Showing posts with label Parents. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Parents. Show all posts

Thursday, July 14, 2016

Our History Textbooks Left Out the Section About Kids Menu (Food Know-It-All)

My belief is if you look at the backbone of your eating habits & food ideas, your family or whoever reared you is bracing it up. Think about it, how many "rules" about food have you carried over from your childhood to your adult life. I am typing this post and I literally hear a 10-year-old OUTSPOKEN_DIVA ask me the following questions:

  • Did we ever go to IHOP? Yes, when we get to college.
  • Remember those Hot Wings at Cousin Fran's wedding we finally had when we were 8, are they still around? Yes, there are now whole restaurants specializing in flavored wings
  • Do we still like Ravioli Casserole? Unfortunately, we do. But only once a year. (Now, I'm fighting a craving for Ravioli Casserole (Chef Boyardee with Cheddar Cheese mixed in), I've had it already this year. LOL Blame Public School Lunches)

Growing up, we didn't eat out often. Until I was 12, my home had three families(My Grandparents, My Mom & her 3 kids and My Youngest Aunt & her 2 kids) residing in it. Home Cooking was the best economical choice for our home. My grandmother cooked during the week and my aunt & my mom cooked on the weekends. Sometimes on Saturdays (once a month on a Friday), fast food or takeout was brought in. Eating out was rather special for us. We ate out

  • When we went out of town
  • When we went shopping with mom & grandparents (Easter, Back to School, Christmas)
  • Church Functions
  • If you were in the car when my grandfather decided to show off the latest restaurant he tried with the credit union board after Sunday church service
Now when going out to eat there were 4 rules.

  • Behave!!!
  • Don't order anything you can eat at home.
  • Anything you order, You Better Eat
  • If eating at a cafeteria or buffet, there should be two vegetable choices on your tray

I don't remember ever ordering off of any Kid's Menu at a Standard, Sit down restaurant. I was allowed to color but I remember ordering off the regular menu. My mother hated Kids Menus. "This is a Mexican restaurant, why is there a hamburger on the menu." "Who eats a plate of Macaroni & Cheese? Vegetarian Kids eat vegetables, too".
Once I could read I could see that everything on the kid's menu was stuff I could eat at home. Many of you may see that rule as being bougie or stuck up. I see it as not wasting money. 3.99 for a basic grilled cheese sandwich, fries & a drink that I probably ate already at school earlier in the week. Yeah, I was picking the taco plate off the regular menu. Now, I just heard my grandmother say, "And you better eat all of it". LoL

Once I got older I agreed with the food experts, nutritionists, dieticians & doctors in the 90s and beyond, Kids Menus needed a facelift. (Well, at least at Standard, Sit Down restaurants, I agreed. Healthy Fast Food is an Oxymoron, in my opinion. If people want their families to eat healthily, Don't Eat Fast Food.) I didn't understand why was there a Kids Menu.
Very few homes I knew of served separate dinners for the adults & the children. And all of those were because of medical requirements & extremely picky eaters. Most homes served everyone the same thing. Adults didn't eat chicken, dressing & green beans while the children eat corndogs & fries. In my own home, the only times the children ate something different than the adults were fried fish night (bone-in fish & fish sticks) and the chitterling meal for New Years (I still eat a separate dinner). So, why do restaurants have a separate and not so equal menu? I finally learned why.

What we know of public children & youth dining in America started with the Volstead Act (The Act to prohibit intoxicating beverages, and to regulate the manufacture, production, use, and sale of alcohol). In the century leading up to the dry laws, children rarely ate out. Only the children of well off families ate out or stay in hotels Restaurants not attached to hotels didn’t even serve children, because they got in the way of boozy grown-up fun. Prohibition took effect in January 1920, the dry laws forced the hospitality industry to rethink its policy on children: The Waldorf-Astoria in New York in 1921 became one of the first establishments to beckon to children with a menu of their very own. But even as restaurants began to invite children in, it was with a new limitation: They could no longer eat what their parents ate.


The earliest children’s menus didn’t look so different from the playful ones we know today. The Waldorf-Astoria put Little Jack Horner on the cover of their pink-and-cream booklet; as he pulls out his plummy thumb, a dish runs away with a spoon. But then there was the food—the bland, practically basic food. There was flaked chicken over boiled rice, mixed green vegetables in butter; a splat of prune whip. And the one dish that appeared without exception, the chicken nugget of the Jazz Age was a plain broiled lamb chop.
A pediatrician Emmett Holt, first published a book called The Care and Feeding of Children, in 1894, it stayed in print for nearly half a century, teaching mothers, nurses, and, apparently, chefs that young children weren’t to be given fresh fruits, nuts, or raisins in their rice pudding. Pies, tarts, and indeed "pastry of every description" were "especially forbidden," and for no reason were such items as ham, bacon, corn, cod, tomato soup, or lemonade to pass a child's lips before his 10th birthday. Holt didn’t explain his guidelines but it this medley of medicine and morality that still dictated the first 20 years of children’s menus. Restaurants packed them with everything Emmett Holt said to, and they did it proudly.

Then came Dr. Spock with the 1946 publication of Baby and Child Care. Benjamin Spock succeeded Emmett Holt as the nation’s chief childrearing expert which emphasized nurture over discipline. But, for all the collective relaxing over children’s diets in the postwar years, the children’s menu was not abandoned.
Look at those prices
Restaurants were now dependent on its marketing benefits; children didn’t want to give up booklets that doubled as clown masks or featured punch-out airplanes; and parents, quite understandably, had become attached to the low prices. So the children’s menu persisted. Meanwhile, a growing processed-food industry made it powerfully cost-effective to rewrite. By the 1970s, the children’s menu as we know it today was basically in place: The design was as colorful as ever, but the food had been restricted to its present-day palette of browns and yellows.

Again as we see now, our little ones eat a little healthier in restaurants. They at least have a variety of choices, now.

French Fries have a new buddy, Garden Salad & Broccoli with the Grilled Cheese meal. Yes, I've shared this information with my mother. She was shocked that the practice went back so far.
She didn't eat in restaurants until she was an older teenager. (Jim Crow, Segregation, the 1960s) Meals were home-cooked or takeout, only back then for my family. And with this new knowledge she now just dislike not hate Kids Menus. She wishes that would be abolished and parents teach their kids how to make food choices in restaurants. Well, Like Mother, Like Daughter!!!

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Friday, January 10, 2014

*side eye* Barnes & Noble... Get it Together

Child Finds Porn On Bookstore E-Reader « CBS Dallas / Fort Worth

I must really like you guys because I was web searching for this article after hearing it on the news and I know my internet use is being monitored. No LoL's. Dear U.S. Government, as you can clearly see I was looking for a article not looking up pictures of children in a lewd way.

Okay so here in a North Texas Barnes & Noble store a parent saw their 4 year old child looking at porn on a demo Nook in the children's area of the bookstore. The parent was outraged and took to social media to issue a warning. The store Execs issued an apology & confirmed the demo Nooks have no filtered controls on them.

What the Heck??? What is Barnes & Nobles and any other stores that are doing this thinking about? Public libraries, government agencies & schools block sensitive materials that can be found on the web. Why can't a public store not do the same? Oh I came up with several ways how the porn ended up on the demo Nook in the first place. 1) Some pervert looked it up in the children's area just to get his jollies off. 2) Some one with hacker potential, looked it up just to see if Barnes & Noble had it blocked. 3) Some curious preteen, caught his parent(s) not looking and went to a site he heard his peers talk about. Now I could come up with that many reasons how the porn was even on the Nook, Barnes & Noble has not good excuse why they didn't foresee this issue. This is not a vanilla world. Too much known crap is out here not to anticipate all possible problems. I don't understand how any of the demo Nooks were able to have access to any porn, governmental sites, banking websites, etc., etc. No one who visit your sore should be able to access sensitive areas of the net. That is common sense.

So Barnes and Noble and other public places not using Internet Filter controls, Shame, Shame, Shame on you for being stupid. No one comes to your store wanting to see porn. Get it together, you have a brand to protect. Get some Firewalls.

As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms

Monday, August 5, 2013

Heels for Girls

Okay today on the ABC News actually I think it was GMA this morning; there was a story about the rise in availability of heeled shoes for young girls. Some shoes are even made for three year olds. The brand they mostly focused on was Steve Madden. They are critics out there that say the heels sexualize the little girls. My eye instantly rolled. Those critics tick me off.

If you have read any of my previous blogs dealing with children, you already know I am not a parent. I have a niece who is 17 and nephew who is 7. I have a Godson who is 8. I have several God nieces ranging from 4 to 12 and God nephews 6 to 10. So, I am around kids. I have seen the heels for girls. Actually they are not new. I think in the 80's a pair of my dress (church) shoes were low wedges. I just remember at age 8 being slightly off the ground when I was dressed up on Sundays. I don't see anything sexy about those shoes. People kill me saying those shoes sexualize girls. The shoes don't make them walk sexy. The shoes don't give definition to their calves or elongate the leg. They look like kids shoes with heels on them. I think people who think that are vulgar. The reporter showed a little putting on a pair of wedge sneakers. She said she felt taller and then commences to run around in them like any other pair of sneakers kids wear. Typical childhood behavior. So, what is so sexy about that?

I don't want to hear anything about pedophile look at young girls sexually because of the shoes. Pedophiles are sick. Some can look at a baby bundled up on a blanket and have thought. Pedophilia is about control. Girls & boys without heels on are getting molested and raped. So let's debunk that excuse.

