Monday, June 20, 2016

My Underrated Black Music Artist List (It's Black Music Month)


Yep, it is Black Music Month! To commemorate I decided to make two opinionated list. The Underrated music artists.

Now, let me define Underrated.The artists that pop culture just plays with and never give them shine. Some of you guys see them but because you have to move from the machine that tells you what is cool, sometime you ignore them. Oh, the video on top? That's just my latest overplayed song on my playlist. It is called
Purse First" by Bob the Drag Queen. He won this past season on RuPaul's Drag Race. He's black. And I am a fan.
My grandfather told me a story of a church musician that really challenged them to sing. Her complaint was, "All y'all wanna do is pat your a-word and holler". Isn't that what go goes for today's music. Well, 'Purse First" does that to me so, Enjoy!!!

5. Kem  I can't explain why he is underrated. He has a nice voice and his music seems very universal. I love" I Can't Stop Loving You" & "Share My Life". It was weird when I heard him more as a ringtone on my sister's phone than I did on the radio. Now, I am feeling him as a feature on Gregory Porter's song Hold On.

4. Tweet This past week she was the topic of this week's Being. I missed it because I was out but everyone I asked about was so eager to talk about who she is currently dating. Umm excuse my gossip craze, she has a new album out called Charlene. And Won't Hurt Me is great. So many (included me) have said, we wished Tweet come out with one more good album. Tweet is good. I knew it when I heard her harmonize some lyrics in "Motel".
♫Go to hell baby
Cause I know I saw you go into a motel♫
OMG, I was a fan. Now, she has a new album. ♫Do whatever you feel you gotta do it♫ but stop sleeping on Tweet.

3. Raheem Devaughn Y'all are funny. He sings the perfect balance of sex & love. He had song called "BOB" (Battery Operated Boyfriend) on an album. He even had a real raunchy video to the song, "Single" come out a few years ago. Even K. Michelle put you guys onto When You Love Someone and thought y'all loved her whatever popular reality show she is on. Maybe he's going to ditch the love stuff, smack the "Customer" on her butt while she is a BOB. But then I won't like her. Don't change Raheem, never mind.

2. Corinne Bailey Rae All music can't make you feel good. I feel like that church musician for earlier, Yes, I a fan from the start with "Put Your Records On". My rollers sets were called The Corinne Bailey Rae at that time.
I loved that she melodically sung her pain in "Do It All Again". Her husband had just die and I understood. While she telling people even though all this happening, she is still not giving up on love, folks were complaining that it was to dark. *sigh*  Rae went away and while the masses are sipping Lemonade, she is dropping music. Have you seen Green Aphrodisiac? No, you haven't because nobody is wondering why she is wearing or holding a gold marijuana plant. I have and I have questions. I think the song is about being high on life.

1. Lalah Hathaway Let this woman win another Grammy in ceremonies earlier than the live show and I will scream. I know "But she has the awards". Lalah Hathaway should be winning the awards that are seen by the masses. Y'all know my favorite singer is Twinkie Clark. Lalah Hathaway is next. Her song is pure & innovative. Y'all know I love that in an artists. I have been a fan of her since the 90's when, she came out with Baby Don't Cry. Back when she snapped her fingers & did the side to side step the whole video. Her voice is hear in some many genres from Gospel to Jazz. Have you heard her version of "Ultimate Relationship". You will cry out "My God". Lalah's voice should be heard on not just Adult Contemporary radio but Pop radio. Mirror is out, now. I wish the masses would stop hiding their ears, so they could hear her.

If I could have honorable mentions, it would be Luke James & Michelle Williams. 

So, this is my list of the Top 5 Underrated Black Music Artists that I Love. I hope you guys go listen to them, if you don't already. Who's on your list? Leave then in the comments below.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms


Friday, June 17, 2016

A Blog Highlight!!!

This probably a 1st because I never made a post about pubbing a blog. I follow so many but this one is different.

Birthday Indulgence!
Chicken with Spinach & Carrots
Pinot Grigio sauce over Pasta
Roma tomatoes
Yesterday, was my birthday. Celebrated it in a Very adult responsible style (work, housework, cooking, lurking #BlackGuyNerds on Twitter). My Grandmother & mother gave me gifts. It was very nice and quaint birthday, so far. I had Birthday brunch & cake, Sunday and have two more events later. Then today, I got so very happy news.
So my friend, Pink Red started her own blog. And her introductory post included her telling me, I was the inspiration. I had no clue. I know she reads my posts. She's commented on a few of them. And am honored to be an inspiration. Guess that's what being yourself get you.

Well to tell her Thank You, I am "pubbing" her blog. She's just getting started with her introduction but I believe in her. If you think I am real, Pink Red or as she calls herself, ItzMeAllDay is going to be Real. I don't have Fake friends. So, go check her out at Random Babblings (if that link doesn't work here is the URL, http://randombabblingsofme.blogspot.com/) and support her.

Oh, her name will still be Pink Red on here. I worked hard to think of that name. That's a thesaurus researched name, LoL Check her out.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Wednesday, June 8, 2016

Answering My FAQs

So, I am heading into my 5th blogiversary and before year 4 ends I decided to answer my Frequently Asked Questions, in one post.

Will You Ever Reveal Your "Real" Name?
If you follow me on Twitter, I actually did last Thanksgiving (2015). I thought since I was grateful for being me, change your username for the day. So, I did. LoL There are only two ways I will state my biological name outside of  anything connected to offline land & Facebook. 1.When I passed away from this world & enter New Life, and if I still have a blog. a post will be released to say I, biological name aka OUTSPOKEN_DIVA has passed away. Dang, I guess I better write that post or at least put a note in my prayer diary for my loved ones to type one. 2. If/When I write my memoir, there will be an OUTSPOKEN_DIVA chapter. Oh and to the petty, messy jerk reading this that knows my bio name and wants to reveal before I do...
Speak in languages folks understand!

A Memoir, You Would Write Life Story?
Yeah, I really would if I have the opportunity(given or created by me). I even have a title. No, I will not tell you. This is the internet.

Why Do You Say "Biological Name"?
News Flash!!! I am a bit of a snob. Biological Name means the name that was given to me at birth. "Government Name" doesn't pertain to me. My dad named me not Uncle Sam. "Real Name" means that OUTSPOKEN_DIVA is not my real blog name.

How Big Are Your Breasts?
People who email me this question are usually trolls. BUT  if you are not my Lord or my husband & you wanted to know this answer go to this post right HERE. 

What Won't You Talk About?
Oh that is an easy question with many answers here are some:

  • I will Never reveal anyone I know in offline land biological name.
  • I will Never tease, make fun or be overly critical someone because of their religion, sexuality, gender, race or creed.
  • I will Never make a cruel post.
  • I will Never endorsement a political candidate. I don't care who you vote for just vote.
  • I will Never play pranks on here.
  • I will Never rate or review porn or sex toys of any kind.
  • I will Never post Nudity.

Does that answer that question?

Will You Ever Vlog?
I toy with that idea but my answer will be Not Today

So, now I have a question for you. Do you want me to another answer questions post? If so, Send me question to me email C.OUT.SPOKEN.DIVA@GMAIL.COM or as I always say, put them in the Comment sections

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Monday, June 6, 2016

Pop Culture's Misuse of Words: Female

Very Smart Brothas & Buzzfeed and others have brilliantly covered this subject (click the the names to read the articles. I've shared & re-posted them.
But I guess no one was reading these articles because the misused of Female keep being disgustingly increased by more & more people. So, now you have to read a blog post based on my know-it-all chatter.

So here are some definitions (And we thank Google):
Female: of or denoting the sex that can bear offspring or produce eggs, distinguished biologically by the production of gametes (ova) that can be fertilized by male gametes

Woman: the female human being, as distinguished from a girl or a man.

Girl: a female child from birth to adulthood

Lady: a woman (used as a polite or old-fashioned form of reference)

Male: of or denoting the sex that produces small, typically motile gametes, especially spermatozoa, with which a female may be fertilized or inseminated to produce offspring

Man: an adult human male or a human being of either sex; a person

Boy: a male child from birth to adulthood

Gentleman: a polite or formal way of referring to a man


People referring to woman as just female is not a new phenomenon to me. I grew up hearing numerous butt hurt, cynical men loitering around various stores, riding public transportation or loudly talking in barbershop or coed salons saying, "These females", "Females can", etc. It went along with all the other disrespectful activities including street harassment that they engaged in.
But now since that behavior is now a part of accepted pop culture (What's Cool), it is strangely easing into everyday conversation in the misuse of female is growing. About 4-5 years ago, I had to have this discussion with Alura, my niece. She was in high school and that was how she talked about girls she didn't like. She's grown age (18-20), now and she curbs the word around me most times but she still says it. Yes, I have hope in her. But the moment that made me type this post happened this past weekend. The star of a web show I really like, referred to the woman that he is in a committed relationship with as his female.Yes, he said "I Am Loyal to My Female". Previously in the interview discussion, the male co-host and he were already misusing female in their opinions about certain behaviors of women. But when he called the woman he’s dating that term, my mental brakes engaged. I almost reached through my phone to clamp his lips. Now, to my calming, his co-star, who is a woman verbally nudged him into saying lady or girlfriend. And he did.

