Just got off the phone with another single friend talking about being on the dating market and dating lingo. What happened to "Will you be my Girlfriend"? When did "Hooking Up" mean We're Dating? When did there become a difference in dating each and in a relationship. Oh we went on and on pondering and laughing, It got me to thinking about changes in the dating game.
There is No Secret that I am "single not looking" more than I am "single and on the being found market", "single and casually dating around" or "single and in a dating relationship" (Umm, You're single until marriage, in my opinion) There various reasons like "emotional healing" or "hectic non dating life" that I take myself off the market. I don't believe in jumping into relationship right after another. I don't believe in being in relationship just to be in one. I'm not the lonely type.
But every time I put myself back on the market, I promise you the game has change somewhere and I have to adjust. Why does the game have to change? Dating should not have so many different rules to it. You should Meet, Like each other, Dating casually, Get in a serious relationship and Finally get married. Or if during one of those steps or phases you find out you're not compatible for any reason (religion, infidelity, values, education, work ethic, etc) you break up.
But for some odd reason somewhere it became not that simple as I stated. Now you meet someone and you have to do research on them before first or at least the second date. I understand because of people like married liars, and various catfish but how do you get to know somebody when you possibly know it all. You meet some one and have to wait a day or two to call not to seem eager. Being to eager might turn them off. But if you wait to long to call they might think you are not serious. Truth be told, If you wait to long to call me I might forget about you. I had to "Who are you" a guy before because he waited 3 weeks to call. Actually he texted me. And that is another thing, all these adult age people texting request for dates. Who started this crap? Make it stop! I should not have to tell anyone I don't accept text requested dates. I refuse to follow that trend. You want to go out with me, Open your mouth and ask me. For all I know the text request was sent to many and whoever answers first is who he is going out with. No sir, Not me! Call me!!!
If you are in a committed relationship or married, trust me you are so not missing anything in the dating world. Hopefully you knew that already. But no matter what game changes they throw my way, I endear. You can knock me down out of game. I just recharge and regroup because I always stick to my rules. If the games ever changing rules flow with my rules, then good for the game.
As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms!!!
Sunday, February 10, 2013
Friday, February 8, 2013
The Hair Debate
I told you all that there three social debates I honestly think are stupid. Skin tones in the black
race has already been discussed. One day I'll discuss Working/Stay-at-Home moms but today let me discuss Relaxed/Natural hair.
I wear a relaxer. I've had a relaxer since I was 5. I don't want to wear my hair any other way. That's my choice. My sister wears her hair in natural locks. She can't imagine wearing a relaxer ever again. That's her choice.
Who made the Good Hair choice?
If you said My sister of if you said me, you are wrong, in my opinion. We both made Good Hair choices.
I HATE the term Good Hair. If you have hair on your head that is not falling out of your head, it is Good Hair.
The hair debate makes me outraged. Straight hair is not better than Wavy hair. Wavy hair is not more comb-able than Natural Coiled hair. Natural Coiled hair is not healthier than Straight hair. We need to get that through our skulls to our brain. The fact must get lost in the hair.
Hair choice is a matter of opinion. Opinions are not right or wrong. So how someone wears their hair is not right or wrong.
Boy massa did a number on us again. Lincoln may have emancipated us but our brains are still enslaved when it comes to hair choices. Well I'm off the plantation. My relaxed bob is cute just like my sister's locks. Afros are cute. Bald heads are cute. Weaves & ringlets are cute just like close cut haircuts. I think all hair is Good Hair. That's Great!
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race has already been discussed. One day I'll discuss Working/Stay-at-Home moms but today let me discuss Relaxed/Natural hair.
I wear a relaxer. I've had a relaxer since I was 5. I don't want to wear my hair any other way. That's my choice. My sister wears her hair in natural locks. She can't imagine wearing a relaxer ever again. That's her choice.
Who made the Good Hair choice?
If you said My sister of if you said me, you are wrong, in my opinion. We both made Good Hair choices.
I HATE the term Good Hair. If you have hair on your head that is not falling out of your head, it is Good Hair.
