Announcement 1st: I am going to Stop investing girdles & shapers and invest in cheap tight fitting dresses and let it all hang out! Because apparently it is the fashionable thing to do.
Now the topic of this rant is not a surprise. I am tired of seeing women in tight fitting clothing without the proper foundation garments. This is not just to the Plus Size community. This is for Any woman who has an extra pudge on their body somewhere. It's like woman are not even trying to look decent.
Foundation garments are bras, girdles (capris, long leg, boxers, & brief panties, thong), shaping slips, shaping camisoles, waist cinchers, bustiers, and corsets. Foundation garments also come in firm, moderate, and light controls. They help you look smoother in your clothing. They can be bought so many stores that sell clothing & lingerie, from Walmart to Neiman Marcus.
I went out last night for happy hour and I literally saw a woman who I actually thought was pregnant. She wore about a 10 dress size, minus the tummy. But the way she dropped it on the dance floor, I knew clearly she could not be pregnant. She was wrong for wear a dress for tight it hugged around her stomach like that. Her boots were banging though. She was not the only one. Everywhere they is some woman who could look smoother is her clothing. Even on TV!!! I was watching Say Yes to the Dress and many times I wonder why are they trying on dresses without all their undergarments. Then, I see some once they are picking up their dresses and some getting married and I think "Cute Dress but she needed a girdle".
I'm not a fan of tight fitting clothes. I know I go a little extreme to some. I wear a moderate hold brief under my jeggings. Bought some and knew immediately which kind of shapers it needed. I spent more in foundation underwear in a year than I do in shoes. It is something I don't cut corner for. And don't let me see a sale. I'll go broke trying to buy more than one color or style. The only thing I want hugging on my body are the arms nice looking man. LoL
I've been wanting to say this for a while. Others including experts and style watchers have talked about it. It needs to stop. Come on Ladies, Let's Looks Smoother!!!
Saturday, October 13, 2012
Tuesday, September 25, 2012
Paddling Not Abuse
Well in Springtown, TX (Parker County) two teenage girls were paddled by a male assistant principal for wrong doings. The school had permission by the parents but by school policy the male was not suppose to spank the females. If that is policy then I agree. Also the girls' paddling resulted in bruising on their bottoms. Most men have the ability to hit harder than women. So yeah that was a terrible thing. But the reactions from this is worse.
I'm a Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child depending on situation type non-parent. And to hear people complaints about corporal punishment is lost on me most times. Because some of these complaints are reaching. One woman said that the Male assistant principal paddling the Girls was teaching Boys It's Okay to hit Girls. WHOA! That is a bit much, IMO. I can't agree with that.
Okay so a father shouldn't spank his daughter if warranted because it teaching domestic violence is right. UMM NO! Parents are EQUALS. Parents & Children are NOT EQUALS. If a child or adult have that attitude or mindset, I think an equality lesson needs to be taught. That what wrong in so many cases. Children think they are adults' peers. Many adults have supported this attitude. Adults have the right to discipline (Not Abuse) children. Spanking is a form of discipline just like time out. Adults don't have the right to spank other adults. Children don't have the right discipline children. I think that needs to be taught to everyone. Because if a male spanking a female child is teaching a male child to hit females we are in a world of trouble.
I don't want a man that abuses women to use that as a lame excuse for his actions. "My dad spanked my sister". "But did he hit your Mom a*k*a his equal"? "No"! "Exactly! Now Shut up with that Crap!"
Stop this attitude. I want hear that again. But Some feel spanked children grow up to be more aggressive adults. I know some people who can shoot that theory to hell.
Unfortunately those young ladies were bruised & the policy was not up held. But that should have stayed the focus of this case, instead spouting opinions about corporal punishments and domestic violence.
Male assistant principal shouldn't have spanked the female students because of school policy and the female students wouldn't have been bruised. Nothing more needed! But that my opinion, what's yours?
I'm a Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child depending on situation type non-parent. And to hear people complaints about corporal punishment is lost on me most times. Because some of these complaints are reaching. One woman said that the Male assistant principal paddling the Girls was teaching Boys It's Okay to hit Girls. WHOA! That is a bit much, IMO. I can't agree with that.