Dear Future Boyfriend(s) and/or Husband,
Take heed! You get one time to refer to me as “My Female” or “The Female I am Dating or Married to” & I know about it. I’ll correct you once. The next time, be ready to verbal spar.

When you refer to a woman no matter how she is behaving to just a female, you have just reduced her to her biological reproductive parts. You don’t think crap about her but not confuse this person’s gender, her sex is her description. As if that woman doesn't have a heart or brain.
In the Buzzfeed article, the author makes a point. "Because nobody casually refers to men as males." What if men were talk about, mentioned based on having penis, scrotum, & testicle? That is what not only using female as the adjective (descriptive word) it says. Female can describe a human, an animal, or a plant. The proper (non-slang) definition of bitch is female dog. When alluding to a woman as just female, you may as well call her a bitch. Some of you all are using that word not to call a woman the slang version of that word anyway. So, recognize the negative take on this word.

I’m not trying to hit anyone of the head with respectability politic. I speak slang. I’ve also had screwy opinions about life that have changed. This is just my know-it-all opinion on how it makes many of us feel. Again I’ve basically heard the “female” used negatively my whole life. It is basically used to complain or disagree with the actions of a woman. When have you ever heard “These females can cook up a storm” or “Females are taking over that company”?
Record it when you do and send that to me. It’s like the attitude is Female are bad but Women are good. Make That Stop, now. Think about who all you are actually talking about when you use the word female. You are not talking about who you disagree with, but also who you agree with also. Oh and ladies if you use the term, you are included yourself, too

So, put some respect & respeck on Female. LoL It’s the disrespectful tone that is hurting us. It hurt us when it was just used in the streets. It is hurting us more since it didn’t die there. And until we stop inflicting pain on each other, I am Not finished, I am Not done.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms


Friday, June 3, 2016

My Ideal First Date

I don't know what I have been wasting my first date thoughts and time on but it gets tweaked now. Ok, to pass the time working on paperwork, budgets & blogging, I listen to podcasts & web-based talk shows. I am listening to one about the latest X-Men movie, now. Well, this weekend I was watching/listening to a show and ideal first dates came up. One of the guests described a breakfast date. Well, my mind started swirling with one question. When asked what would I like to do for a first date, why have I never said, Let's go to brunch.


I reduced going to dinner for a first date, some time ago. If dinner must be the first date, it has to be on a Friday, probably at a dinner & a movie theater, and the date must end by 8 pm. I'm not for that nightcap then too tired to drive and the foolishness it brings. The night is young. He's not too tired to go home. Plus, dinner dates have a lot of pressure on them. Most times I am tired and now I have to put on nicer clothes and pay attention. Breakfast is not a good time for me because I am not a morning person. Most days, I spend before 9 am not talking. If I am at home, my family of all adults is sleep. I get paperwork done or I am traveling to meet the client. If I have a client before 9 am, they are just dropping off their packets. So, many of my first dates are during the afternoon around lunchtime. And if it is during the week unless it is a holiday or we are both off, those are rushed and very direct. So, brunch is actually perfect for a date.

I love brunch! I go to brunch with family & friends a lot. I mean like I have more pictures & check-ins on Facebook at brunch.
My Bestie Boo, LJ got us ladies these shirts
That's TT & Love and didn't want to ask them permission to post the picture
LoL
Brunch has a much more casual, easygoing vibe. Especially a Sunday brunch, I probably been to church or at least watch an online service, so I am probably is a very good mood. Oh, and if the guy is a guy that goes church at the traditional 11 hours, there are brunch spots still serving until 3 or 4 pm. Brunch is casual without feeling frugal. There's a novelty to a brunch date that you don't get with dinner. Very few branches are expensive. I wouldn't dare suggest an extremely expensive place for a first date, That is gross.
Most restaurants that serve brunch, the food feels familiar without being dull. Also takes away from me, an omnivore (eat a balance of animal & plant-based food) to judge a possible carnivore. I mean who can turn down fruit salad. LoL If things are going well, we have time to hang out walk the meal off at a park or a mall. Alternatively, if things aren't going well, having important errands or a 3 o'clock service at church (so churchy) doesn't sound like an outlandish lie. And again unlike dinner, it is daylight. The chances of the guy wanting to make out or hook up are lessened. It is early enough for him to go home.