The hair debate makes me outraged. Straight hair is not better than Wavy hair. Wavy hair is not more comb-able than Natural Coiled hair. Natural Coiled hair is not healthier than Straight hair. We need to get that through our skulls to our brain. The fact must get lost in the hair.
Hair choice is a matter of opinion. Opinions are not right or wrong. So how someone wears their hair is not right or wrong.
Boy massa did a number on us again. Lincoln may have emancipated us but our brains are still enslaved when it comes to hair choices. Well I'm off the plantation. My relaxed bob is cute just like my sister's locks. Afros are cute. Bald heads are cute. Weaves & ringlets are cute just like close cut haircuts. I think all hair is Good Hair. That's Great!
Always Talking to You in Adult Terms
Wednesday, February 6, 2013
SOS
I Hate celebrity gossip shows. All of them except one. It's called Dish Nation. It is hilarious to me. Well thanks to Dish Nation, I found out about SOS Condom Delivery. It's for people who are about to have intercourse but don't have protection and they can deliver Durex brand condoms to your location via a Website and an App.
In the age where AIDS, HIV, and other STD's are on a dangerous rise, I think this is a Great Idea. IMO, If a person uses this service means they being proactive about their sexual health and their life. I wish I had thought of it. *sigh* I really hope the sexually active use this service if they ever caught without protection. Don't just stay caught up in the moment and play sexual Russian Roulette.
SOS Delivery! Love the idea!!!
As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms
In the age where AIDS, HIV, and other STD's are on a dangerous rise, I think this is a Great Idea. IMO, If a person uses this service means they being proactive about their sexual health and their life. I wish I had thought of it. *sigh* I really hope the sexually active use this service if they ever caught without protection. Don't just stay caught up in the moment and play sexual Russian Roulette.
SOS Delivery! Love the idea!!!
As Always Talking to You in Adult Terms
Saturday, January 19, 2013
Rat-Ta-Tat-Tat not Buzz Buzz
Blame a fact about Alabama I read on Twitter for this blog. In Alabama to sell vibrators is illegal but selling guns is legal. That 2nd amendment is a force to be reckon with. You have the right to go Pow Pow but not the right to a Personal Shake (Yes, I laughed while I typed that).
Every time a shooting happens in this country the debate about gun control is sparked. I am in favor of stricter gun laws. It's unreal to me for anyone to be able to walk into a gun show and buy a gun with or without a proper background check. It's unreal to me that a gun can be sold in the same store that I can buy Hot Wheels for my nephew. It's unreal that a guy in my neighborhood can own the same fire arm power that my military has and he's never left the city let alone been in any war. If a hunter only hunt rabbits and bears, why does he need an AK-47? Are animals in the woods shooting back so a rifle can't do the job.? Have TV & Movies been lying to us all these years? These are some of the reasons why I think the current laws need to be enforced and a few more need to be added.
Opponents of stricter gun laws, like the NRA fight hard at leaving the laws the same. Funny part is, one does not hear of them encouraging the current laws to be properly enforced. They only voice an opinion when government wants to pull the reigns in, they start fearfully preaching about the precious 2nd amendment. No one is taking the right to bear arms away. Government is just trying to make sure the mentally healthy have the right. They are just trying to make sure people 21 year old and older have the right. They are just trying to make sure Gun owners are owning the right fire arms and using them properly. Bang Bang Bang on midnight New Years is not using the guns properly. Firing off into crowds is not using it properly. Shooting at a school, church, or movie theater is not proper use. When the NRA and other groups like them actually say that, then the should preach about the 2nd amendment.
Not a fan of guns but I'm a beast with mace and pepper spray. Guns don't scare me. Me having a gun, scares me. I have a strange feeling I would be trigger ready, which I think is dangerous to me. This country needs to safe. Can't have rights to buy a gun, a vibrator, or anything else, if all our heads are blown off.
*Always Talking to You in Adult Terms*
Every time a shooting happens in this country the debate about gun control is sparked. I am in favor of stricter gun laws. It's unreal to me for anyone to be able to walk into a gun show and buy a gun with or without a proper background check. It's unreal to me that a gun can be sold in the same store that I can buy Hot Wheels for my nephew. It's unreal that a guy in my neighborhood can own the same fire arm power that my military has and he's never left the city let alone been in any war. If a hunter only hunt rabbits and bears, why does he need an AK-47? Are animals in the woods shooting back so a rifle can't do the job.? Have TV & Movies been lying to us all these years? These are some of the reasons why I think the current laws need to be enforced and a few more need to be added.
Opponents of stricter gun laws, like the NRA fight hard at leaving the laws the same. Funny part is, one does not hear of them encouraging the current laws to be properly enforced. They only voice an opinion when government wants to pull the reigns in, they start fearfully preaching about the precious 2nd amendment. No one is taking the right to bear arms away. Government is just trying to make sure the mentally healthy have the right. They are just trying to make sure people 21 year old and older have the right. They are just trying to make sure Gun owners are owning the right fire arms and using them properly. Bang Bang Bang on midnight New Years is not using the guns properly. Firing off into crowds is not using it properly. Shooting at a school, church, or movie theater is not proper use. When the NRA and other groups like them actually say that, then the should preach about the 2nd amendment.
Not a fan of guns but I'm a beast with mace and pepper spray. Guns don't scare me. Me having a gun, scares me. I have a strange feeling I would be trigger ready, which I think is dangerous to me. This country needs to safe. Can't have rights to buy a gun, a vibrator, or anything else, if all our heads are blown off.
*Always Talking to You in Adult Terms*
Wednesday, January 9, 2013
The Fun in Funeral... Oh Yeah
LoL
I found the Hardcore "Reality" TV watcher's limit. Thy limit's name is Best Funeral Ever. Child, most of the people who watch All the "Wives", Love & Hip Hop, Honey Boo-Boo, etc have harsh words for this show. I find the comment hilarious. Oh I feel the same way but I have the same reaction to the popular reality shows, too.
I watched the "Reality" special. The Christmas Funeral was of a elementary/middle class mate. So I had tearful moment at the start but afterwards I was stunned. I can't stand for people to take pictures or videotape (unless a key person is absent) at funerals. So this was unnerving. But, The families ask and pay for this so Oh Well. And
No, non-DFW black people, this not how we funeralized our loved ones. I've gone to a funeral at Golden Gate and it was a "normal" funeral. And even Beckwith posted on Facebook, only 1% of his customers ask for those kind of funerals
Best Funeral Ever is real life version of a funeral home idea in a Comedy called "Undertaking Betty". That's the trailer above. I bet that's were Golden Gate got the idea from the "American" funeral home in the movie. Watch the movie and I know you will agree.
I read TLC is waiting for the ratings to see if they will make Best Funeral Ever into a regular show. Gosh let the ratings be low. The "Reality" special was interesting enough. Keyword is Enough!
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Thursday, January 3, 2013
My Chosen Family
I love the quote "Friends are the Family, God Let me Choose". I have a wonderful group of friends. God has really blessed me with great people in my life. I have 4 Best Friends and 6 Close Friends. More Like 4 siblings and 6 cousins.
Last year I had to end my longest friendship (Almost 25 years) ever. It took me actually a year and a half to end it because it hurt so bad. What was the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back? For the 2nd year, she didn't say "Happy Birthday" to me. That sounds petty but this was the only person for 10 years who knew not to call me right at Midnight on that day because I am praying. She always waited until 12:15 am.
I don't meet strangers but I didn't keep friends growing up. I look back on my younger life and I didn't have many true friends, just mostly family-approved children I socialized with. I had to admit she was just another one of those. Our older lives are so different and our friendship did not mirror the qualities possessed by my other friendships. It was time. It was becoming very one-sided. She probably ended her friendship with me years ago. Probably hasn't even noticed I chose to leave her life.
But over that year and a half, I noticed my friend's values and goals mirrored mine. My friend's basic lifestyles mirrored mine. Their standards mirrored mine. Their hearts mirrored mine. Their love for God mirrored mine.
That's not a coincidence. That's God! It's why nothing I say shocks these people into thinking I'm loony toons. It's why time, space, secrets or distance doesn't not define these friendships. I don't have a friend that I can't call to pray for me whenever about whatever. God knows who I need as friends and he knows who I need to be a friend to.
I thank God for my Friends. I don't take that title lightly. I hope I am a Friend to them as well as they are to me. I don't need to name names they know (Watch one of them say "No, I wanted my name called"). I love You Guys!!!
Last year I had to end my longest friendship (Almost 25 years) ever. It took me actually a year and a half to end it because it hurt so bad. What was the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back? For the 2nd year, she didn't say "Happy Birthday" to me. That sounds petty but this was the only person for 10 years who knew not to call me right at Midnight on that day because I am praying. She always waited until 12:15 am.
I don't meet strangers but I didn't keep friends growing up. I look back on my younger life and I didn't have many true friends, just mostly family-approved children I socialized with. I had to admit she was just another one of those. Our older lives are so different and our friendship did not mirror the qualities possessed by my other friendships. It was time. It was becoming very one-sided. She probably ended her friendship with me years ago. Probably hasn't even noticed I chose to leave her life.
But over that year and a half, I noticed my friend's values and goals mirrored mine. My friend's basic lifestyles mirrored mine. Their standards mirrored mine. Their hearts mirrored mine. Their love for God mirrored mine.
That's not a coincidence. That's God! It's why nothing I say shocks these people into thinking I'm loony toons. It's why time, space, secrets or distance doesn't not define these friendships. I don't have a friend that I can't call to pray for me whenever about whatever. God knows who I need as friends and he knows who I need to be a friend to.
I thank God for my Friends. I don't take that title lightly. I hope I am a Friend to them as well as they are to me. I don't need to name names they know (Watch one of them say "No, I wanted my name called"). I love You Guys!!!
Wednesday, January 2, 2013
The Revues are In...
Happy New Year!
Hope 2013 found you Keeping It Cute.
Diva is a little under the weather with the crud of the season. Since I'm actually bed-ridden, you know the opinions came streaming in.
I decided I better clear up an announcement I made over Social Media.
I'm Out_Spoken_Diva. So of course there are some things I do in life with a little flair, drama, and attention. This one, I decided to be just that do it Dramatically.
If you follow me on Twitter or was fortunate to be a part of the my personal conversations on Facebook You know as of Jan. 1st I Semi-Retired from the world Male Revue Watching. Yes, semi-retired. I'm realistic. I'm FBF with Revuers. Revuers and I follower each other on Twitter. And I am Pals with one in real life.
I am just limiting my viewing that's all. Umm mostly to FB and YouTube.
WHY?
1. It's cheaper. I remember back in 2008, 2009 A friend and I could be sharing the same $10 tip money leave and have money left over to hit a fast food place. Now not only are some of these shows cover fees higher, they have the nerve to have better Revuers with good shows worth the dollars. LoL The last Revue every revuer was good. Every revuer got some kind of tip. What happened to sorry revuers that let me keep my money or take a restroom break. LoL Yes, a restroom break.
2. The real reason! Okay before 2011, I was went to maybe 2 revues every 3 years. Now I have been to 4 revues in 2 years. I don't care if there are women that are at revues every week and weekend. That is a lot for me. I feel desperate to see...uh huh...that. Especially when I was at them on two consecutive birthdays. Yes, It was for someone else birthday event. Yes I plan the trip because a friend wanted to finally see a particular revuer Yes, It was a bestie's going away event. But I was still there. Heck I was the one doing the research & planning so we only went certain particular ones (Hello I said I was pals with a... I don't just go to any ol' show that's any and everywhere). I even think my conversation was leaning towards "Ooh girl DaDaDa is..." . Like I'm desperate to see it or something. And y'all know I'm not even like that. Time to reel it in some.
Now by my math I'm suppose to be Semi-Retired for about 6 years. I could do it. I mean y'all know I've gone without Chocolate for over twice as long. I Liked, Really Liked Chocolate. But I not going to say 6 years. I'm going to stay Semi-Retired until I get "The Diva's" priorities back in "Diva" fashion (Yep, Quiet and Calm). It could be tomorrow or never I go to another show. As long as I get that part of my life in shaped up to my standards.
Yeah I'll miss it. Y'all know I like a good show. The more creative, the better. Anybody can gyrate to a R. Kelly song or Body Freak some random lady to 2 Chainz's Birthday Song. But a Revuer that Does a HeadStand under waterfall of bady oil & milk to I Have Nothing by Whitney Houston or Do Body Ticks and Splits all over a stage to a Techo song gets the dough. But I have pull the reigns in before this horse runs wild in my life. People can invite me to them. If you are planning to go to one, please invite me. That helps me know my progress. Just don't be shocked if I decline because I'm still Semi-Retired
So the Revues are in. I am out until I let you know I'm back in.
As always Talking to you in Adult Terms... *wink*
Hope 2013 found you Keeping It Cute.
Diva is a little under the weather with the crud of the season. Since I'm actually bed-ridden, you know the opinions came streaming in.
I decided I better clear up an announcement I made over Social Media.
I'm Out_Spoken_Diva. So of course there are some things I do in life with a little flair, drama, and attention. This one, I decided to be just that do it Dramatically.
If you follow me on Twitter or was fortunate to be a part of the my personal conversations on Facebook You know as of Jan. 1st I Semi-Retired from the world Male Revue Watching. Yes, semi-retired. I'm realistic. I'm FBF with Revuers. Revuers and I follower each other on Twitter. And I am Pals with one in real life.
I am just limiting my viewing that's all. Umm mostly to FB and YouTube.
WHY?
1. It's cheaper. I remember back in 2008, 2009 A friend and I could be sharing the same $10 tip money leave and have money left over to hit a fast food place. Now not only are some of these shows cover fees higher, they have the nerve to have better Revuers with good shows worth the dollars. LoL The last Revue every revuer was good. Every revuer got some kind of tip. What happened to sorry revuers that let me keep my money or take a restroom break. LoL Yes, a restroom break.
2. The real reason! Okay before 2011, I was went to maybe 2 revues every 3 years. Now I have been to 4 revues in 2 years. I don't care if there are women that are at revues every week and weekend. That is a lot for me. I feel desperate to see...uh huh...that. Especially when I was at them on two consecutive birthdays. Yes, It was for someone else birthday event. Yes I plan the trip because a friend wanted to finally see a particular revuer Yes, It was a bestie's going away event. But I was still there. Heck I was the one doing the research & planning so we only went certain particular ones (Hello I said I was pals with a... I don't just go to any ol' show that's any and everywhere). I even think my conversation was leaning towards "Ooh girl DaDaDa is..." . Like I'm desperate to see it or something. And y'all know I'm not even like that. Time to reel it in some.
Now by my math I'm suppose to be Semi-Retired for about 6 years. I could do it. I mean y'all know I've gone without Chocolate for over twice as long. I Liked, Really Liked Chocolate. But I not going to say 6 years. I'm going to stay Semi-Retired until I get "The Diva's" priorities back in "Diva" fashion (Yep, Quiet and Calm). It could be tomorrow or never I go to another show. As long as I get that part of my life in shaped up to my standards.
Yeah I'll miss it. Y'all know I like a good show. The more creative, the better. Anybody can gyrate to a R. Kelly song or Body Freak some random lady to 2 Chainz's Birthday Song. But a Revuer that Does a HeadStand under waterfall of bady oil & milk to I Have Nothing by Whitney Houston or Do Body Ticks and Splits all over a stage to a Techo song gets the dough. But I have pull the reigns in before this horse runs wild in my life. People can invite me to them. If you are planning to go to one, please invite me. That helps me know my progress. Just don't be shocked if I decline because I'm still Semi-Retired
So the Revues are in. I am out until I let you know I'm back in.
As always Talking to you in Adult Terms... *wink*
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