Straight to Women

Just read an article on Clutch Magazine. Topic was "She's Tired of Men... Now On To Women". Click  Here to Read. My mind got to turning & swirling. Because I Think this topic has always been utter B.S. Wait, Wait, First, Let me answer question personally.

No, because I know I am Heterosexual. For me to do that would say I'm desperate not to be lonely. If I'm tired I'm tired. So it's time to step away for a while or forever. Maybe companionship is not in the cards for me. I will stop dating before I date a woman. That's my Honest answer.

This is one of the topics that proves that humans are liars. Who do we lie to the most? Ourselves!!!

Yes Lies to yourself. Answer these set  question honestly. What about men makes you tired?  Have you ever thought about the men you are dating? Attracting?

Yes, there are MANY trifling men out there. So many that there are days I wonder is trifling the norm and decency is the flaw. I'm serious. I could fill a half-way house with the liars, dawgs, & general a-holes that I've dated. But just as screwy these guys can make you ummm if you don't work on yourself screwy you can stay.

Next set of questions. Again Honest answers only. Are you really attracted to women? Could you be bisexual? Are you aware women have issues also. Are you aware Humans have the ability to be trifling.
I know a lady who decided to date women after dating men. Recently she decided to be honest and realize she was not attracted to women. It occurred to her that her girlfriend(s) always had to initiate sex. In her relationships with women she would have All of the same type of fights and I think at a more frequent rate as she did with men.  If you're not interested in women, why date one. That's is lying to that woman. She would like to date someone whose interested. Wasting her time. I'm pretty sure she's would rather you knew sexuality before dating her.  And yes, lesbian have arguments, fights, and issue also. Lesbians cheat, lie, and can be a-holes too. Umm, hello they are human!!!

Last questions to honestly answer.  Do you give space in between relationships/rapports? Are changing your dating style and/or approach? Are you Lonely?

So many people (men & women) are so lonely out there. Lonely to the point that they will try and settle for anything. People, we can't be that lonely in life! That how the dating predators slip in. Loneliness make you vulnerable. Find what it's like to date you before dating anyone else for a while. Heal yourself. Check for scars, scrapes, bullet wounds,and well sometimes the bullet before getting back out there to date. While you out of the game keep tabs on so you won't be awkward when you come bad.  I do it all the time.

All I Want You To Do Is:

VOTE

In my opinion Non-voters Should Not Complain and Whine when things are not going the way they think they should. If the Affordable Health Care Act is repealed, a non-voter does not get to complain. If Homosexual marriage becomes Federal Law, a non-voter should not be in protest. If all clinics that provide abortions close or taxes increase for the wealthy and decrease for the poor and middle class a non-voter's voice is one that should not be heard.

Want to be heard, It starts in the Voter's Booth.

I don't care who you vote for. I just care that you VOTE

IDK...A Very Random Blog

Have you ever thought about the random conversations you have with strangers? This past weekend I did and I had to laugh to myself. On top of people telling me to smile (my "blank/nothing is going on look" draws concern somehow) all the time, random people will strike up a conversation with me. Yes, I am friendly most times. Rarely do I give them the "shut up" look.

This past Friday I was at a happy hour (yes, where shapewear needs to be enforced) and since I couldn't find my brown clutch bag that matched my outfit, I just went with my coin purse that has my keys & pepper spray hooked to it. I do it a lot. I carried that more than I did on campus during undergrad. I mean it was where my ID and essentials go everyday, so thought nothing of it. Well this man standing by the table asked me was that mine. I said yes. He then started talking about how bold I was to bring it inside. I had to tell him that it was hooked to my small purse & keys. Then he asked did I ever use it and hoped I did spray it in there. I finally said only if forced to. His buddy walked up and that was the end of that.

I know very random. Maybe he was sprayed before and had a fear of the stuff. Maybe that was the first time he had ever seen pepper spray indoors. Bless his heart!!!

But thinking over that lead me to think about all the conversations that are had with strangers. Along with the many memories that flowed. My mind started asking questions. What have I learned? What have I taught? How many strangers have I spoken with? How many should I have spoken to? How many will I speak to in the future?

Of course I didn't know the answer. Life's end might. And if it doesn't, "Oh Well". Just something else random in our "meaningful lives".

Oh Yeah Enjoy the Poem. Heard it a few years ago on Myspace. I like it!!!

A Fashion Rant & Announcement

Announcement 1st: I am going to Stop investing girdles & shapers and invest in cheap tight fitting dresses and let it all hang out! Because apparently it is the fashionable thing to do.

Now the topic of this rant is not a surprise. I am tired of seeing women in tight fitting clothing without the proper foundation garments. This is not just to the Plus Size community. This is for Any woman who has an extra pudge on their body somewhere. It's like woman are not even trying to look decent.

Foundation garments are bras, girdles (capris, long leg, boxers, & brief panties, thong), shaping slips, shaping camisoles, waist cinchers, bustiers, and corsets. Foundation garments also come in firm, moderate, and light controls. They help you look smoother in your clothing. They can be bought so many stores that sell clothing & lingerie, from Walmart to Neiman Marcus.

I went out last night for happy hour and I literally saw a woman who I actually thought was pregnant. She wore about a 10 dress size, minus the tummy. But the way she dropped it on the dance floor, I knew clearly she could not be pregnant. She was wrong for wear a dress for tight it hugged around her stomach like that. Her boots were banging though. She was not the only one. Everywhere they is some woman who could look smoother is her clothing. Even on TV!!! I was watching Say Yes to the Dress and many times I wonder why are they trying on dresses without all their undergarments. Then, I see some once they are picking up their dresses and some getting married and I think "Cute Dress but she needed a girdle".

