Today while straightening my grandmother's hair I was listening to a rerun of the Oprah
Show on her OWN channel. The show was about two 30 y/o ladies who were virgins and
ashamed of to be sexually inexperienced. It was sad to me. Not because they were
virgins. As a celibate individual (YES a choice I call "Being Radical" I don't regret and a badge I wear as proud as my skin) that will never be something I would do. But because they felt like they were missing out on something in life. Because they felt like they are only people not getting the punch line of a joke. Of course it came out that they had underlying control & self esteem issues that were part of the blame. In my opinion, I blame society in part because they felt like they were less than because they were virgins. You see many movies & books about the poor virgin that NEEDS to get their cherry popped before it is too late. Too late for what? Vibrators and Dildos are is so many everyday catalogs I could scream. Levitra, Extenze, and ED medicine commercials are on TV before Prime time TV. On Halloween what kind of costumes sell the most? The list goes on & on. So it's no wonder these ladies thought it was embarrassing to be virgins. Even in my recent past I have learn not to discuss my celibacy with all my friends because some do not understand. Some one minute are praising me for that decision, the next minute think I'm crazy. Then there are some to suggest I "need to get some" but when I pay attention to their lives I realize they "need to get some" actually. One friend (whose only had "sex" once) I did tell that friend to catch up to my past then suggest that to me. I have not heard that suggestion anymore from that person's mouth. What is the obsession with sex about? Why is it everywhere? Why is it made to believe that if you're not doing it, something is wrong with you.? That was something I didn't hear on the show. No one ever ask the ladies were they Sure they even wanted to have sex. Somebody needed to have that kind of talk with them. Once they handle the control and self esteem issues, then decide to have sex there are heap of other emotions that come with that. Kinda of talk that teenage girls need to have before they have sex. Many of them are not being talked to either so why am I shocked. Maybe because there was a Doctor involved. But hey the goal was "getting them some" not making sure they look before they leap. They did help one to get know her body. That is a good thing. Can't expect somebody else to know what you like of you don't. I wish the ladies well. Hope they make a decision they can live with. And the shame of being 30 & a virgin is gone. Don't want the shame to cause them to have sex prematurely.
*Talking to You in Grown Up*
Saturday, October 29, 2011
Ummm You're on a Competition Show
I am so sick of the Max/Chaz complaints of the judges comments on Dancing With the Stars Talk. I wish they would sit down and hush. Especially Max! Umm you are the professional. If Len felt that dance was Hope's worse dance it was her worse dance to Len. That is their job, to critique & judge. It's bad enough the audience boos whenever the comments are not favorable. I think the judges are just trying help the contestants improve. It can't be praises all the time.
As for Chaz, let's say I'm beyond annoyed anyway. It's not like Chaz danced every week. Chaz walked across the floor. Master P did better, IMO, lol. After Ron Artest week one, Chaz should have been next (but we know what that was). Chaz's complaint is just a way to extend Chaz's DWTS 15 minutes of fame. Max complained, so Chaz complained. Ooh hush, Learn to dance. This is worse than Cheryl Burk upset about blog/forum comments on her weight. Toughen Up People, YOU'RE Competing.
*Talking to You in Grown Up*
As for Chaz, let's say I'm beyond annoyed anyway. It's not like Chaz danced every week. Chaz walked across the floor. Master P did better, IMO, lol. After Ron Artest week one, Chaz should have been next (but we know what that was). Chaz's complaint is just a way to extend Chaz's DWTS 15 minutes of fame. Max complained, so Chaz complained. Ooh hush, Learn to dance. This is worse than Cheryl Burk upset about blog/forum comments on her weight. Toughen Up People, YOU'RE Competing.
*Talking to You in Grown Up*
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Illegal Immigration, Voting , Naturalization and other Taboo Thing for Me to talk About
If you ask me about the issue of illegal immigration I think Hispanics are scapegoats for the problem. Actually the face of illegal immigration should be Canadian because the are actually the highest percentage of illegals in the U. S. Glad I am not a betting woman because I thought it was the Middle Eastern decent (Don't get me started on them. Another Blog Another Day & not a nice one either). But today in Dallas I have to get on my soap box about the Hispanics, their rights, and, redistricting.
In Dallas, the district representation map had to be redrawn and voting on down there at City Hall by the Council. The Hispanics on the council wanted 5 districts but only got 3 with the coveted 2 districts going to African American council to represent. According to the census, those 2 districts are populated by mostly by Hispanics and with the naked eye that could very well be true.
But are the residents mostly occupying these areas legal citizens that are registered to vote. I highly doubt it. You can push me over with a feather if they are. So if the council based redistricting on legal citizens well an African American should represent those areas. And those who feel that is unfair should do two things. 1) Have those who are legal & naturalized citizens that are not registered to vote, REGISTERED TO VOTE. How can one have the feeling to complain about laws or policies when they don't use their right of influence? How can one know what their voice sounds like if they don't ever use their voice? 2) Those who are living in the those areas illegal, have them become naturalized citizens. People are always protesting about letting illegals staying but whose helping them become legal & naturalized? Very Few. Instead of Marching to stay, March to the Immigration office and do it the right way. (And that's not just for the Mexicans that for anyone here illegally) I'm sorry but until then they don't have a right to be represented. One can't tell anyone how to run anything in a home one has not TRUE right to live. In my opinion that is how those who oppose the new district map of Dallas can Help their coveted constituents Help them gain more influence in Dallas.
In Dallas, the district representation map had to be redrawn and voting on down there at City Hall by the Council. The Hispanics on the council wanted 5 districts but only got 3 with the coveted 2 districts going to African American council to represent. According to the census, those 2 districts are populated by mostly by Hispanics and with the naked eye that could very well be true.
But are the residents mostly occupying these areas legal citizens that are registered to vote. I highly doubt it. You can push me over with a feather if they are. So if the council based redistricting on legal citizens well an African American should represent those areas. And those who feel that is unfair should do two things. 1) Have those who are legal & naturalized citizens that are not registered to vote, REGISTERED TO VOTE. How can one have the feeling to complain about laws or policies when they don't use their right of influence? How can one know what their voice sounds like if they don't ever use their voice? 2) Those who are living in the those areas illegal, have them become naturalized citizens. People are always protesting about letting illegals staying but whose helping them become legal & naturalized? Very Few. Instead of Marching to stay, March to the Immigration office and do it the right way. (And that's not just for the Mexicans that for anyone here illegally) I'm sorry but until then they don't have a right to be represented. One can't tell anyone how to run anything in a home one has not TRUE right to live. In my opinion that is how those who oppose the new district map of Dallas can Help their coveted constituents Help them gain more influence in Dallas.
Monday, October 17, 2011
MLK Memorial Ceremony News Coverage
Okay Roland Martin has his perspective, here’s OUTSPOKEN_DIVA’s on the coverage of the Martin Luther King Memorial ceremony on Sunday morning. First off KUDOS (yes big ones) to the stations of BET, Centric, CNN & TV One for covering the Memorial ceremony, when others did not. It was slap in the face to see the Big Three, ABC, CBS, and NBC going on with their programming as usual. All the news pundit shows could have been with held for one Sunday for coverage of the historical event. And I will not buy into the excuse because it was rescheduled because of the earthquake & hurricane on its original date. Organizers gave suitable notice of the rescheduled date so programming still could have been modified. I think the big Three could have covered the ceremony. What about those that do not have cable, internet, or satellite? How would they have watched the ceremony if they wanted to watch it?
Of what I was able to see and hear I was a very good ceremony. I hope to visit the memorial one day. Add to my Atlanta experience of the King Memorial there.
Yes I said of what I got to hear and see of the televised ceremony. Though TV One & CNN had the better coverage than BET & Centric (I know they are the same folks), they all are guilty of talking way too much at the wrong time. Do newscasters ever understand that no one cares what you think? I would have liked to here the choir sing or Al Sharpton’s whole speech without flipping channels without to see whose not discussing when the Obama Family arrived or running a commercial. I think most coverage of this event was only to show the President’s address. Ed Gordon et al. were talking during the introduction of Obama. Seriously? And that was very unfair for those of us not able to be there in person. Newscasters give your opinion while no one is up at the microphone speaking or performing. And keep it short because if you have something to say somebody else has an opinion to.
As Roland Martin says That’s my perspective, What’s Yours? ROTFLOL
Of what I was able to see and hear I was a very good ceremony. I hope to visit the memorial one day. Add to my Atlanta experience of the King Memorial there.
Yes I said of what I got to hear and see of the televised ceremony. Though TV One & CNN had the better coverage than BET & Centric (I know they are the same folks), they all are guilty of talking way too much at the wrong time. Do newscasters ever understand that no one cares what you think? I would have liked to here the choir sing or Al Sharpton’s whole speech without flipping channels without to see whose not discussing when the Obama Family arrived or running a commercial. I think most coverage of this event was only to show the President’s address. Ed Gordon et al. were talking during the introduction of Obama. Seriously? And that was very unfair for those of us not able to be there in person. Newscasters give your opinion while no one is up at the microphone speaking or performing. And keep it short because if you have something to say somebody else has an opinion to.