Okay so a father shouldn't spank his daughter if warranted because it teaching domestic violence is right. UMM NO! Parents are EQUALS. Parents & Children are NOT EQUALS. If a child or adult have that attitude or mindset, I think an equality lesson needs to be taught. That what wrong in so many cases. Children think they are adults' peers. Many adults have supported this attitude. Adults have the right to discipline (Not Abuse) children. Spanking is a form of discipline just like time out. Adults don't have the right to spank other adults. Children don't have the right discipline children. I think that needs to be taught to everyone. Because if a male spanking a female child is teaching a male child to hit females we are in a world of trouble.
I don't want a man that abuses women to use that as a lame excuse for his actions. "My dad spanked my sister". "But did he hit your Mom a*k*a his equal"? "No"! "Exactly! Now Shut up with that Crap!"
Stop this attitude. I want hear that again. But Some feel spanked children grow up to be more aggressive adults. I know some people who can shoot that theory to hell.
Unfortunately those young ladies were bruised & the policy was not up held. But that should have stayed the focus of this case, instead spouting opinions about corporal punishments and domestic violence.
Male assistant principal shouldn't have spanked the female students because of school policy and the female students wouldn't have been bruised. Nothing more needed! But that my opinion, what's yours?
So Your Child Has a Tattoo...
Okay a news report came out about a parent getting arrested in North Texas because their child had received a tattoo. The tattoo artist was arrested also. The tattoo the children received was not her first tattoo, it's her third.
I say they should be arrested. I don't understand it is unlawful for anyone under 18 to get a tattoo. Yet it is very visible that law is not being upheld. The rise of tattoos in high school seems unreal. I remember when I was in high school and Seniors who got a tattoo for their birthdays would hide theirs from school officials and many cases parents. I didn't know anyone under 18 with a tattoo. If they did I bet their parents didn't know. Now tattoos are as fashionable as jewelry on young people. Many parents are going with the children to get the tattoos. This is why many in this generation are not excited to grow up. They are already Too Grown!!! What's left to look forward to when you've done it already. *sigh*
If parents are arrested for giving their children under 21 alcohol, a parent should be arrest for allowing their child to have a tattoo. The law is the law.
I say they should be arrested. I don't understand it is unlawful for anyone under 18 to get a tattoo. Yet it is very visible that law is not being upheld. The rise of tattoos in high school seems unreal. I remember when I was in high school and Seniors who got a tattoo for their birthdays would hide theirs from school officials and many cases parents. I didn't know anyone under 18 with a tattoo. If they did I bet their parents didn't know. Now tattoos are as fashionable as jewelry on young people. Many parents are going with the children to get the tattoos. This is why many in this generation are not excited to grow up. They are already Too Grown!!! What's left to look forward to when you've done it already. *sigh*
If parents are arrested for giving their children under 21 alcohol, a parent should be arrest for allowing their child to have a tattoo. The law is the law.
Tuesday, September 11, 2012
My 9-11 Remembrance (Blame Country Thug for this Blog)
Then the unthinkable happened on my way to class. These guys, one of them liked to call himself, Country Thug (*sigh* Yes, I'm serious) were ticked off because they heard from their friends at Stephen F. Austin & Prairie View Universities that they were canceling classes and that Lamar needed to follow suit. I was appalled. Planes of people had lost their lives and they were upset because their lazy tails didn't want to go to class. Trust me, they were not concerned about the safety of the school. The Library at the time was the tallest building on campus and it was just 6 floors. They were concern about kicking it for the rest of the day. I had to remove myself from the scene. I was already known as a stuck-up chick from Dallas (later I found out my formal name slur was Dyme Piece) & now they were about to see that side reserved for real special idiots And well, that day was not the appropriate day. It needed to be peaceful. So, I let them look like petty fools. My annoyance grew for them when I got home after 6 and I found out about the planes crashing in Pennsylvania & the Pentagon. Intellectual Diva, one of my best friends lived in Washington D.C. I worried until I saw a map on the news. But still, there were more lives lost, and these guys, that I probably called jackals, were worried about...
A few times when I am in the airport, while being check thoroughly for WMD's, I think about Country Thug and his pals (Oh my first name is of Sanskrit origin so I get "randomly" checked 3:5 times. being black helps sometimes). I hope by now they see how petty their concerns were compared to the lives and resources that cost this country. I hope they realize how Thankful they should have been that day that it was not them. I hope they realize how Thankful they should've been that the only concern of theirs was that school didn't close. So here's to all the "Country Thugs" out there. Hope you have a different outlook on September 11, 2001.
Remember 9-11
Never Shall Forget
Tuesday, September 4, 2012
Looking for OutSpoken_Diva through an Angled Lens
I had a dream last night that my Life was a Reality show. Yeah, my life as a reality show. Every time it switched scenes it would be a camera lens turning. I guess to represent the movement to another angle of my life. Most of the show was my life this summer up to this past weekend. For some weird reason I still live my life similar to my undergrad days. 90% work to 10% social in the spring, fall, & winter but 50% work to 50% social in the summer. Especially my birthday I party hard (my version of hard) in the summer. Brunch with the besties. Friendly outings with the church pals. Small concerts to let's try this Restaurant for dinner. It all is punch up a notch in the summer and slows up some by mid September. Guess my show would be a Boring Adult version of Jersey Shore. But my dream was just a manifestation of a comical angle that many view me as. "Being the Good Girl" they think they see.
I am a Staunch believer in the quote "What others think of me is Not My Business". I don’t care what people think as long as it’s not a lie that I can’t or refuse to make true. *smile* People don’t have a heaven or hell to put me in. So why care about thoughts. Words and deed matter to me.
If you meet me outside the Internet you going to view me as a "Quiet Good Girl" or a "Stuck up B-Word" when first meeting me most times. Very few times do people view as a "Cool" or "Wild" chick at first. It is because I sit and meet people with a greeting and nothing much else. I like to watch people before I truly interact with strangers. I like to see how you would treat someone else so I know what I maybe looking forward to with you. I accept both views because I am Both Views and So Much More. Most people afterwards move away from those views after really meeting me. Few still think of me as the chick they first met. If they still see me as a "Stuck up B-Word" is because our personalities & lives have not & will not ever see eye to eye. More than likely I said something they didn't agree with and well... I am still a "Stuck up B-word". Again Not My Business!!!
The funny people are the ones who still think of me as "The Good Girl". I can do all kind of stuff around them and their view of me will not change. My grandmother's friends have seen & heard me have an argument that includes language that is very vulgar with someone and those little old ladies still think I am one of the Best Citizens in the world. Most of one of my best friend's families (except one of her aunts and as of this past weekend, her mother) think as long as I'm around every thing is in order. Nothing "wrong" is happening. Case in point a few years ago we went out one Saturday and didn't get to her place until late. While we were dressing for church, her grandmother found out that I was with her and said "Oh that was probably a very nice place" even though right before she knew I went she was about to fuss like grandmothers do (Well at least ours). They never understand when we say 4 out of 5 the things we do & places we go be it sacred or secular, I was the planner or at least invited her. Rarely is it her idea. Even sometimes when it was her idea, it was just an idea, then I made the idea an action. Reasons why my mother doesn't think the way her family does about my or my sister's friends. She says (In love because people love/like my mom) all the time "If you hang with my heathen children, you are the same heathen. Why? You Chose to hang with my heathen child".
I guess I rather them think no matter what I do I am still a good girl. It's better than the people who thought I was a good girl see me outside that angled lens and feel betrayed, like I was hiding the "real" me. Yeah, I have those also. They bother me because I have to actually tell Adults "You should not have boxed me into the frame you Thought I would fit". I should not have to. It’s Not My Business!!! I think some of those people think I'm a "Stuck up B-word" also. Oh well. LoL Who said it? Yep, Not. My. Business!
Maybe "Not My Business!!!" will be the title of my reality show. It's Catchy!
The next time someone says “Tell me about yourself” I might tempt fate and ask "Which Lens do you want to look through"? and wait for their response. I really won't care because I believe "What others think of me is Not My Business", but it would be fun to do. LoL
I am a Staunch believer in the quote "What others think of me is Not My Business". I don’t care what people think as long as it’s not a lie that I can’t or refuse to make true. *smile* People don’t have a heaven or hell to put me in. So why care about thoughts. Words and deed matter to me.
