Grooming My Man!!!

I just watched Steve Harvey and he did a segment on Male "Beauty" Products. Male Pantyhose, Male Polish, Man Makeup, Male Clutch, and Padded Briefs. The male clutch was the only thing that got a green light. It was a funny segment.

This made me think about the grooming habits of the guys I've dated and some I know and how they shaped my preferences now. I always see the questions about men's grooming habits and quirks. I think I like men who are "basic" metrosexuals

I refuse to date a man that does not lotion his body regularly. I grew up watching my grandmother put lotion on my grandfather's hands if he forgot right before they entered a public building. I have a cousin whose wife does the same thing. That was cool until I dated a guy that regularly forgot like that. Quickly that became annoying. Ashiness is a pet peeve for me. No one should not have to tell an adult man to moisturize.  In the words of the viral sensation Sweet Brown, "Ain't nobody got time for that". Once, I had a guy call me on the road on the way to pick me up for a date and asked would I bring a little lotion. Now that I can get behind. He was trying. On any given day, I'll rather a man smell like Original Cherry Almond Jergens and moisturized than he smells the best men's cologne and be ashy.

Sometime last year in the grocery my nephew asked me could he have a lip balm he was holding up. He was holding up some glitter Lip Smackers. I told him yes but not that brand. We were on the makeup aisle & he picked what he thought he wanted. This "macho" guy agreed with me by making a gay slur/comment, that pissed me off because that was not the message I was trying to convey. He was 6 years old. His lips were chapped. Glitter does not help that. Glitter is for cute not lip chap.  We walked over to the medication aisle and I got him some cherry-flavored Chapstick and he was delighted. I have a friend who is adamant about his lips not being chapped. He will whip out his lip balm in a minute. Lip Balm is a Gay thing. No one wants to kiss a chapped lip. All lips need to be smooth and kissable.

No secret, I only date men with haircuts. Haircuts just look neater. Also In My Observances and One Experience men, with hair hide secrets better. That's another blog. So if he has a regular appointment to get a haircut, that's points in the hotness chart. I don't like beards but a man needs a mustache. Oh, and a goatee is sexy!!! Not a fan of hairless male lips. One of the main things I look for when I suspect the guy may be a girl (6:7 times been right (had to just ask her)). Body hair is a whole different issue for me. Hairy chest scares me. It's like extended facial hair. Wax that stuff off. Luckily, I have Never dated a man with a hairy chest. I am a friend and relative to quite a few with excessive body hair.  I learned to "sneak and look" when a man has a few buttons unbuttoned on a shirt on what the chest may look like. I know Naughty, Naughty! Hairy Lips and Chin!!! Hairless Chest!!!

I think every woman interested in men has a level of grooming habit that is acceptable to them. Personally of those of the aforementioned products. I could fully accept the Male clutch (looks like a modern briefcase) and partially accept the polish and makeup (only in clear, no colors, and makeup only for the lips). I don't want a man to wear male Spanx(Manx) or guyliner either. That's just my preference. I told you "Basic Metrosexual" is my type.

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How Much Time to Take?

I've been watching Think Like a Man a lot lately. I just think Romany Malaco is so cute. I even added him to the Eye Candy list. (yes there is a list of handsome known actors, singers, athlete, etc to me for me) Well the last time I watched it last month I thought "Umm I wonder if anyone is following the 90 day rule? Has the use of the 90 day rule increased since the book came out? Has the use of the 90 day rule increased since the movie came out?

Then my friend T.T. asked on a FB group this question: Do you guys believe in the 30 day rule, waiting until marriage, one night stands, etc? What's your stance on this? a few days ago. Well this got me to thinking Umm time to post this to the blog.

I read the book when it first came out. I have a hardback copy. I'm an avid reader. I'll read anything once. There were many parts that were very helpful and then there were parts that I couldn't believe needed to be said. The 90 Day rule was one. (The reason why men cheat was another) All I could think was "Joan on Girlfriends had a 3 Month Rule and people thought she was goofy & crazy. Well, Well I guess Steve Harvey is goofy & crazy also. 3 months is 90 days." When the movie cam out I was happy they had a character that tried the 90-day Rule. It said to me unlike many movies Everybody is not hooking up all willy-nilly. Everybody is not sleeping with any and everybody. And some that are feel bad afterwards.

There is a previous post that alludes to my personal stance for My Life. So that doesn't need to be retold.
Go find it. Now my stance for people in general should not shock anybody. I feel any Adult having sex shouldn't until they've had a thorough talk with their partner. Take as long as needed. Past 90 days if you want to. There is way too much crazy out there. Physical health issues, Mental health issues, Emotional hang-ups, and Personal values are among the things that need to be discussed. Okay two examples. Woman who never has sex without a condom meets a man who hates to wear condoms. They need to talk and in the act of passion is not the time to talk or compromise. Man has sex with a virgin and he didn't know until afterwards. They needed to talk.

Now for the people who have One Night Stands. Know the One Night Stand Rules and most importantly Use Protection.

Every One having sex Know Your Status on All STD's including HIV/AIDS

So that my opinion. How do you feel? Did anything in the book and/or movie change your mind on any behavior