As Roland Martin says That’s my perspective, What’s Yours? ROTFLOL
Wednesday, October 12, 2011
Oh That Reality Televisison
What is it about reality television that fascinates us? Most are riddled with so many stereotypes that make everyone & anyone look so bad. Most of the shows I like are competitions like Amazing Race, Hair Battle Spectacular & Ru Paul's Drag U. In my Opinion, the contestants or cast members are tame compared to others. But I have a couple of guilty pleasures like Toddlers & Tiaras & Bridezillas that have people on there that will make you cringe. But as bad, vile, & violent as some of the cast mates are I still watch. I watch Toddlers & Tiaras in hope to see a pageant butt whooping. Shoot, I'll settle for a pageant spanking.
But what is it about a Housewife that really has a job or a Wife that is really an ex-wife, or some really hickey guys picking out their trout dinner even though it's with their hand and not with a fishing rod that makes us tune in everyday, all day. I remember when I first saw the Real Housewives of Atlanta, they were on Ellen and a fight broke out within the group right on stage during the interview. 8O I was disgusted. Why fight like that? I found out later Kim runs her gossiping mouth to much around town & other Housewives series about everybody on the show. If I see another woman fight another woman on a show I am gonna scream. Did they burn their bras in the 60's for this. And men are not exempt. American Chopper has father & son fighting hard with each other. And I've seen the a commercial for A-List Dallas. I think the will make me wish we could vote them out of the metroplex. Riddled with Gay & Texas stereotypes and myths. And I have a strange feeling everyone from Jersey (Jorsey) does not sound the cast mates of all the numerous of reality show that depict life from Jersey. 8(
The state of reality television saddens me. I call most of it Trash Reality. Because of all the fighting, cursing and stereotypes. And I feel like very few of us are embarrassed by it. I am. As a black woman from Dallas, TX a state in the United States of America a country in the continent of North America on the planet Earth, inhabited by my people human beings am embarrassed. But I guess the attitude of "Hey it's not me & mine acting that way" is the popular mind set.
But what is it about a Housewife that really has a job or a Wife that is really an ex-wife, or some really hickey guys picking out their trout dinner even though it's with their hand and not with a fishing rod that makes us tune in everyday, all day. I remember when I first saw the Real Housewives of Atlanta, they were on Ellen and a fight broke out within the group right on stage during the interview. 8O I was disgusted. Why fight like that? I found out later Kim runs her gossiping mouth to much around town & other Housewives series about everybody on the show. If I see another woman fight another woman on a show I am gonna scream. Did they burn their bras in the 60's for this. And men are not exempt. American Chopper has father & son fighting hard with each other. And I've seen the a commercial for A-List Dallas. I think the will make me wish we could vote them out of the metroplex. Riddled with Gay & Texas stereotypes and myths. And I have a strange feeling everyone from Jersey (Jorsey) does not sound the cast mates of all the numerous of reality show that depict life from Jersey. 8(
The state of reality television saddens me. I call most of it Trash Reality. Because of all the fighting, cursing and stereotypes. And I feel like very few of us are embarrassed by it. I am. As a black woman from Dallas, TX a state in the United States of America a country in the continent of North America on the planet Earth, inhabited by my people human beings am embarrassed. But I guess the attitude of "Hey it's not me & mine acting that way" is the popular mind set.
Wednesday, September 14, 2011
MY SITTING SHOES
Come on sitting event for the sitting shoes
I know I got issues
Everyone who knows me knows when it comes to my feet I do not believe fashion is pain. I'll wear girdles, shaping cami, body slips, panyhose d lift my bust as high as I can stand it that day or night but my feet have to feel good. I only wear High heels (over 2 1/2 inches) to sitting events (75 - 100 % sitting). Like jazz bars or funerals of my relatives (because I know I'll have a seat).
I used to wear them to church but I changed churches The church I attend now we stand for praise and worship for at least 15 to 30 minutes and I don't like taking my shoes of in public. So the 2 1/2 go into the Lord's house.
Those pair I had a chance to wear them for my birthday in June. But after grocery shopping, going to the bank, and walking all over two shoes store with my teenage niece looking for her some comfy shoes, my ankle was a tad swollen so I settled for some cute wedges that evening.
I have friends that subscribe to the pain is beauty rule when it comes to shoes. One can't line dance without sitting & the other's foot swells in stilettos. Yet they forge ahead in their trendy footwear. Such brave souls.
I've even noticed in many pictures I quite shorter than my friends. LoL I'm already 5'2" and standing in ankle wraped thong sandals (though very cute) next to someone in 4 inch gladitors looks hilarious. But hey I could hit the dance floor all night. They could not.
And you would think somebody would make cuter comfortable Mid- high to flat shoes or Comfortable High heel shoes. But nooooo not so. Oh well. On to next year. To wear my patent leather (yes I follow the labor day rule) high heeled platformed pumps LoL Let me get out the peep toe wedges
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