If you meet me outside the Internet you going to view me as a "Quiet Good Girl" or a "Stuck up B-Word" when first meeting me most times. Very few times do people view as a "Cool" or "Wild" chick at first. It is because I sit and meet people with a greeting and nothing much else. I like to watch people before I truly interact with strangers. I like to see how you would treat someone else so I know what I maybe looking forward to with you. I accept both views because I am Both Views and So Much More. Most people afterwards move away from those views after really meeting me. Few still think of me as the chick they first met. If they still see me as a "Stuck up B-Word" is because our personalities & lives have not & will not ever see eye to eye. More than likely I said something they didn't agree with and well... I am still a "Stuck up B-word". Again Not My Business!!!
The funny people are the ones who still think of me as "The Good Girl". I can do all kind of stuff around them and their view of me will not change. My grandmother's friends have seen & heard me have an argument that includes language that is very vulgar with someone and those little old ladies still think I am one of the Best Citizens in the world. Most of one of my best friend's families (except one of her aunts and as of this past weekend, her mother) think as long as I'm around every thing is in order. Nothing "wrong" is happening. Case in point a few years ago we went out one Saturday and didn't get to her place until late. While we were dressing for church, her grandmother found out that I was with her and said "Oh that was probably a very nice place" even though right before she knew I went she was about to fuss like grandmothers do (Well at least ours). They never understand when we say 4 out of 5 the things we do & places we go be it sacred or secular, I was the planner or at least invited her. Rarely is it her idea. Even sometimes when it was her idea, it was just an idea, then I made the idea an action. Reasons why my mother doesn't think the way her family does about my or my sister's friends. She says (In love because people love/like my mom) all the time "If you hang with my heathen children, you are the same heathen. Why? You Chose to hang with my heathen child".
I guess I rather them think no matter what I do I am still a good girl. It's better than the people who thought I was a good girl see me outside that angled lens and feel betrayed, like I was hiding the "real" me. Yeah, I have those also. They bother me because I have to actually tell Adults "You should not have boxed me into the frame you Thought I would fit". I should not have to. It’s Not My Business!!! I think some of those people think I'm a "Stuck up B-word" also. Oh well. LoL Who said it? Yep, Not. My. Business!
Maybe "Not My Business!!!" will be the title of my reality show. It's Catchy!
The next time someone says “Tell me about yourself” I might tempt fate and ask "Which Lens do you want to look through"? and wait for their response. I really won't care because I believe "What others think of me is Not My Business", but it would be fun to do. LoL
Tuesday, August 28, 2012
A Cute Comfortable Fashion Blog
"You Must Suffer for Fashion" "Fashion is Pain" Why do people believe those things? People especially us Ladies, are literally putting our bodies in pain to wear the hottest shoes & clothes. Stilettos are stabbing the foot in heel and pinching the toes causing bunions. There are a brand of shape wear out that are worn so tight it literally shifts internal organs out of place. Garments that pinch the skin so hard that the blood vessels & capillaries burst.
Why?
I don't believe in wearing anything that causes pain. I can't do pain for my fashion. I dress as cute as my comfort level will allow. Jimmy Choo & Christian Louboutin are cute to look at but you can't put enough Dr. Scholls gel pads in to make them not hurt. And at those prices, they should come with built in relief. Now that I blogging Dr. Scholl should make a comfortable yet stylish shoe.
I'm not saying we should wear lounge wear 24/7. Nor should you let gut hang, stretch, or poke through. I just don't think hurting the body to be fashionable is not smart. I refuse to Layer girdles on top of each other to even smoother in an outfit. One is enough. Plus I like for my blood to circulate. I will not to wear a shoe so high my blood pressure goes up. I won't wear panties that get caught in crevices, nooks & crannies and bacteria sets up.Yes, I wear flesh tone sandal-foot stockings with open toe shoes. My feet sweat and I don't do blisters. (I said sandal-foot & not reinforced toe There is a difference Learn it.) If my feet are tired but I'm going out, they are going into a lower wedge. If I'm grocery shopping I'm wearing classic fit jeans, not jeggings or skinny ones with cotton briefs.
Relax the body sometimes. Let's look Good but Healthy also. Maybe Dr. Scholl should get in the High Heel game. I wonder if they tried and it was not up to their comfort standards. Umm interesting?
Why?
