Yes, this blog comes on the cusp of news of basketball player Dewayne Wade & rapper Ludacris having children born because of their sexual activities during breaks with their long-time girlfriends. Praise God, blessing & miracles were born from these sexual rapports but it could have gone a lot different. I don’t care what you think, Sexual Diseases are real. (I sound like my friend Candiladi’s mom who says as a warning “AIDS is real”) All of them are not curable and even if some of those don’t get treated can kill you too. I know someone who die in Millennial years of syphilis. He was not old, He was 29 years old. Those guys could have given their girlfriends a disease or diseases after their break. So that was a possibility but what have should have been a thought to use protection, is to protect yourself. Be selfish enough that you don’t want to catch anything.
And I said that them having kids was a good possibility that came from these situations. Actually the children being born causes issues also. The women that they are not in loving relationship with had their children. So now they will have to deal with her for the rest of the child’s life. If Gabrielle Union and the girlfriend of Luda decide to leave the bond, they are free. These gentlemen are not. Also what if these ladies after the break did not accept these new developments. A loving relationship has been ruined because he could not wrap it up. Now, let’s take the selfish approach of seeing this. That’s another person that will need to be taken care of. People cost. That’s money out of your pocket. Condoms cost how much? Babies cost how much? That’s what I thought.
Now ladies don’t think because the names that are talked about are men that we are exempt from sexual protecting ourselves. The women who have had these men's children were sexually irresponsible also. Who said these men were not “dirty” when they had sex with them? Men can have diseases without showing any physical signs. Did they show clean bills of health before they had sex with them? I doubt it. Okay but they didn’t report anyone caught a STD or STI. They did have children. Now they have to involve with these men and anyone that is in the men’s lives for the rest of that child’s life. That’s drama that could have been avoided with the slipping on of a condom, swallowing of a pill, the stick of a shot or any other the various forms of protection. Minutes of a pause compared to years of sleeplessness, worries, and more bills. Because let’s face it, those new little ones will more than likely be living with the mothers. So who is getting up all the time? Who is buying the formula, clothes & milk. Those guys have money but who will be doing most of the actual physical purchasing. Yes, the ladies having sex with these men unprotected during the break.
I know if people thought like me the world’s population would dwindle and people would be grumpy many days. But thinking my way, the population in foster care would decrease, the rise in New HIV cases would lessen, child support case would reduce and the deaths because of child abuse, child neglect & AIDS would decline.
I know writing this blog is me pissing in the wind. Adults are going to do what they want. There excuses will forever live. Condoms don’t feel good. He got me pregnant on purpose (Yes that one still exist). I’m allergic to latex (even though there condom made out of polyurethane). I’m afraid of needles (get fitted for a diaphragm). All that ruins the mood (so does scratching your genitals & babies crying).
Come people we have to do better. Is sex really worth it? Well babies, yes. But I know it not worth STD’s or STI’s.
As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms
