adult age people texting request for dates. Who started this crap? Make it stop! I should not have to tell anyone I don't accept text requested dates. I refuse to follow that trend. You want to go out with me, Open your mouth and ask me. For all I know the text request was sent to many and whoever answers first is who he is going out with. No sir, Not me! Call me!!!

If you are in a committed relationship or married, trust me you are so not missing anything in the dating world. Hopefully you knew that already. But no matter what game changes they throw my way, I endear. You can knock me down out of game. I just recharge and regroup because I always stick to my rules. If the games ever changing rules flow with my rules, then good for the game.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!!!