I don't believe in wearing anything that causes pain. I can't do pain for my fashion. I dress as cute as my comfort level will allow. Jimmy Choo & Christian Louboutin are cute to look at but you can't put enough Dr. Scholls gel pads in to make them not hurt. And at those prices, they should come with built in relief. Now that I blogging Dr. Scholl should make a comfortable yet stylish shoe.
I'm not saying we should wear lounge wear 24/7. Nor should you let gut hang, stretch, or poke through. I just don't think hurting the body to be fashionable is not smart. I refuse to Layer girdles on top of each other to even smoother in an outfit. One is enough. Plus I like for my blood to circulate. I will not to wear a shoe so high my blood pressure goes up. I won't wear panties that get caught in crevices, nooks & crannies and bacteria sets up.Yes, I wear flesh tone sandal-foot stockings with open toe shoes. My feet sweat and I don't do blisters. (I said sandal-foot & not reinforced toe There is a difference Learn it.) If my feet are tired but I'm going out, they are going into a lower wedge. If I'm grocery shopping I'm wearing classic fit jeans, not jeggings or skinny ones with cotton briefs.
Relax the body sometimes. Let's look Good but Healthy also. Maybe Dr. Scholl should get in the High Heel game. I wonder if they tried and it was not up to their comfort standards. Umm interesting?
Okay Blame KimYe for This Blog
Okay so the topic question "Does Your SO Have a Say in Your Wardrobe" has been running around in Pop News lately. All because Kanye West went through his girlfriend's Kim Kardashian closest and got rid of what he didn't approve of and it was shown on the E! reality show. I even asked some of my friends the question. It was not shocking that 3/5 of my friends said No. I wasn't even shocked at the 2 who said yes.
I say No also. Opinions & Suggestions and fine But unless the outfit is Inappropriate for the occasion my SO doesn't get a say.
What shocks some was the fact that I said "It actually grates my nerves to have to dress an Adult, all the time". It really does. It was hard but I had to learn to gauge if I'm going to have to dress a guy early in a dating rapport. It the answer seems like YES, I need dude to lose my number (Don't actually say that. People told me to say that is rude. Whatever). It's not limited to just guys I date. Any Adult!!! I just don't understand telling an Adult man that his "Good Black Jeans" are not appropriate Wedding Wear. If he has jeans he should own khakis or dark colored slacks. One shouldn't have to tell an Adult woman Not to show cleavage in the workplace. That's what camisoles and tank tops are for. It is sad that many social club have to have a dress code. But when I look in the crowd in this "Shirts with Collars only for men" club and it is a sea of polos I want to scream. No one owns a nice casual oxford (buttoN up) shirt in this joint. It's just as sad that you have to tell Ladies not wear a mini skirt to the Family dinner. Honey put on your toe toucher, Gramps don't want to see your tail.
So yes it is nerve wrecking to me to have to tell people how to dress. And I refuse to do it. Maybe I am the extreme opposite of Kanye. He has to control the wardrobe. I am trying to say a little as possible.
I say No also. Opinions & Suggestions and fine But unless the outfit is Inappropriate for the occasion my SO doesn't get a say.
What shocks some was the fact that I said "It actually grates my nerves to have to dress an Adult, all the time". It really does. It was hard but I had to learn to gauge if I'm going to have to dress a guy early in a dating rapport. It the answer seems like YES, I need dude to lose my number (Don't actually say that. People told me to say that is rude. Whatever). It's not limited to just guys I date. Any Adult!!! I just don't understand telling an Adult man that his "Good Black Jeans" are not appropriate Wedding Wear. If he has jeans he should own khakis or dark colored slacks. One shouldn't have to tell an Adult woman Not to show cleavage in the workplace. That's what camisoles and tank tops are for. It is sad that many social club have to have a dress code. But when I look in the crowd in this "Shirts with Collars only for men" club and it is a sea of polos I want to scream. No one owns a nice casual oxford (buttoN up) shirt in this joint. It's just as sad that you have to tell Ladies not wear a mini skirt to the Family dinner. Honey put on your toe toucher, Gramps don't want to see your tail.
So yes it is nerve wrecking to me to have to tell people how to dress. And I refuse to do it. Maybe I am the extreme opposite of Kanye. He has to control the wardrobe. I am trying to say a little as possible.
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