I'm not a fan of tight fitting clothes. I know I go a little extreme to some. I wear a moderate hold brief under my jeggings. Bought some and knew immediately which kind of shapers it needed. I spent more in foundation underwear in a year than I do in shoes. It is something I don't cut corner for. And don't let me see a sale. I'll go broke trying to buy more than one color or style. The only thing I want hugging on my body are the arms nice looking man. LoL

I've been wanting to say this for a while. Others including experts and style watchers have talked about it. It needs to stop. Come on Ladies, Let's Looks Smoother!!!

Paddling Not Abuse

Well in Springtown, TX (Parker County) two teenage girls were paddled by a male assistant principal for wrong doings. The school had permission by the parents but by school policy the male was not suppose to spank the females. If that is policy then I agree. Also the girls' paddling resulted in bruising on their bottoms. Most men have the ability to hit harder than women. So yeah that was a terrible thing. But the reactions from this is worse.

I'm a Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child depending on situation type non-parent. And to hear people complaints about corporal punishment is lost on me most times. Because some of these complaints are reaching. One woman said that the Male assistant principal paddling the Girls was teaching Boys It's Okay to hit Girls. WHOA! That is a bit much, IMO. I can't agree with that.

Okay so a father shouldn't spank his daughter if warranted because it teaching domestic violence is right. UMM NO! Parents are EQUALS. Parents & Children are NOT EQUALS. If a child or adult have that attitude or mindset, I think an equality lesson needs to be taught. That what wrong in so many cases. Children think they are adults' peers. Many adults have supported this attitude. Adults have the right to discipline (Not Abuse) children. Spanking is a form of discipline just like time out. Adults don't have the right to spank other adults. Children don't have the right discipline children. I think that needs to be taught to everyone. Because if a male spanking a female child is teaching a male child to hit females we are in a world of trouble.

I don't want a man that abuses women to use that as a lame excuse for his actions. "My dad spanked my sister". "But did he hit your Mom a*k*a his equal"? "No"! "Exactly! Now Shut up with that Crap!"
Stop this attitude. I want hear that again. But Some feel spanked children grow up to be more aggressive adults. I know some people who can shoot that theory to hell.

Unfortunately those young ladies were bruised & the policy was not up held. But that should have stayed the focus of this case, instead spouting opinions about corporal punishments and domestic violence.

Male assistant principal shouldn't have spanked the female students because of school policy and the female students wouldn't have been bruised. Nothing more needed! But that my opinion, what's yours?

So Your Child Has a Tattoo...

Okay a news report came out about a parent getting arrested in North Texas because their child had received a tattoo. The tattoo artist was arrested also. The tattoo the children received was not her first tattoo, it's her third.

I say they should be arrested. I don't understand it is unlawful for anyone under 18 to get a tattoo. Yet it is very visible that law is not being upheld. The rise of tattoos in high school seems unreal. I remember when I was in high school and Seniors who got a tattoo for their birthdays would hide theirs from school officials and many cases parents. I didn't know anyone under 18 with a tattoo. If they did I bet their parents didn't know. Now tattoos are as fashionable as jewelry on young people. Many parents are going with the children to get the tattoos. This is why many in this generation are not excited to grow up. They are already Too Grown!!! What's left to look forward to when you've done it already. *sigh*

If parents are arrested for giving their children under 21 alcohol, a parent should be arrest for allowing their child to have a tattoo. The law is the law.

My 9-11 Remembrance (Blame Country Thug for this Blog)

Like many Americans, September 11, 2001, is a very somber day to remember. I remember where I was when the WTC went down. I was at Lamar University in Beaumont, Tx, still a nursing major, staying in the dorms called Units. I didn't have class until 2:30 pm (Finger Spelling) so I was watching Little House on the Prairie, wondering about what to wear that day. Then my show was cut off. I don't know how long it took me to figure out what I was watching but I know I saw the 2nd tower go down as it was happening. I was in shock. I couldn't figure out if it was an accident or what.  Then I sat and listen and found out the plane had been hijacked. Then the tears flowed. I had to turn off the TV and turn a CD on, Probably the WOW Gospel 2000 CD 2 because I had that in heavy rotation back then and prayed. I finally got dressed to meet my friends for lunch.

Then the unthinkable happened on my way to class. These guys, one of them liked to call himself, Country Thug (*sigh* Yes, I'm serious) were ticked off because they heard from their friends at Stephen F. Austin & Prairie View Universities that they were canceling classes and that Lamar needed to follow suit. I was appalled. Planes of people had lost their lives and they were upset because their lazy tails didn't want to go to class. Trust me, they were not concerned about the safety of the school. The Library at the time was the tallest building on campus and it was just 6 floors. They were concern about kicking it for the rest of the day.  I had to remove myself from the scene. I was already known as a stuck-up chick from Dallas (later I found out my formal name slur was Dyme Piece) & now they were about to see that side reserved for real special idiots And well, that day was not the appropriate day. It needed to be peaceful. So, I let them look like petty fools. My annoyance grew for them when I got home after 6 and I found out about the planes crashing in Pennsylvania & the Pentagon. Intellectual Diva, one of my best friends lived in Washington D.C. I worried until I saw a map on the news. But still, there were more lives lost, and these guys, that I probably called jackals, were worried about...

A few times when I am in the airport, while being check thoroughly for WMD's, I think about Country Thug and his pals (Oh my first name is of Sanskrit origin so I get "randomly" checked 3:5 times. being black helps sometimes). I hope by now they see how petty their concerns were compared to the lives and resources that cost this country. I hope they realize how Thankful they should have been that day that it was not them. I hope they realize how Thankful they should've been that the only concern of theirs was that school didn't close. So here's to all the "Country Thugs" out there. Hope you have a different outlook on September 11, 2001.

Remember 9-11

Never Shall Forget

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms