Birthday Confession

I have to admit behind the smiles and fun this was the hardest birthday to get through at times. Around April I realized my birthday was on the weekend. Then it hit me what weekend is was. I got sad. Father's Day & my Birthday with without my grandfather. But I shook it off. He's been gone 8 years. I've gone through my birthday & Father's Day without him before. Last time my birthday was on a Saturday it rain and I slept through it. Not gonna do that this year. I'm good. Made plans for Friday & Saturday nights with my friend who has a birthday a few days before mine. I was great until a cousin called with birthday wishes and said "Oh I remember your birthday was around Father Day" The feelings I pushed aside in April came down so hard. I got off the phone and went in my room and had to cry it out until I took a nap. Woke up and decided to own the grief and breathed through it until now so I can type this blog.

If you have not figured out by now. I am an Unshamed Nerd that can be very corny sometimes. A person who celebrated me being a corny nerd was my grandfather. One way he celebrated my personality was when my birthday fell on the weekend he would give me a Father's Day Card and I gave him a Birthday Card. Always the humorous kind. It was our special joke. Only one we could shared. My preteen & some of my teen years I celebrated my birthday out of town because I was attending a yearly Sunday School & Baptist Training Union Congress. Every Year a different city. Even one year at Midnight the church memebers belted out Happy Birthday while traveling from Los Angeles back Home on a dark road. It was so sweet!!! That year my birthday was on a Sunday and waiting for me was a Father's Day card and I brought my grandfather a Birthday card all the way back from California. The year I was away for Summer School during my Undergrad years. I mail him a birthday card and he mailed me a Father's Day card. Yep Nerdy & Corny. But Ours to Share.

I missed giving him a card this year. I missed recieving a card from him this year. Though tears had to fall I can smile knowing I shared that with him. Somebody out there does not have that. I think we should all find special memories of our loved ones and if the tears come let them fall Then wrap up in the smiles & special feelings they give because you know that they happened. Tears will dry but Smiles & Special Feeling Last Forever. Now I KNOW I'm Good. *smiling*

Newest "Threat" to Marriage

I am not talking about Gay Marriage. You should know my feelings by now. But since I have your attention let me speak about "Marrying Yourself" the "newest threat" to the institution of marriage. LMAO

I was watching Anderson one afternoon and he talk to two ladies who married themselves. Marrying Yourself is a declaration of being whole within yourself and taking away from society's placement of guilt on one being single and not married after the age of 30, 40, 50, etc. The ladies then added to their declaration a ceremony & reception. Both Ladies had different reasons for marrying themselves. It's a bit much for me but the reasoning I agree. Well, Anderson had in the audience a man from the "Marriage Project" and he felt like "Marrying Yourself" is a threat to the institution of marriage. I wish I was there so he could have seen me roll my eyes at His absurd self.

It is too many broken people marrying other fragmented people all because they just have to be married. People stay in physically & Mentally abusive relationships because they are married. People cheat on their spouses front, back and all sides possibly bringing home STDs, HIV, & AIDS but hey they are married.

How dare he say "Marrying Yourself" is a threat. Just another way to throw society's guilt on those who choose to be whole by themself and feel someone else completes them. I would so rather they have the fancy party celebrating their self-love than for them to be in the real threat to marriage "Broken Marriage"
Well to those working yourself to be or remain whole before marriage or those who decided to be whole by themselves, GUILTFREE continues to be a "threat".

Really, Ladies!!!

"I'm that Cute Bitch, tonight"
"Oh Hoe, You know I'll watch your kids"
"Ooh I don't hang with Females, they are messy"
"I got you a Cosmo, Slut"

Ladies, Tear each other down much?
When did the B-word or Slut become a term of endearment?
I thought a Hoe was a prostitute?
Fighting Words???

I know I am a tad Boughetto But I can not stand women referring to one another in such derogatory ways. It is so gross.
I am not B-word and my friends are not Hoes. We are Adult Women. We don't try to sleep with each other's bf, gf, or spouse. We are not jealous or envious of what someone has. We go out with our friends.
Recently I had to correct my high school aged niece on referring to some not likable girls as "them females". Not in my presence she won't. So now I see this language is spreading to our young. This has to stop.

How we expect men to not call us that crap when we walk around spouting like it's a proud title to be.
And I know some women are messy, nasty, skanky, & that will sleep with anybody's somebody. I know some men are messy also. Instead deleting a whole gender out of your Life, find men & women that are like you. If you are attracting messy people hmmm maybe...
I remember in college I first heard a lady say, "I don't have female friends cause Girls are messy" I was floored. I finally said "Hun, you are female are you messy? Find you some mess free girlfriends"

This madness has to stop. It's immature and drag the gender backwards. Before you let those rachet words depart your lips ask yourself would I want someone referring to me as... If your answer is not No.... Well... *sigh* Bless Your Heart
　

Grey's Anatomy Craziness

WTF
Is Grey's Anatomy Crazy??? Yes, I knew someone was dying. I Don't care for Arizona. I was Banking on her.
BUT!!!
They killed Lexipedia!!! YES, Lexie Grey is DEAD. Mark Sloan is dying. All the living victims not found & fading. Teddy is fired. Jackson Avery, my Eye Candy is going to Tulane. WTH WTH WTH

I won't call the person who wrote that script a Sadist but the devil was in the writing. My feelings are Crushed!!!
Can't even be Happy that Miranda Bailey is getting married.

STOP PLAYING WITH MY EMOTIONS GREY'S ANATOMY!!!
Next Season You better Get It Together!!!

Abstinence & Celibacy Choices, Are they so Wrong for Adults?

Seemly the website Ashley Madison (a website where adults who wanna cheat meet other adults who wanna cheat) is willing to pay any woman who can prove they slept with Tim Tebow (the devout Christian football player who is also a virgin waiting to have sex when he's married (OK whatever)) big dollars. Why? Because they don't believe he will be able to be sex-free in New York. What nerve of Ashley Madison to put a bounty on the man's virginity? Yeah you ask well what do you expect from an adultery website. But they aren't they only people with that view.

Even though doing right is the law of the land. Saving yourself for marriage seems to not to be part of that law. 40 year-old Virgin made it seem like the guy was goofy because he hadn't "got some". If a woman goes celibate for too long people feel like she gonna close up. Oh I've heard people praise folk for saving themselves one day then act like they're a pathetic loser that missing out the next day. It's confusing & hypocritical. I could see if they wanted have sex and couldn't give it away. Then maybe you can pity them. But someone who chose this lifestyle should at least be respected. Praise them only if you mean it and may want to try it yourself. You should never pity them for their choices in life. A choice that is not wrong.
Oh the quotes use are silly too. "If God Wanted You to Wait, He Should Not Have Made it Feel so Good". I understand when that quote was said by someone wanting to have sex with a virgin or a celibate person. They are trying to "feel good" with them. I don't understand the quote said by someone not trying to have sex with them is crazy. Again people are acting as if this choice is the end of the world.

Amazing how most Adults think it's GREAT if young people wait. Why can't it be just as GREAT if adults wait? One less person possibly with AIDS, with STD's, cheating, prostituting,etc. Either way it's an Adult Choice. RESPECT THE CHOICE!!!

MY FAVORITE HOLIDAY

Easter is my favorite holiday. Most people like Halloween, Thanksgiving, or Christmas. Easter is the holiday I love.

As a kid, it meant getting Two pretty dresses (I am still a fan of pastel colors), new shoes & a different hairstyle to be in front of the congregation to say my Easter speech.

I only went to one Easter egg hunt in my life and it was Not as fun as having Breakfast with Easter Bunny at Joske's (now Dillard's)(anyone remembers Joske's, LoL) for 7 years straight. It was just a busy time event for my mom to take my older sister and me to so she could get our outfits out of layaway when the store opened. It was a basic breakfast buffet, a kiddie activity and pictures with Easter Bunny but, in my, Under 9-year-old mind, it was so much fun. Getting tickled at the simple things that excited me back then. And it was a candy eating time for my cousin and me. We didn't get a lot of chance to eat candy at home, Just holidays. Dying eggs was fun also.

Oh yes, I have wonderful memories of Easter. But they pale in comparison to the Real Reason for the day. JESUS was born and wrapped in Rags, Just to Die but Get Back Up for the Salvation of Us, a bunch of Filthy Rags. We don't give gifts, have parades, or watch a bowl games. We just have a simple celebration about the Greatest Act of Kindness Anyone could do. It's so cliche' to say BUT Jesus didn't have to do any of it. Get arrested, be beaten, died, went to hell, preached a revival, set the captives free, and got back up with ALL power in his hands. Nobody but Jesus would do all of that for us. Anybody deserves a parade & gifts is him. All he wants is our hearts but deserves our ALL. I love him for all he did for me but Saving Me is the best thing he ever did. From Warm Childhood memories, before I knew to Thankful Reasons after I knew, Easter will Always be my Favorite Holiday.

Justice for Trayvon

So do I look Suspect, Zimmerman?
I have on a Hood.
Justice For Trayvon Martin!!!