I'm not saying that girls should wear them all time. I actually think the dress shoes should be worn for Pageant and Special or Formal Occasions only. A girl should not wear them to school everyday. The wedge sneakers can go to school but also she should wear regular sneakers also. Little girls’ knees and legs need a rest. And as for a three year in some heels, that is a bit much. Three years old children can barely walk straight in bare feet. I know they are falling down in heels. I think they should be at least school age when they wear the low heels.

Oh well, again I'm not a parent. But I know many agree with me that the shoes are not sexy. If they made those shoes in Adult sizes and sexy will not be the word that comes to mind. I get tired of every little innocent thing supposedly sexualizing children. If the girl is not dress as a prostitute, stripper, or porn star with a face full of makeup then I don't think she being sexualized. Pair those shoes with a cute cupcake dress with her hair in ponytail and hair ribbons and she'll look like Easter morning or the cutest flower girl ever been seen.

Monday, June 24, 2013

Living with Your Folks!!!

You know I swear people on Twitter use Direct Messages (DM) to hide. Well I had a follower to DM me and I guess he figured out that I still lived at home with my folks, Umm Yeah! That's not a secret. How do you think I know what my mother and grandmother are watching on TV? I'm not married or have children so, who do you think I am doing at that cooking for?

When I graduated from college, I didn't have a job lined up. So, I moved back home to live with my mother, my ailing 80-plus year old grandparents and my older brother who is severely mentally challenged and has cerebral palsy. It was temporary, I thought. Soon my choice became my family's blessing in disguise. My grandfather was dying. He was going to bathroom one morning and he fell. Luckily, I was there to get him up & call my mom & aunts at work to get him the hospital. My grandfather passed away a month later. I took the phone call from the hospital, had to tell my grandmother and call mom at work so she could round up the family. That was 2004. Oh yeah I cooked meals and Helped get my brother get cleaned and ready for the day since I was unemployed. Keyword is Helped. But now I was in charge of running a household because my grandmother became grief stricken and her health started taking a strange turn after the funeral. I cooked meals, organized Dr. appointments, meds, phone calls, mail, cleaned & dress my brother (imagine an adult with a toddler's mind that just happens to know you are the little sister) and did the bulk of the shopping. And that summer I started a business. So I was like a working mother without a husband.

Let's Skip to the Spring 2010, my mother's job had her working from home. She is weeks from retiring. My grandmother falls. We thought she was okay. Boy, were we wrong. That was the start of what later would be a 4 month long hospital and nursing rehab stay because before the summer ended she had to have her gall bladder removed and therapy on her legs. That November they sent her home with a wheelchair. My mother is now retired so there are two hands on deck. My grandmother can dress herself. But she still requires some of the same duties my brother needs. Lord, I love retirement.

I don't regret staying at home. It's not as hard as it seems. Other than the household chores, we live like roommates. I still have my business, go out on occasion with my friends, and go to church when I can. Our other family members help out, too. It's just my life and I live it.

So before you judge people for Staying Home with Their Folks, learn their story. Everyone is not just staying home because they don't want to grow up. Some of us are there because our Adult responsibilities different.  Different not trifling. Now, let me start dinner.  *smiling*

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Monday, November 19, 2012

16th Birthday Party Stripper

So, a mom hired a stripper for her son's 16th birthday and the parents of the party guests are outraged. I can't even believe I am shocked. This was bound to happen This was bound to be reported. The authorities are investigating to find out if any inappropriate sexual acts occurred.

The mother is not the unbelievable adult in this case. I'll get on her in a minute. The stripper was wrong also. Ummm is it so hard out there for strippers that dancing for children for the right dollar amount is okay in their minds. She may not have known before getting to the event but she knew when she got there that the group was underage. She should have left. I don't know what she made in tip. Most Teenagers don't have "Bands to make Huh Dance". But I guess a Buck is a Buck & Anything for it. I hate to think if they find out if anything more than dancing happened. Arrest her please.

I was 25 years old going to bachelorette party at a club. One of the dancers was a guy that grew up with my older sister & older cousins and knew me as a kid. He wouldn't let me in until he saw my ID himself. So all the dancers are not dancing for the underage.

Okay let talk Ms. Obvious, the mother. It is equivalent to Dads hiring prostitutes for their sons. Yes, I think that is wrong also. How do parents think their children will have healthy attitudes about sex? What will her son have to look forward to when he becomes legal age to look at strippers? She is clearly a parent that trying to be the child's friend. This is immature and irresponsible. Who wants to see their child enjoy a stripper?  The parents of the party guests probably ripped her a new one. I would have. Police calling me about some stripper she hired for a party my kid was at. Now I have ask my child for the truth. Allow the investigators to question my child. If more than dancing went on then there's going to be a trial. Way to much.