So, when I get asked to pick a date & time to go out for the first time, I will start suggesting brunch. I blame society's dating culture on blocking my view from a brunch date. I am enough of a society girl, why let it dictate when & where I go on a date. Now, I want some fruit salad.

 As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Pretty Language For Sexual Violence

I know my problem is that I am a Know-It-all but come on news media get it together. Y'all see the headlines.
Teacher arrested for improper relationship with student

Police investigating alleged student-teacher relationship

Man allegedly enters car to touch child 

Woman who had sex with son’s teenage friend headed to prison

Half Of Male College Athletes Admit History Of 'Sexually Coercive' Behavior

Aren't they worded cute? We use the prettiest words for rape & molestation. I wish these headlines just call a thing a thing like Iyanla Vanzant says. And these article headlines are not worded because of creativity. They are worded because our society thinks rape & molestation are harsh & ugly words to describe rape & molestation. And it is not just me. I am in good company on social media & even a few professional clients I have. 

The headlines of newest rape case out of Aldine, Tx, has been styled in such a way that is unruled. Read it Here. I know Ms. Teacher is convinced she was in a relationship. Of course she is, if not she would not have told the police that crud. But for the news media to report it that way is crazy to me. 

Society is not dumb. We know what rape & molest mean. But I can't blame the news media because we allow them to use these words. We allow that because we use them ourselves. As a child, I heard, well, overheard adults talking to one another about a child being touched so much it is unreal. "Yeah, they found the neighbor touching on those little boys". "They put her daughter in CPS because her brother was touching her". "You weren't touched as a child, were you"?  I know a lady in her 90s whose only opinion about teacher-student rape is, "Lord, this was going on when I was in school. The men teachers were going with the girls. And the lady teachers were going with the boys. The better learn to stop". So, the news is only using the words they think we, adult are comfortable with. And until we accept that an adult having a relationship with a child is rape, we will rarely read it like we do. Man allegedly enters car to molest child can never be a headline until we stop just saying touch. Maybe the crazy attitudes about might change when we use them as the synonyms to describe their heinous acts.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms

Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Juneteenth and the Heart That Doesn't Pump Soda (Healthy Holiday Recipes)

Okay, I am Black & Texan so, I have had my fair share of Juneteenth celebrations in my life. I remember my first Juneteenth concert. I was 12 and was going to see the R&B group Hi-Five at the Black Rodeo in Fair Park with my sister & her friends. I shaved & nicked my legs so I could look grown-up up. Then it started storming so, the concert got canceled. Yeah, I still shave (not nick) my legs. Because I am a grown-up. LoL

Oh, what is Juneteenth? Maybe somebody doesn’t know. Every year, I find another soul that doesn't know. Juneteenth is the oldest known celebration commemorating the ending of slavery in the United States. In 1862, the North won the Civil War and President Lincoln signed the Emancipation Proclamation that freed the slaves. It was effective January 1, 1863 (Research the history of Watch Night services in black churches) But the news didn’t reach Texas until June 19, 1,865 on the coast of Galveston. Yes, the news got to Texas, two years later. Texas was not a battle zone so, it took it a while. Yes, I am giving you the textbook version. *wink* You don't need my opinion (Shh! I might give it to you on Twitter). Juneteenth is a ceremonial celebration in Black communities, that was of course started in Texas that spread to the other states by former Texans. According to Wikipedia, In 1980, Texas was the first state to establish Juneteenth as a state holiday under legislation introduced by freshman Democratic state representative Al Edwards. Juneteenth is a "partial staffing holiday" in the state; government offices do not close but some employees use a "floating holiday" to take the day off. By 2008, nearly half of US states observed the holiday as a ceremonial observance. As of May 2014, when the Maryland legislature approved official recognition of the holiday, 43 of the 50 U.S. states and the District of Columbia have recognized Juneteenth as either a state holiday or ceremonial holiday, a day of observance. States that do not recognize it are Arizona, Hawaii, Montana, New Hampshire, North Dakota, South Dakota, and Utah.

Most Juneteenth festivities are small in comparison to other US observations. They may include rodeos, concerts, self-empowerment rallies & prayer services. Barbeque, fish, and lots of vegetable dishes are prepared in the many that our ancestors of the time may have prepared then. I know in my home we eat a soul food-like meal in observance. The most synonymous item to Juneteenth is Red Soda. And Yes, there is history to the soda. Slaves were free. They could get work & get paid. They could get married legally. And they could buy an expensive novelty, Red Soda Water (that’s what we call it here in DFW). Some say that the red is a symbol of the blood, the life force of the slaves. Last year, I was a judge for a Juneteenth food contest. I was actually judging vegetarian side dishes. Well, I wanted something other than the water, I was drinking to cleanse my palate between dishes. I forgot where I was and went looking for something other than Red soda water. Then I was disturbed. All this emphasis on healthy food dishes but the only drinks available are soda & water. So, I decided to make this blog post dedicated to those of us who want another option. A couple of the recipes even have a little sugar in them. But if you don’t consume sugar at all, just replace it with your choice of sweetening alternative.

No drink screams summer like Lemonade. The cut-up lemons look like little rays of sunshine. Little meanings of a new day for our freed ancestors. The "Red" soda that was coveted at the time was strawberry. Add strawberries to the lemons and make a crimson-colored, refreshing drink.

"Red" Lemonade
Ingredients
• 8 large strawberries, halved
• 2 tablespoons white sugar
• 7 cups water, divided
• 1 cup white sugar
• 2 cups freshly squeezed lemon juice

Directions
1. Place strawberries in a blender; top with 2 tablespoons sugar.
2. Pour 1 cup water over sugared strawberries.
3. Blend until strawberry chunks transform into juice.
4. Combine strawberry juice, 6 cups water, 1 cup sugar, and lemon juice in a large pitcher; stir until blended.
5. Chill before serving.

I love drinking Hibiscus tea, but I'm a tea drinker. I think I drink most teas except Southern sweet tea (Yep, I need some lemon in that) and Rooibos/Red Bush Tea (The good show, The No.1 Ladies' Detective Agency's choice in tea is sketchy) Hibiscus has a tart cranberry taste. And like ginger, hibiscus tea aids in digestion. It also helps lowers cholesterol & the treatment of hypertension (*hint, hint*). So if you serve this fresh drink, you'll be giving your guests a little health benefit also. 


Hibiscus-and-Ginger Iced Tea
Ingredients
• 1⁄2 cup water
• 1⁄2 cup sugar
• One 3" piece of fresh ginger, peeled and grated
• 4 hibiscus tea bags (I like TAZO)
• 8 cups water, room temperature
• Ice

Directions
Make the ginger simple syrup:
1. Combine the sugar and 1⁄2 cup of water in a 2-quart saucepan.
2. Bring to a boil and let syrup cook for 3 minutes, stirring until all of the sugar is dissolved.
3. Remove the pot from heat and add the grated ginger.
4. Let syrup cool completely and strain. Set the syrup aside.

Make the hibiscus tea:
1. In a 4-quart saucepan, pour 4 cups of water over the tea bags and place the pot over low heat.
2. Bring the water to a slow simmer and let cook for 5 minutes.
3. Turn off the heat and let the tea steep for another 5 minutes.
4. Strain into a pitcher and add in the remaining 4 cups of water.
5. Fill the pitcher with ice.

To serve, pour tea into glasses and stir in ginger syrup, sweetening to taste.

It's June and watermelon will be at most outside events. Yes, it being a fruit salad is typical but why not make it a cooling drink?

Watermelon Picnic Punch

Ingredients
• 1 oblong seedless watermelon (about 8 pounds) • ¾ cup fresh lime juice • 2 cups club soda For garnish: (optional) • Fresh mint • Lime slices

Directions
1. Slice the top sixth of your watermelon lengthwise using a sharp knife. (Don’t worry if it’s not exactly a sixth. Just cut a “lid” off that exposes enough of the melon to hollow it out easily, okay?)
2. Scoop out the flesh of the watermelon until the rind is left with minimal pink showing.
3. Save the watermelon hull to be used as a "Bowl"
4. In a blender or food processor, puree the watermelon in batches.
5. Strain the puree through a fine-mesh strainer, and discard the solids. It should make about 9 cups of watermelon juice.
6. Pour the watermelon juice back into the watermelon punch bowl. Add the lime juice and club soda and stir to combine.
7. Add ice to your sparkling watermelon punch bowl & ladle punch over ice and garnish with fresh mint and lime slices.

I never said that I didn’t drink soda. One day, I won’t but I try to limit myself to 4 a week. I just don’t like being limited to it.  If our ancestors knew how crappy that stuff was, they probably would not have consumed it. But they didn’t, we do. They lived & died for us not to be limited. So, let’s break free!!!

Oh, this the last post of Healthy Holiday Recipe series. I thank you all for coming by and letting me whet your palate with my little knowledge. You guys do Not know what kind of blessing you guys have been. I will bring another food-related series soon, so stay tuned.

As Always, Talking to You in Adult Terms!