Strippers Do Not belong at birthday party of those under the legal age. Legal age may change form state to state but I'm sure 16 years old is not legal.

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Paddling Not Abuse

Well in Springtown, TX (Parker County) two teenage girls were paddled by a male assistant principal for wrong doings. The school had permission by the parents but by school policy the male was not suppose to spank the females. If that is policy then I agree. Also the girls' paddling resulted in bruising on their bottoms. Most men have the ability to hit harder than women. So yeah that was a terrible thing. But the reactions from this is worse.

I'm a Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child depending on situation type non-parent. And to hear people complaints about corporal punishment is lost on me most times. Because some of these complaints are reaching. One woman said that the Male assistant principal paddling the Girls was teaching Boys It's Okay to hit Girls. WHOA! That is a bit much, IMO. I can't agree with that.

Okay so a father shouldn't spank his daughter if warranted because it teaching domestic violence is right. UMM NO! Parents are EQUALS. Parents & Children are NOT EQUALS. If a child or adult have that attitude or mindset, I think an equality lesson needs to be taught. That what wrong in so many cases. Children think they are adults' peers. Many adults have supported this attitude. Adults have the right to discipline (Not Abuse) children. Spanking is a form of discipline just like time out. Adults don't have the right to spank other adults. Children don't have the right discipline children. I think that needs to be taught to everyone. Because if a male spanking a female child is teaching a male child to hit females we are in a world of trouble.

I don't want a man that abuses women to use that as a lame excuse for his actions. "My dad spanked my sister". "But did he hit your Mom a*k*a his equal"? "No"! "Exactly! Now Shut up with that Crap!"
Stop this attitude. I want hear that again. But Some feel spanked children grow up to be more aggressive adults. I know some people who can shoot that theory to hell.

Unfortunately those young ladies were bruised & the policy was not up held. But that should have stayed the focus of this case, instead spouting opinions about corporal punishments and domestic violence.

Male assistant principal shouldn't have spanked the female students because of school policy and the female students wouldn't have been bruised. Nothing more needed! But that my opinion, what's yours?

Tuesday, December 27, 2011

The Decision has Been Made, Just Be Still

Exactly Today 4 years ago, I was told my father passed away on Christmas Day. Exactly Today 4 years ago, I also saw God's Word make a decision that in a way, man's eyes & understanding will never comprehend.
I was a child of marital separation. I was a child of a deadbeat father. My parents separated when I was 3 months old. I didn't know for them to be together and never cared for them to be together. Even as a child, I knew we (my siblings & I) were better off with a single mother. No fighting parents (stepparent for my siblings). My mother never talked badly about my father. But he (who I mostly saw by random accidents) talked bad about her and her family, the family that raised me. Especially my grandfather, who was my main father figure. So by the time I was 21, I decided he & I didn't share values, goals, respect for life & people, & being in each other's lives would not be likely. The last time I spoke to my father was a year before his passing when he called to tell me his mother died. He caught up on my life (college graduate & business owner) and finally sound less bitter about my mother and family.

During the time after My father passed, I was packing for a long-awaited trip out of town to see my college friends. My mother told me who & how she was told. I was very sad but I was still packing and planning to go out of town the next day, the day of his viewing, two days before his funeral. My sister & aunts called and all I could tell them was, don't have that announced at their church. My cousin called to set the time to drop me at the airport. I finally went into a deep inward prayer mode. I'm sad but I still packing. I'm sad but I'm not angry. I'm sad but not guilty that I'm going out of town. That morning my cousin came with the paper & I saw the obituary. I saw my name as one of the survivors. Then I went to the airport still in this prayer mode. Got my ticket, went through the security point, and was waiting on the plane. My inward prayer was getting louder in my soul. "Lord, I don't understand my behavior. I'm sad but I'm still going out of town. Am I guilty for not being guilty? Lord, Let your will be done because it's the only one that matters." To the natural eye, I was just sitting there. "Lean not to thy own understanding" came to my mind. Then I thanked God for my father because without him I wouldn't be alive nor have the good life I had. Then I was reminded of the scripture "Be Still & Know I am God" and I was at peace. I shrugged and said, "Why be fake? To sit on a front row to shake shiver, and cry next to some "family member" you don't know, would be so fake".

I went on my trip and came back to a funeral program from a minister who questioned my family about my absence waiting for me. I came home to a funeral program full of memories of a life that I didn't know of waiting for me. Like a funeral program of a stranger. Yep, I made the right decision for me. The Real Me. I always said when that day came, the Lord would help. And an ever-present help, he is, especially that day. One day, I'll go visit his grave. Forever, I'm glad I did what was right no matter how It Looks to Man. God knows what's best. And what's best is not what We think it is.
RIP Droopy